Relationship Advice Thread

[MetSox17]

Yeah, you definitely don't need her feeling like you're putting more pressure on her than she already has. Like you said, she hasn't had the greatest history in her prior encounters, so she's completely justified in pacing herself with you. You need to try and get your mind off of whether you feel the relationship is progressing at the pace you would ideally like, as it is not up to you. Bringing it up to her attention might make her feel you're unhappy with where you're at and it could cause more harm than anything.

Just my $.02

[killxswitch]

See I don't want to rush her on this. It hurts that I don't feel she trust me, but it's something I can deal with if all she needs is time to see that I'm really not going to mistreat her and hurt her.


Just remember that her feelings are not more important or valid than yours. If you think giving her some time will help, do it. But don't be too passive about it if it does not improve with time. You don't deserve to pay the price for what some other asshole has done to her in the past.

[bearsfan_51]

To be fair, I think this bears repeating, a few months really isn't that long of a time.

I don't want to cast judgement because I don't know you, but if you can't go a few months without knowing the most intimate aspects of her life, you might have some insecurity or trust issues too. Sometimes we want people to give everything to us right away because it makes us feel more secure ourselves (i.e. I met her kid so now she's less likely to leave me)

[Rosebud]

To be fair, I think this bears repeating, a few months really isn't that long of a time.

I don't want to cast judgement because I don't know you, but if you can't go a few months without knowing the most intimate aspects of her life, you might have some insecurity or trust issues too. Sometimes we want people to give everything to us right away because it makes us feel more secure ourselves (i.e. I met her kid so now she's less likely to leave me)

Agreed, it's not a big issue for me, or at least wouldn't have been if not for some of the things she's said about guys that set me off worrying about whether she thought that way about me to or whether she made an exception for me. Since this my first normal relationship, one where I started datig the girl before we were friends or boning, I have been freaking myself out over things that I know I shouldn't be the instant I actually verbalize them or think them through.

[bearsfan_51]

Just relax and be a good dude. If she doesn't like that, fudge her.

[djp]

Is it wrong/selfish that I don't want one of my best friends to date one of my girlfriend's best friends? I just don't want to blur the line between my friends and my girlfriend that much. Then, if that sours, I have to hear about the problems from both my buddy and my girlfriend via her friend. It's already annoying enough that they have a "thing". I don't know, it just makes me uncomfortable for whatever reason. I have nothing to hide from past relationships or anything like that, so I don't really know what it is that bothers me so much about it

[A Perfect Score]

Is it wrong/selfish that I don't want one of my best friends to date one of my girlfriend's best friends? I just don't want to blur the line between my friends and my girlfriend that much. Then, if that sours, I have to hear about the problems from both my buddy and my girlfriend via her friend. It's already annoying enough that they have a "thing". I don't know, it just makes me uncomfortable for whatever reason. I have nothing to hide from past relationships or anything like that, so I don't really know what it is that bothers me so much about it

I've been in this exact situation before. When I started dating my ex, she obviously brought her friends around more and more, and one of my buddies started dating her best friend. Naturally, everything was ok when their relationship was ok, but as soon as things got rocky between the other couple, all of a sudden I was hearing about it from all angles. Definitely annoying and I absolutely sympathize, but at the same time they're grown ups and are entitled to do whatever the hell they want to. It was even more annoying when the other couple broke up before we did, that was a pain in the ass too.

[Hines]

Is it wrong/selfish that I don't want one of my best friends to date one of my girlfriend's best friends? I just don't want to blur the line between my friends and my girlfriend that much. Then, if that sours, I have to hear about the problems from both my buddy and my girlfriend via her friend. It's already annoying enough that they have a "thing". I don't know, it just makes me uncomfortable for whatever reason. I have nothing to hide from past relationships or anything like that, so I don't really know what it is that bothers me so much about it

I'd be more worried about trying to compete with the best friend. Like, if your best friend does something better than you, and your gf notices, that could bring problems. Personally, if they want to date, it's none of your business, but I can understand why you wouldn't like that.

[bearsfan_51]

Is it wrong/selfish that I don't want one of my best friends to date one of my girlfriend's best friends? I just don't want to blur the line between my friends and my girlfriend that much. Then, if that sours, I have to hear about the problems from both my buddy and my girlfriend via her friend. It's already annoying enough that they have a "thing". I don't know, it just makes me uncomfortable for whatever reason. I have nothing to hide from past relationships or anything like that, so I don't really know what it is that bothers me so much about it
Of course it's selfish. It's also totally logical.

[killxswitch]

I understand the reasons but there's nothing you can do about it. Just make it known early that you aren't getting involved in any relationship drama.

[djp]

Thanks. We will see what happens. Hopefully it all blows over within a couple weeks or so. Just so annoying right now.

[BlindSite]

Met someone friday night who had a sister my mate chatted up, really cool chick who I actually had a really good conversation with, one of the first times that's happened with someone I wasn't friends with. Taking her to dinner on wednesday night.

[eaglesalltheway]

Alright... Someone needs to help me find the logic in this, if there is any (Dealing with a female, so there already is almost no hope)...

What would cause a chick who I have never met to message me on FB, straight off the bat say we should hang out (I asked her number, could tell right away that's where it was going), then after no less than three texts, proceed to tell me she is down for anything when we get back to her place? And then after proceeding to tell me all of this, cancel last minute the first night, reschedule for the next night, then cancel last minute, reschedule for the next night, then not repond at all on the third night?

The funny thing is, I don't really care, I've never met this chick at all. I haven't texted her since yesterday. I just don't know whether or not I'm going to send a sarcastic text asking if its even worth trying to get together some other time, or just not ever even text her, but I'm thinking either are valid options at this point, lol.

[Caddy]

Sounds like a practical joke...

[bearsfan_51]

Bitches be crazy.

[eaglesalltheway]

I mean, I guess its possible, what the **** do I know, lol.

I just highly doubt that's it. I've talked with her on FB a few times before (she always started it up) and could tell she was interested (never got her number or anything because I was with another chick before), and I can tell just by the texts that it wouldn't be a joke. Not that I'd even really care if it was, besides the wasted time. I'm going out with my nieghbor, nothing official really, which is why I even wasted my time texting this one.

Which brings up something else, me and my neighbor are going up to Penn State this weekend, and we're staying with her friends at her old apartment up there, and she's already joking saying how I might just be able to take advantage of her this weekend because of the drinking we'll be doing. I haven't done anything with this chick, but this weekend is looking positive for me, lol.

[georgiafan]

Sounds like its either one of your mutual friends playing a joke on you are she is just wanting the attention from another guy. Your not out anything so I'd see where it goes.

Alright... Someone needs to help me find the logic in this, if there is any (Dealing with a female, so there already is almost no hope)...

What would cause a chick who I have never met to message me on FB, straight off the bat say we should hang out (I asked her number, could tell right away that's where it was going), then after no less than three texts, proceed to tell me she is down for anything when we get back to her place? And then after proceeding to tell me all of this, cancel last minute the first night, reschedule for the next night, then cancel last minute, reschedule for the next night, then not repond at all on the third night?

The funny thing is, I don't really care, I've never met this chick at all. I haven't texted her since yesterday. I just don't know whether or not I'm going to send a sarcastic text asking if its even worth trying to get together some other time, or just not ever even text her, but I'm thinking either are valid options at this point, lol.

[Caddy]

Does she have a lot of fb friends and/or mutual friends?

[kalbears13]

Alright... Someone needs to help me find the logic in this, if there is any (Dealing with a female, so there already is almost no hope)...

What would cause a chick who I have never met to message me on FB, straight off the bat say we should hang out (I asked her number, could tell right away that's where it was going), then after no less than three texts, proceed to tell me she is down for anything when we get back to her place? And then after proceeding to tell me all of this, cancel last minute the first night, reschedule for the next night, then cancel last minute, reschedule for the next night, then not repond at all on the third night?

The funny thing is, I don't really care, I've never met this chick at all. I haven't texted her since yesterday. I just don't know whether or not I'm going to send a sarcastic text asking if its even worth trying to get together some other time, or just not ever even text her, but I'm thinking either are valid options at this point, lol.

Once I read "Someone help me find logic..." in a post in the relationship advice thread, I stopped reading it. You're not going to find any logic about women.

[BlindSite]

kal is right, don't bend to her plans, tell her straight up just to come to your place. If she doesn't then move on, if she does then **** her.

[eaglesalltheway]

Does she have a lot of fb friends and/or mutual friends?

Not really (400-some I think) and not a lot of mutual friends... I haven't heard from her, and don't really care enough to even see what's going to happen since I've had plans with this other chick for a while (that we've actually done, lol) that I actually do give a **** (probably more, if I'm being truthful) about, so yeah, most of my focus has always been on her, so I really am not out anything, georgiafan.

I know there are a few people who were or are Penn state students on here, and on the off chance any of you mofos see this, what really is there to do in state college? I was only ever there once, and it was just for the game, so I'm relying mostly on this chick for things to do besides the game. Any good bars I should be made aware of or anything relatively awesome?

[Ravens1991]

Does anyone have any experience approaching girls in your class? I have heard people say dont do it but I dont see what the problem is.

[bearsfan_51]

I used to, but then the dean told me to stop.

[Brent]

I used to, but then the dean told me to stop.
ah, the forbidden fruit.

[kalbears13]

Does anyone have any experience approaching girls in your class? I have heard people say dont do it but I dont see what the problem is.

There is no problem. There's really no fall out (i assume you go to a college with at least 2,000 students) It's just hard to approach them. It's honestly not that hard, just sit near them and then ask for a pencil or something or ask if they did the homework and then ask them if they're ready for the quiz or whatever then tell them that you don't understand anything or something along those lines and then ask if she wants to study together. It's not that hard. Sadly for me I'm an engineer so there's one girl in the class and she looks like vikes with a dead cat for a wig. ;)

[raiderz4life]

Does anyone have any experience approaching girls in your class? I have heard people say dont do it but I dont see what the problem is.

If you're in HS....join a sports team...be somewhat relevant...and they come to you.

If option A isn't gonna work for you or are in college...then the details will vary a little but rly what was already stated....start with small talk.

[MetSox17]

If you're smart and responsible enough to get good grades without the help of others, always join the groups with the hot girls. Easiest way to talk to them, but it will come at the expense of them usually being lazy/dumb.

[kalbears13]

I sent a message on facebook to the girl I was going to ask to senior prom but she ****** things up and i stopped talking to her. It's been over 3 years since we spoke last and I thought "hey we've matured, maybe we're over high school bs by now." We shall see my friends...we shall see...

[Caddy]

revenge bang her

[MetSox17]

revenge bang her

This.

I've banged a handful of girls that i always wanted in HS but never got until years later. There's plenty more, but for now that plan is on hold.

[raiderz4life]

This.

I've banged a handful of girls that i always wanted in HS but never got until years later. There's plenty more, but for now that plan is on hold.

I've done my fair share of that as well.

[StickSkills]

I needa find a girl.

[kalbears13]

I needa find a girl.

Heyoooooooo!!

[Brent]

I needa find a girl.
If it makes you feel better, me too. I'm trying to work my magic on a chick that's my age they hired at my school. I don't know if that is good or bad, but I know there are a few teachers who met one another working at my school, so I guess it's all good.

[killxswitch]

If it makes you feel better, me too. I'm trying to work my magic on a chick that's my age they hired at my school. I don't know if that is good or bad, but I know there are a few teachers who met one another working at my school, so I guess it's all good.

I would guess most teachers at your school met each other at your school.

[MetSox17]

Going on three months in an exclusive relationship. It has gone surprisingly well, despite the fact that all bitches be crazy.

[njx9]

bleh. i keep getting sucked back in by this one girl. every time i start to move on, get sucked back in. liquor so doesn't help.

[MetSox17]

Does she seem like the kind that just wants to string you along for the benefit of having someone there as her footstool, or can you see any sincere interest on her part?

[njx9]

Does she seem like the kind that just wants to string you along for the benefit of having someone there as her footstool, or can you see any sincere interest on her part?

nah, i don't think it's a string along thing, but there are various reasons why nothing should happen. i think we just keep remembering those reasons at different times (i.e. lots of one way interest for a few weeks, then just friends, then one way interest the other way for a few weeks, etc).

[Ravens1991]

I need to find a girl too, I am fairly religious but go to a non christian school so its tough to find a girl for me.

[Caddy]

Do they have social church gatherings/groups you could go to? It's not my scene, but one of my best mates met his current wife at one of those.

[StickSkills]

Damn, almost got with this one girl and then she was like, "nah I wanna play mind games... maybe tomorrow night." and then she went home.... WTF?

[eaglesalltheway]

Damn, almost got with this one girl and then she was like, "nah I wanna play mind games... maybe tomorrow night." and then she went home.... WTF?

If she literally said that exact thing, you may have found the missing link...

Or thedong's "girlfriend".

[SRK85]

Well I finally sucked it up and joined some dating sites. Hopefully I will be getting some girls soon.

[DanZilla]

I need to find a girl too, I am fairly religious but go to a non christian school so its tough to find a girl for me.
how is it tough for you? going to a non christian school is irrelevant lol

[Brent]

Well I finally sucked it up and joined some dating sites. Hopefully I will be getting some girls soon.
it's gonna be all fatties and chicks with kids or ****** up teeth

[DanZilla]

it's gonna be all fatties and chicks with kids or ****** up teeth
agreed. years ago, i signed up to onlinebootycall.com and only had a bunch of fat chicks. deleted profile after 2 weeks

[Caddy]

Fat girls need love too

[SRK85]

it's gonna be all fatties and chicks with kids or ****** up teeth

So far at least judging by pics its not. But I shall see eventually.

[DanZilla]

Fat girls need love too
yeah they can find love at the local popeyes, not from me lol

[Brent]

Fat girls need love too
YuSXihJM6jY
...but they gotta pay.

[georgiafan]

Well I finally sucked it up and joined some dating sites. Hopefully I will be getting some girls soon.

I did the same thing this week to

[someone447]

I need to find a girl too, I am fairly religious but go to a non christian school so its tough to find a girl for me.

You live in the US, correct? One of the most overtly religious countries in the world? Over half the people(women included) you meet will be religious. Another 30% will believe in god but not be religious. You're fine.

[SRK85]

Go to chapel or the nearest church if one is looking for religious girls. Or join the bible study group. Its not that hard. But I never recommend chasing religious girls they are a pain the ass.

[Malaka]

Ah, guys, I messed up last night. :(

There's this girl that I met recently, and we have been pretty into each other. But, her friend is borderline obsessed with me and I went out with one of her friends two years ago.

This didn't really stunt me or anything, but last night I had a party at my house and I picked her up to come. We were drinking having a good time, I got her alone teaching her how to play piano, and then she went into my room with me alone.

From there it seems fuzzy to me, but I do remember us going in for the kiss and eventually getting there, only to have her almost instantaneously say I can't I just met you. She tried to leave but I got her to stay and try to talk, she just kept repeating she doesn't know, and that she wants to but she just can't. Then after questioning her and slowly but surely giving up on the situation she stated "You're not used to getting rejected are you?" I was perplexed by this question, and automatically denied it. I told her I have been rejected before, I did not want to give her that confidence that she was able to do something other women have not.

She eventually escaped me and left the room, but the rest of that night for me was awful. This was visible in my demeanor and was probably been my greatest error of the night. Honestly, if it was possible I would have told everyone to get the **** out so I can sleep. She of course noticed this, and started joking to me about hurting my pride; I just half-heartedly countered that her ears were big, only teasing and with no biting undertone . She then continued to try to pry out of me an admission that I am not used to being rejected. For what? I don't know. I simply looked broken down though, and I think that will be my fatal flaw in the end. At the end of the night she asked if everything will be back to normal I just laughed and said "nothing happened" and smiled.

It doesn't help my situation at all that the least tactful of all my friends tried to talk her into being with me, and brought up sex. I definitely was planning on doing that with her the first time we ever hang out, but now she probably thinks I was like a perv. I hate when friends try to help with girls. They only makes it worse.

By coming into my room, getting that close with me... maybe she does have an interest in me, but then again... maybe she was just drunk and I, just stupid.

With all that in mind, do I dust off my shoulders and try again? Or let this bird fly? I guess I care so much because this is the first genuine interest I have had in a girl since I broke up with my ex several months ago. Eh, and I screwed the pooch on this one.

Whoever had time to read all this I salute you, your a real bro lol. I just need advice because I haven't been too lucky with the ladies since my break-up.

[MetSox17]

So, where exactly was your big screw up? Aside from going in for the kill and getting rejected, there wasn't really anything too out there. If she was willing to go up to your room with you, then she probably at the very least has a small amount of interest so you should give it another shot, preferably when you're sober. If she means enough to you that she basically ruined your night by shutting you down, then you should at least try a few more times to make sure you aren't leaving any stones un-turned.

[bearsfan_51]

This ***** is crazy. Never talk to her again. Seriously.

[Caddy]

Just kill her.

[Malaka]

Lol okay so I am being dramatic. But I still feel stupid as **** lmao.

The **** up was letting it get to me. I let her take control, and she has the upper-hand because I was obviously deterred by the rejection, and instead enjoying the night regardless I could not care less about the people there.

How should I go about trying again? I would prefer it to be sober, I am getting sick of drinking, so I 100% agree with you there. I feel like after this night were going to be awkward around each other unfortunately, though I will do my best. I have no idea what to say to her though to not bring up last night, but continue to flirt and strive towards something.

[Brent]

This ***** is crazy. Never talk to her again. Seriously.
This. I wouldn't even acknowledge that slunt again.
Just kill her.
There is a reason why I like you.

[Caddy]

Throw a bottle of fake-tan at her. Guidettes love that.

[Malaka]

God damn it, Guidos have feelings too! I just needed advice -__-

[draftguru151]

Whip it out Malaka.

[kalbears13]

Naked Man! Naked Man! Naked Man!

[marshallb]

Malaka, my advice to you would be to take her out on a date. It would show that your pride wasn't hurt by being rejected, and also that it wasn't just about sex, even if it was. On top of that, it would be sober which you said you would like. I would suggest something simple like take her out for dinner and then go back to your place for a movie if you're feeling it, which could allow you try for something further again, if you're not feeling it then just send her on her way and move on.

[Malaka]

Malaka, my advice to you would be to take her out on a date. It would show that your pride wasn't hurt by being rejected, and also that it wasn't just about sex, even if it was. On top of that, it would be sober which you said you would like. I would suggest something simple like take her out for dinner and then go back to your place for a movie if you're feeling it, which could allow you try for something further again, if you're not feeling it then just send her on her way and move on.

Thanks man hopefully she doesn't feel uncomfortable around me.

I just feel like I showed my hand too early, and I think she thinks she has me wrapped around her finger so she might not have interest if shes one of those.

[marshallb]

Thanks man hopefully she doesn't feel uncomfortable around me.

I just feel like I showed my hand too early, and I think she thinks she has me wrapped around her finger so she might not have interest if shes one of those.

True, which may make it wise to wait a few days before going anywhere with it.

[bearsfan_51]

Lol okay so I am being dramatic. But I still feel stupid as **** lmao.

The **** up was letting it get to me. I let her take control, and she has the upper-hand because I was obviously deterred by the rejection, and instead enjoying the night regardless I could not care less about the people there.

How should I go about trying again? I would prefer it to be sober, I am getting sick of drinking, so I 100% agree with you there. I feel like after this night were going to be awkward around each other unfortunately, though I will do my best. I have no idea what to say to her though to not bring up last night, but continue to flirt and strive towards something.
No, I'm being totally serious. **** her. Never talk to her again. Any women that will act like that is going to play games with you for the rest of your life.

Use your brain, not your *****. Move on.

[djp]

No, I'm being totally serious. **** her. Never talk to her again. Any women that will act like that is going to play games with you for the rest of your life.

Use your brain, not your *****. Move on.

Agreed....

[Malaka]

No, I'm being totally serious. **** her. Never talk to her again. Any women that will act like that is going to play games with you for the rest of your life.

Use your brain, not your *****. Move on.

Lol I like this. Trust me my stupor is fading. This morning I awoke in a depressed state, but as I regain my senses throughout the day I am caring less and less. Though I will try again, because I have nothing to lose.

[MetSox17]

Yeah, can't say i disagree much with what bf51 said. Make some last ditch efforts to get in her pants, but don't try too hard either.

[fischbowl]

She hates me because I'm a drunk

[bearsfan_51]

Lol I like this. Trust me my stupor is fading. This morning I awoke in a depressed state, but as I regain my senses throughout the day I am caring less and less. Though I will try again, because I have nothing to lose.
You'll waste a week of your life when you could otherwise be trying to **** a girl that isn't crazy.

[Brent]

You'll waste a week of your life when you could otherwise be trying to **** a girl that isn't crazy.
seriously, malaka, what about two people telling you to never speak to her again do you not understand?

[ATLDirtyBirds]

I would make a last ditch effort the next time you're both trashed at a party, but that's about it.

[marshallb]

Yea, after re-looking at things, I've gotta reconsider. I thought that you liked her quite a bit and were wanting a relationship with her, not that you just wanted to **** her. If the latter's indeed the case, then do as the others have said, move on to the next *****. If it's the former, then I would stick with my original advice.

[georgiafan]

Allright so i've been single for about 4 months now and my brothers sister in law has this friend that she claims she is gonna hook me up with. Everytime I've seen her she brings this girl up. But she has been dragging her feet when i bring it up so I figured it wouldn't happen and moved on.

I don't know alot about this girl but my brother tells me she is pretty and I trust him he says that. Also his wife told me she has big boobs. I know a few other basic details about her but not to much.

So my brother texted me and told me that they are having a birthday party saturday (for a small child) and his sister in law told me to come and she would introudce me to this girl. At first I didnt know bc the party is at 2 and the UGA-UF game is at 3:30. But I was thinking about going bc there isnt any real risk involved and its prob my only chance for it. What do u think?

[CashmoneyDrew]

Georgia's gonna win anyways, just go.

[georgiafan]

Georgia's gonna win anyways, just go.

I'll still be able to watch the game bc its not gonna last but a hour r two and I have a DVR or im sure they have a TV at the house im going to

[MetSox17]

DVR it and go. If it doesn't look like you'll hit it off, then bounce and watch the game at home. If it goes well, then ****, a football game should be the last thing on your mind.

[bearsfan_51]

Allright so i've been single for about 4 months now and my brothers sister in law has this friend that she claims she is gonna hook me up with. Everytime I've seen her she brings this girl up. But she has been dragging her feet when i bring it up so I figured it wouldn't happen and moved on.

I don't know alot about this girl but my brother tells me she is pretty and I trust him he says that. Also his wife told me she has big boobs. I know a few other basic details about her but not to much.

So my brother texted me and told me that they are having a birthday party saturday (for a small child) and his sister in law told me to come and she would introudce me to this girl. At first I didnt know bc the party is at 2 and the UGA-UF game is at 3:30. But I was thinking about going bc there isnt any real risk involved and its prob my only chance for it. What do u think?
Wear at least two condoms.

[georgiafan]

DVR it and go. If it doesn't look like you'll hit it off, then bounce and watch the game at home. If it goes well, then ****, a football game should be the last thing on your mind.

Wear at least two condoms.

I told my brother I would end up going because I have nothing to lose and something to potential gain. I'll just drive seprate so if I need to leave I can. I did find out her name so I looked her up on facebook and I know someone else that knows her so im waiting for the scouting report back from him.

Should I send her a facebook friend request or is that wierd? We only have 1 mutual friend and im unsure if she knows who I am.

[Caddy]

Don't send her a friend request.

[Brent]

Facebook is for college kids.

[ATLDirtyBirds]

Don't send her a friend request.


Seriously. Super weird.

[georgiafan]

yea thats what I was thinking

[Vikes99ej]

Haven't posted in this thread in a while. Finished college a while ago, and I've been here in Sioux Falls since the middle of July. Moved back in with my mom and I got a full-time job and an internship. My life seems like it should be in perfect shape right now, but I still feel like I'm missing something. There are plenty of cute girls at work, but the nature of the job really inhibits any real fraternizing. I've made a few friends here, but how in the **** am I supposed to meet a girl to date here? Everything else in my life is somewhat figured out except this aspect.

[Ngatachance92]

**** hoes, the only advice that ever has to be given.

[Caddy]

Haven't posted in this thread in a while. Finished college a while ago, and I've been here in Sioux Falls since the middle of July. Moved back in with my mom and I got a full-time job and an internship. My life seems like it should be in perfect shape right now, but I still feel like I'm missing something. There are plenty of cute girls at work, but the nature of the job really inhibits any real fraternizing. I've made a few friends here, but how in the **** am I supposed to meet a girl to date here? Everything else in my life is somewhat figured out except this aspect.

#1 I'm not sure if Vikes is still in Sioux Falls, but if he is you need to watch out.

#2 Move out of home?

[MetSox17]

Yeah, having your own place helps out a ton. Also, don't **** where you eat. I'd look elsewhere other than your job for women to date.

[Ngatachance92]

Day Cares are a great place to pick up chicks.... I'm talking about the desperate single mothers of course.

[Brent]

Haven't posted in this thread in a while. Finished college a while ago, and I've been here in Sioux Falls since the middle of July. Moved back in with my mom and I got a full-time job and an internship. My life seems like it should be in perfect shape right now, but I still feel like I'm missing something. There are plenty of cute girls at work, but the nature of the job really inhibits any real fraternizing. I've made a few friends here, but how in the **** am I supposed to meet a girl to date here? Everything else in my life is somewhat figured out except this aspect.
Minus the whole living-at-home part, you have found yourself in the situation I currently deal with.

[Vikes99ej]

I'm not sure if living in an apartment or w/e would really help that much. I don't know anyone my age here, so I can't really go to bars and go out or anything.

[Brent]

I'm not sure if living in an apartment or w/e would really help that much. I don't know anyone my age here, so I can't really go to bars and go out or anything.
It only helps if the situation ever arises. You could always join an adult rec league.

[georgiafan]

Don't dip your pen in the company ink


Haven't posted in this thread in a while. Finished college a while ago, and I've been here in Sioux Falls since the middle of July. Moved back in with my mom and I got a full-time job and an internship. My life seems like it should be in perfect shape right now, but I still feel like I'm missing something. There are plenty of cute girls at work, but the nature of the job really inhibits any real fraternizing. I've made a few friends here, but how in the **** am I supposed to meet a girl to date here? Everything else in my life is somewhat figured out except this aspect.

[Vikes99ej]

I'm not specifically looking to hit on chicks at work, I just want to meet some females somewhere without having to go into the shady world of online dating.

[vikes_28]

#1 I'm not sure if Vikes is still in Sioux Falls, but if he is you need to watch out.

#2 Move out of home?

Lol, yes. I still live in Sioux Falls. And just so you know, Vikes, I'm on the lookout for you :o.

I'm just kidding. But seriously. We should hang out.

Oh, and bitches be crazy in Sioux Falls.

[MetSox17]

And by crazy, you mean they stay out past 9pm and wear skirts that go up all the way to their knee.

[Caddy]

Lol, yes. I still live in Sioux Falls. And just so you know, Vikes, I'm on the lookout for you :o.

I'm just kidding. But seriously. We should hang out.

Oh, and bitches be crazy in Sioux Falls.

Don't you dare hurt the cool vikes. I will kill you if you do!

[Brent]

And by crazy, you mean they stay out past 9pm and wear skirts that go up all the way to their knee.
I am pretty sure it's subzero temps there 365 days a year

[vikes_28]

I am pretty sure it's subzero temps there 365 days a year

i'm pretty sure you're completely wrong.

South Dakota's summer's are ridiculously humid.

[CC.SD]

I'm FRESH.

Ya gotta be FRESH.

There's three of us y'all, it's like FRESH FRESH FRESH.

Ya gotta, ya gotta, ya gotta be FRESH.

[Brent]

i'm pretty sure you're completely wrong.

South Dakota's summer's are ridiculously humid.
I don't think you understand humor. Must be from all that ice and snow.

[georgiafan]

Allright here is my story me and this girl dated 2 years back (4 dates) and then I ended it as I started dating someone else. A little background on me im im my late 20's and looking to find the right one.

I had a 2nd date with her this past weekend and we went to the UGA football game. She got mad at me during the date bc I didnt want her to upload a pic of me on facebook. So because of that I didnt think the date went all that good. I must have been wrong bc i got the after date "I had such a good time" text message and she also had a status on facebook saying something similiar.

The thing is she isnt someone for a several diffrent reasons that I see myself in a serious relationship with. But I enjoying talking to her and spending time with her. I'm also not the kind of guy who is just gonna have sex with her and not talk to her again as im a virgin.

She always seems to do something to keep me wanting to talk/hang out even though i know I may be in to deep at this point. Maybe its me reliving some old high school fantasy since she was the head cheerleader. Maybe its something as simple as her being 4'11 with a size 2 and a D cup lol.

I also have 2 dates lined up with diffrent girls this weekend which I wanna see how those go.

[MetSox17]

Are the reasons for you all not dating seriously your reasons, or hers?

[georgiafan]

Are the reasons for you all not dating seriously your reasons, or hers?

Mine, not 100% sure from her end.

[MetSox17]

It seems like you're being a little defensive here. Going into the early dating scene with a woman and having some sort of expected outcome (positive or negative) will never do you any good. Obviously you enjoyed your time with her, and if she did as well, why should you close yourself off on the idea of there possibly being something long-term?

Are you just trying to protect yourself from being hurt?

[georgiafan]

It seems like you're being a little defensive here. Going into the early dating scene with a woman and having some sort of expected outcome (positive or negative) will never do you any good. Obviously you enjoyed your time with her, and if she did as well, why should you close yourself off on the idea of there possibly being something long-term?

Are you just trying to protect yourself from being hurt?

I guess im just looking long term and they are few things about her that I dont know If I would want in my future wife. These are also things that arent gonna change. So i dont wanna waste my time dating someone like that at my age. But at the same time I enjoy seeing her.

[MetSox17]

How old are you again?

[georgiafan]

How old are you again?

im 29 years old

[MetSox17]

I'm also not the kind of guy who is just gonna have sex with her and not talk to her again as im a virgin.


im 29 years old

Does not compute.

[thefalconer]

I guess im just looking long term and they are few things about her that I dont know If I would want in my future wife. These are also things that arent gonna change. So i dont wanna waste my time dating someone like that at my age. But at the same time I enjoy seeing her.

i don't like that mentality of not seeing a girl because you don't see her as wife material. everyone's values and whatnot are different but come on. let loose and see where it goes while you're still young. one thing i'm learning more and more is that there's no perfect girl out there for anybody. i agree with metsox, i think you're protecting yourself a bit. if she's digging you and you enjoy spending time with her, don't let marriage potential break what you have. cheers

[georgiafan]

Does not compute.

haha yea it's true

i don't like that mentality of not seeing a girl because you don't see her as wife material. everyone's values and whatnot are different but come on. let loose and see where it goes while you're still young. one thing i'm learning more and more is that there's no perfect girl out there for anybody. i agree with metsox, i think you're protecting yourself a bit. if she's digging you and you enjoy spending time with her, don't let marriage potential break what you have. cheers

Good point I should prob just go out with her again and see where it goes and not worry about what might happen in the future.

[Ravens1991]

Is it religious based reasons georgiafan? I saw your age and you are still a virgin and figured religion might have something to do with it. If one of the things you dont like in her is she doesnt match your religious beliefs I feel something that big would mean forget about her.

[georgiafan]

Is it religious based reasons georgiafan? I saw your age and you are still a virgin and figured religion might have something to do with it. If one of the things you dont like in her is she doesnt match your religious beliefs I feel something that big would mean forget about her.

The reason Im a virgin is bc of religion but the reason I have doubts about her is bc she has kids and some health issues from a fall (nothing really major).

[jrdrylie]

The reason Im a virgin is bc of religion but the reason I have doubts about her is bc she has kids and some health issues from a fall (nothing really major).

Do you not ever want kids? If that is the case, I'd say just end it. It wouldn't be fair to her or the kids to drag them along.

[georgiafan]

Do you not ever want kids? If that is the case, I'd say just end it. It wouldn't be fair to her or the kids to drag them along.

Yea I want kids one day. She has 2 kids and the dad isnt in the picture so I it makes things diffcult now and even more so if I project into the future. Because like she cant go on a date with me unless her kids are at someone elses house.

When we dated 2 years I never saw her kids which made alot of sense and had no problems with. Then last week she invited me to her family halloween party with her kids and alot of her family there. So I guess that plus her wanting to post my pic on facebook got me to thinking that maybe she wants something a little more serious then me.

[SickwithIt1010]

I need to have a little more of an asshole side to me I guess because being the "nice" guy doesnt do ****.

[thefalconer]

I need to have a little more of an asshole side to me I guess because being the "nice" guy doesnt do ****.

samesies :(

[raiderz4life]

So I've dropped the ball.

I've fallen for my best friend *sigh*

Just we've been close friends for so long I'm almost certain i'm in her "friend/family" zone.....fml

[CC.SD]

you are. don't embarrass yourself. Just go get laid.

Okay okay i will contribute to this thread it has been a while...I'm seeing a girl up here in the city, moved to SF about a year ago. Obviously my closest friends aren't up here but shockingly found good people to hang out with through my work and now I'm seeing one of their friends.

Except......it was supposed to be like a bar night hook up, didn't realize this committed me to dating forever. Now it's like I'm one of the gang in a new city but obviously I'm the new guy. am I stuck in this shyte for as long as I'm in the city? It was fun for a night but I'm not head over heels for her and she's not gorgeous or anything.

My current plan is to just stick with it, won't be up here forever and might as well be getting some. But it's been like two months now and I'm seriously over it. My friends up here are more important than her by a long shot, help?

[Brent]

you are. don't embarrass yourself. Just go get laid.

Okay okay i will contribute to this thread it has been a while...I'm seeing a girl up here in the city, moved to SF about a year ago. Obviously my closest friends aren't up here but shockingly found good people to hang out with through my work and now I'm seeing one of their friends.

Except......it was supposed to be like a bar night hook up, didn't realize this committed me to dating forever. Now it's like I'm one of the gang in a new city but obviously I'm the new guy. am I stuck in this shyte for as long as I'm in the city? It was fun for a night but I'm not head over heels for her and she's not gorgeous or anything.

My current plan is to just stick with it, won't be up here forever and might as well be getting some. But it's been like two months now and I'm seriously over it. My friends up here are more important than her by a long shot, help?
just stick with it until the sex goes bad, then walk.

[kalbears13]

Do whatever Robin did in How I Met Your Mother.

[bearsfan_51]

you are. don't embarrass yourself. Just go get laid.

Okay okay i will contribute to this thread it has been a while...I'm seeing a girl up here in the city, moved to SF about a year ago. Obviously my closest friends aren't up here but shockingly found good people to hang out with through my work and now I'm seeing one of their friends.

Except......it was supposed to be like a bar night hook up, didn't realize this committed me to dating forever. Now it's like I'm one of the gang in a new city but obviously I'm the new guy. am I stuck in this shyte for as long as I'm in the city? It was fun for a night but I'm not head over heels for her and she's not gorgeous or anything.

My current plan is to just stick with it, won't be up here forever and might as well be getting some. But it's been like two months now and I'm seriously over it. My friends up here are more important than her by a long shot, help?
I think you're going to have to marry her.

[trademaster]

So the pimp hand is strong at the moment

One Of my female best friend is a lesbian, always wanted to tap that ass maybe dating even for the past 2 years. Been turned down numerous times so I stopped trying.

The past year, she got into weight lifting like really got into it, all at the same time she grew feelings for me but I don't wanna sound like a douche but I'm just not attracted to her anymore.

Here is the catch, her current girlfriend who is bi is so into me.
& she is more my type, she got that pretty white girl ass.
Now how do I turn this to an orgy? Been partying too much since my ex broke up w/ me but men, you know what F<UCK A B!TCH

[Caddy]

So the pimp hand is strong at the moment

One Of my female best friend is a lesbian, always wanted to tap that ass maybe dating even for the past 2 years. Been turned down numerous times so I stopped trying.

The past year, she got into weight lifting like really got into it, all at the same time she grew feelings for me but I don't wanna sound like a douche but I'm just not attracted to her anymore.

Here is the catch, her current girlfriend who is bi is so into me.
& she is more my type, she got that pretty white girl ass.
Now how do I turn this to an orgy? Been partying too much since my ex broke up w/ me but men, you know what F<UCK A B!TCH

You are no 'The Dong' so please stop trying.

[trademaster]

I just read about 10 pages worth of this thread. Some of y'all like metsox and the dude with the pee wee Herman sig doin it right.

Remember, hoes always going to be hoes.
Just gonna learn how to squeeze right, cause the better your squeeze the better the ***** juice.

Next time you meet a girl, I want you to tell her "**** you hoe then get her number". If you really like the girl on that next level sh+t this lines always works. "hey I just wanna say Ur beautiful with a gorgeous spirit". DAT will get yo nut drained for weeks

[SickwithIt1010]

samesies :(

I just dont know how to pull that **** off. If I dig a girl, im gonna let em know that. But it just seems like chicks would rather go for the asshole that is gonna play them, and then they start complaining about how they cant find a nice guy lol.

[VUBlacknGold]

I just dont know how to pull that **** off. If I dig a girl, im gonna let em know that. But it just seems like chicks would rather go for the asshole that is gonna play them, and then they start complaining about how they cant find a nice guy lol.

Women love a "Challenge" or love to be "Chased". If you arent either then you seem to boring or "Safe". They arent worried about when theyre 30, they just wanna live life before life starts living it FOR them. If you show youre interested but never make it seem like its gunna plateau, you might have something.

On a side note, when women be cramping/that time, they make rash choices and sometimes they make it seem like its a dead set opinion, let them cool off a bit and try to let them know that whatever situation they are in, youre right there with em and if they need space, you can do that.

What im trying to say is, if you want it to work, you gotta put in the work

[bearsfan_51]

You probably think they don't like you because you're a nice guy, when in reality they wouldn't like you no matter how you act.

Women like guys that are interesting and nice to look at. Basically the same ******* thing guys like but with the personality a little more important and the looks a little less.

They aren't a foreign species or anything.

[SickwithIt1010]

You probably think they don't like you because you're a nice guy, when in reality they wouldn't like you no matter how you act.

Women like guys that are interesting and nice to look at. Basically the same ******* thing guys like but with the personality a little more important and the looks a little less.

They aren't a foreign species or anything.

Idk, like i have no problem finding girls who I can hook up with and have the one night stand. I have no problem being an asshole when it comes to something like that when Im a little tipsy at a bar.

But to be completely honest I just need to slow down a little bit. Ive been drinking way too much this year and getting stuck in that mode. I kinda like the relationship deal and that is where I have the problem.

[Ravens1991]

You probably think they don't like you because you're a nice guy, when in reality they wouldn't like you no matter how you act.

Women like guys that are interesting and nice to look at. Basically the same ******* thing guys like but with the personality a little more important and the looks a little less.

They aren't a foreign species or anything.

I would say a lot more personality and a lot less looks. I have seen a lot more guys date up then date down.

[raiderz4life]

I would say a lot more personality and a lot less looks. I have seen a lot more guys date up then date down.

This is true. Problem I think a lot guys have is they look for the wrong types of girls. You gotta know what works for you and then find girls that will put more value on that quality.

[Ravens1991]

Dont you just hate when you are talking to a girl from your class and she out of nowhere turns into another direction before you can get her number.

[raiderz4life]

Dont you just hate when you are talking to a girl from your class and she out of nowhere turns into another direction before you can get her number.

Yea...when you're ready to go in for the kill and she walks away pisses me off haha.

[Ravens1991]

yea it was funny because I was walking to my dorm and she was walkin to the parking lot and the parking lot is right infront of my dorm. She went around this thing and I went through it. So she ended up like 10 feet behind me. I was like damn it.

[georgiafan]

Here is an update on this as I decided not to try and line up a date with her this weekend. I have a felling she was expecting me to ask her out for this weekend. I decided not to as I wanted to see how my other 2 dates went that I had

My first date I thought went really well and one of the better first dates I've ever had. They wasnt any ackward silences and even though she was young was very mature. But turns out she wasn't as impressed as I was so nothing is gonna come out of it. It kinda puzzled me but I would much rather her just be honest with me like she was and not string me along. I knew it would be hard for us to be in exclusive relationship anyway bc we live over an hour from each other and she goes to college and works full time.

The second date was a total disastor from the start. So in the end I guess im back to square 1.



Allright here is my story me and this girl dated 2 years back (4 dates) and then I ended it as I started dating someone else. A little background on me im im my late 20's and looking to find the right one.

I had a 2nd date with her this past weekend and we went to the UGA football game. She got mad at me during the date bc I didnt want her to upload a pic of me on facebook. So because of that I didnt think the date went all that good. I must have been wrong bc i got the after date "I had such a good time" text message and she also had a status on facebook saying something similiar.

The thing is she isnt someone for a several diffrent reasons that I see myself in a serious relationship with. But I enjoying talking to her and spending time with her. I'm also not the kind of guy who is just gonna have sex with her and not talk to her again as im a virgin.

She always seems to do something to keep me wanting to talk/hang out even though i know I may be in to deep at this point. Maybe its me reliving some old high school fantasy since she was the head cheerleader. Maybe its something as simple as her being 4'11 with a size 2 and a D cup lol.

I also have 2 dates lined up with diffrent girls this weekend which I wanna see how those go.

[Ravens1991]

whats your favorite way to start talking to a girl who is passing you as you walk by? I usually just say hi but im trying to get her number and invite her to this party my friends are having.

[raiderz4life]

whats your favorite way to start talking to a girl who is passing you as you walk by? I usually just say hi but im trying to get her number and invite her to this party my friends are having.

Print out a flyer and hand it to her saying she's more than welcome to come.

[Ravens1991]

Its a kegger probably not best idea to put that on paper.

[StickSkills]

Note to all: Girls that let you throw up and get back in bed with them immediately are keepers.

[Hines]

Soooooo I had an interesting night last night. My ex and I hung out after not seeing each other for 4 months and she was OK with it and asked me if I was OK with it. She has a bf, so nothing happend, but her and I got along great and it seemed to go well. There was a little awkwardness when we first hung out and we didn't talk much, but once the night went on and a few drinks, we BSed and all that good stuff. I didn't really talk to her that much because I didn't want to smother and I do get kinda emotional and truthful when I'm drunk so I just kept quiet.

Then when she left, she said bye and gave me a hug. I was going to re-add her on Facebook but didn't have enough courage. My friend did it for me when I was in the bathroom and I didn't know about it until I checked my phone and it said that she accepted it. I was pretty damn happy. I wake this morning and I was blocked on Facebook by her, which left me VERY confused. When her and I did become Facebook friends again, a few of her good friends liked it which, IMO, bodes well for me.

I'm not sure, but I'm 85% sure that her "boyfriend" saw it and got mad and told her to delete and block me. I don't know why it would be such a big deal since he still has feelings for his ex, having a kid with ex, and is probably going to leave my ex for his ex once the baby is born. It just left me real confused and I heard from the grapevine that she wants to do it again(us hanging out).

I'm not getting no hopes up, but IMO, this is a step in the right direction. I do not want to date my ex for a while as I just want to be friends, but it was just nice to see her and I'm glad that we hopefully put all our differences aside for just one night.

[georgiafan]

As long as she has a boyfriend there isnt any way yall can be just freinds and hang out and talk on facebook. Since this is the kind of thing that yall didnt do after yall break up. I'm sure her new bf was behind it and you can't blame it if you look at it from his point of view.

Soooooo I had an interesting night last night. My ex and I hung out after not seeing each other for 4 months and she was OK with it and asked me if I was OK with it. She has a bf, so nothing happend, but her and I got along great and it seemed to go well. There was a little awkwardness when we first hung out and we didn't talk much, but once the night went on and a few drinks, we BSed and all that good stuff. I didn't really talk to her that much because I didn't want to smother and I do get kinda emotional and truthful when I'm drunk so I just kept quiet.

Then when she left, she said bye and gave me a hug. I was going to re-add her on Facebook but didn't have enough courage. My friend did it for me when I was in the bathroom and I didn't know about it until I checked my phone and it said that she accepted it. I was pretty damn happy. I wake this morning and I was blocked on Facebook by her, which left me VERY confused. When her and I did become Facebook friends again, a few of her good friends liked it which, IMO, bodes well for me.

I'm not sure, but I'm 85% sure that her "boyfriend" saw it and got mad and told her to delete and block me. I don't know why it would be such a big deal since he still has feelings for his ex, having a kid with ex, and is probably going to leave my ex for his ex once the baby is born. It just left me real confused and I heard from the grapevine that she wants to do it again(us hanging out).

I'm not getting no hopes up, but IMO, this is a step in the right direction. I do not want to date my ex for a while as I just want to be friends, but it was just nice to see her and I'm glad that we hopefully put all our differences aside for just one night.

[Hines]

As long as she has a boyfriend there isnt any way yall can be just freinds and hang out and talk on facebook. Since this is the kind of thing that yall didnt do after yall break up. I'm sure her new bf was behind it and you can't blame it if you look at it from his point of view.

Oh trust me, I know what you mean. I completely understand. It's just a nice step to what we use to be a few months ago. To have her hang out with me and us talkin just for a little last night was good enough for me. I wouldn't call her a boyfriend since all they do is **** and he buys her stuff just to keep her around while he and baby moms work things out till the baby comes. Plus the dude's best friend always causes problems between them and they fight all the time and they've only been dating for like a month.

[georgiafan]

Oh trust me, I know what you mean. I completely understand. It's just a nice step to what we use to be a few months ago. To have her hang out with me and us talkin just for a little last night was good enough fr me. I wouldn't call her a boyfriend since all they do is **** and he buys her stuff just to keep her around while he and baby moms work things out till the baby comes. Plus the dude's best friend always causes problems between them and they fight all the time and they've only been dating for like a month.

It's always tricky when you become "friends" with an ex. I think for it to work and not get hurt you have to figure out what your expections are. Are you just being friends with her to get back where you can date her again? or can you talk to her and not have any fellings about her start back up? If the answer to either of those is no then it will not work out long term

[Hines]

It's always tricky when you become "friends" with an ex. I think for it to work and not get hurt you have to figure out what your expections are. Are you just being friends with her to get back where you can date her again? or can you talk to her and not have any fellings about her start back up? If the answer to either of those is no then it will not work out long term

I don't have time nor the energy to date right now. I just want to be friends and let fate take over the rest. If we don't date again, I'm perfectly fine with it. I'd like to potentially work things out to date again, but it's not high on my expectation list right now. Just getting more comfortable and hanging out and progressing as friends is what I want.

[georgiafan]

I don't have time nor the energy to date right now. I just want to be friends and let fate take over the rest. If we don't date again, I'm perfectly fine with it. I'd like to potentially work things out to date again, but it's not high on my expectation list right now. Just getting more comfortable and hanging out and progressing as friends is what I want.

sounds like no harm then done on your point

[georgiafan]

according to match.com me and my ex of close to 2 years are a 93% match for each other.

[CashmoneyDrew]

according to match.com me and my ex of close to 2 years are a 93% match for each other.

Someone needs to sig quote this.

Also for relevancy to the thread. Got my first date with this girl from my class this week. It'll be my first date with a sorority girl. Not quite sure what to expect but it should be fun.

[eaglesalltheway]

Protocol on asking a waitress for her number, with the hopes of still being able to eat at the diner in the future if she says no... GO!

My one buddy is stuck on this one waitress at a diner we go to fairly frequently, but doesn't have the balls to ask this chick out or for her number, or anything, and his excuse is that if she says no her family (owns the diner) will not allow him to eat there ever again. I'm calling BS and telling him just to nut up anyway, who gives a **** about food when there are plenty of other diners around, but he doesn't hear me too well, I guess, haha. Any advice on how to approach her without making my friend worry about getting kicked out of a diner? Personally, I wouldn't give a ****, its just a diner and in all likelihood, they wouldn't kick him out anyway, or refuse service if he came back. I think he's just being a ***** and making excuses. SO i told him if he doesn't grow a pair I'm ignoring bro code, so hopefully that'll get him going a little bit, but other than that, I don't know what else I can do.

[georgiafan]

I didnt know she was on there and then I saw who had viewed my profile and I see her. It was really ackward and stuff but makes for a funny story. We are still friends and talk and stuff but still really ackward.

Someone needs to sig quote this.

Also for relevancy to the thread. Got my first date with this girl from my class this week. It'll be my first date with a sorority girl. Not quite sure what to expect but it should be fun.



It can be tricky with a waitress bc you always have to try and find out is she flirting/being nice bc she likes me or so I will give her a big tip. Does he know if she is single? If he doesnt he needs to find that out first.

Protocol on asking a waitress for her number, with the hopes of still being able to eat at the diner in the future if she says no... GO!

My one buddy is stuck on this one waitress at a diner we go to fairly frequently, but doesn't have the balls to ask this chick out or for her number, or anything, and his excuse is that if she says no her family (owns the diner) will not allow him to eat there ever again. I'm calling BS and telling him just to nut up anyway, who gives a **** about food when there are plenty of other diners around, but he doesn't hear me too well, I guess, haha. Any advice on how to approach her without making my friend worry about getting kicked out of a diner? Personally, I wouldn't give a ****, its just a diner and in all likelihood, they wouldn't kick him out anyway, or refuse service if he came back. I think he's just being a ***** and making excuses. SO i told him if he doesn't grow a pair I'm ignoring bro code, so hopefully that'll get him going a little bit, but other than that, I don't know what else I can do.

[eaglesalltheway]

She's single, but she is always coming over to our table and talking to us when we're there. Started off mostly because we are the only people our age that really go there, we've only actually ever had her as our waitress twice. I've been trying to get my buddy to go for it for a while, but he's just being stubborn.

[georgiafan]

She's single, but she is always coming over to our table and talking to us when we're there. Started off mostly because we are the only people our age that really go there, we've only actually ever had her as our waitress twice. I've been trying to get my buddy to go for it for a while, but he's just being stubborn.

sounds like it would be a worth a shot if he's to stubborn/scared to do it in person which is always the best choice. Maybe he could try talking to her on facebook are something. I know thats not the best answer but its better then doing nothing.

On a similar subject went a resturant yesterday and as soon as I sit down the girl starts talking and remembers me and several other things. This caught me off guard as I've only been in there once and it was like a month ago. I didn't really get much chance to talk bc It was right after church and she was really busy. She may be married though so i'm trying to find that out lol

[eaglesalltheway]

I've been talking to this one girl for a little bit now and I told her my friends and I went on a walk last night around our town (it was still pretty nice then, barely needed our coats). She was talking jokingly about how she doesn't want to go on a walk at night because she would get raped. I sent back a lol and she replies with "I might like it though :), its been a while"...


How in the bloody **** do you respond to that ****? At least not without sounding like some sort of douche or perve...

[georgiafan]

I've been talking to this one girl for a little bit now and I told her my friends and I went on a walk last night around our town (it was still pretty nice then, barely needed our coats). She was talking jokingly about how she doesn't want to go on a walk at night because she would get raped. I sent back a lol and she replies with "I might like it though :), its been a while"...


How in the bloody **** do you respond to that ****? At least not without sounding like some sort of douche or perve...

I would just respond with something causual and kinda fun/flirty. She could be joking or she could be trying to get in your pants so better to play it off safe.

[kalbears13]

I've been talking to this one girl for a little bit now and I told her my friends and I went on a walk last night around our town (it was still pretty nice then, barely needed our coats). She was talking jokingly about how she doesn't want to go on a walk at night because she would get raped. I sent back a lol and she replies with "I might like it though :), its been a while"...


How in the bloody **** do you respond to that ****? At least not without sounding like some sort of douche or perve...

"me too :)"

[BuckeyeDan17]

I've been talking to this one girl for a little bit now and I told her my friends and I went on a walk last night around our town (it was still pretty nice then, barely needed our coats). She was talking jokingly about how she doesn't want to go on a walk at night because she would get raped. I sent back a lol and she replies with "I might like it though :), its been a while"...


How in the bloody **** do you respond to that ****? At least not without sounding like some sort of douche or perve...

To be honest, I'd play dumb a bit and not really think too much about what to say. Maybe just casually change the subject to a normal one. Stay conservative maybe and see how persistent she stays with those kinds of remarks. If she makes a couple more, maybe she's looking for a railing. But if she makes a lot, don't continue to be unresponsive, or she'll feel like she's getting rejected.

Playing dumb has always worked for me in those moments where I was unsure how to respond to remarks I was unsure what to make of. But then again, I have difficulty believing girls are flirting with me.

[someone447]

I've been talking to this one girl for a little bit now and I told her my friends and I went on a walk last night around our town (it was still pretty nice then, barely needed our coats). She was talking jokingly about how she doesn't want to go on a walk at night because she would get raped. I sent back a lol and she replies with "I might like it though :), its been a while"...


How in the bloody **** do you respond to that ****? At least not without sounding like some sort of douche or perve...

She brought it up, so you won't sound like a perv. Invite her to hang out, then afterwards invite her to your place and make a move. She is into it. There is no doubt about that.

[Brent]

tell her that she better watch her ******* back with a pic of you in a ski mask.



am I doing that right?

[MetSox17]

Tell her you've always wanted to have sex with her at gun-point. That might get you somewhere.

[eaglesalltheway]

tell her that she better watch her ******* back with a pic of you in a ski mask.



am I doing that right?

I almost considered doing that, lol, but it would've just been in a giant hoodie. So either we're both doing it right, or...

I just went with a mix of kal and georgiafan said, sorta.

Oh and someone, that is already in the plans, I brought that up later on yesterday.

[georgiafan]

I almost considered doing that, lol, but it would've just been in a giant hoodie. So either we're both doing it right, or...

I just went with a mix of kal and georgiafan said, sorta.

Oh and someone, that is already in the plans, I brought that up later on yesterday.


what did she say?

[eaglesalltheway]

Nothing really, just laughed and then she brought up the snow we were supposed to get last night, and since it was weather, I got off topic pretty easily, lol.

[georgiafan]

Nothing really, just laughed and then she brought up the snow we were supposed to get last night, and since it was weather, I got off topic pretty easily, lol.

sounds like she may have been joking which shows she prob has a good sense of humor if she's able to joke and laugh about something like that. You can always find a way to casually bring up sex when you text her the next time and see what she says.

[eaglesalltheway]

Yeah, its not really a huge deal, it just really threw me off how it all got brought up.

Outside of that comment, this chick has been real cool to talk to, one of the few chicks I can actually have a conversation about football with, who actually knows her team (including o-linemen and defensive players names), the only problem... her team is the Giants, lol.

[georgiafan]

Yeah, its not really a huge deal, it just really threw me off how it all got brought up.

Outside of that comment, this chick has been real cool to talk to, one of the few chicks I can actually have a conversation about football with, who actually knows her team (including o-linemen and defensive players names), the only problem... her team is the Giants, lol.

The good thing about a girl that cheers for another time is that it's easy to flirt/trash talk with her bad mouthing the team she cheers for. I never trash talk or anything about teams with other guys but with girls it's diffrent. That happens alot down here in the south when just about every girl follows college football.

Have yall went out on a date yet?

[georgiafan]

Quick poll on a first date who opens the car door for the girl?

[Brent]

Quick poll on a first date who opens the car door for the girl?
I might but I doubt it

[A Perfect Score]

Quick poll on a first date who opens the car door for the girl?

Depends on the girl. If she seems like she'd buy the sentimentality, then go for it. Others might just laugh at you though.

[raiderz4life]

Quick poll on a first date who opens the car door for the girl?

If she's into the chivalry stuff...then yes...if not....then let her open her own gtdamn door

[eaglesalltheway]

Have yall went out on a date yet?

Not yet, I've got one lined up though. I saw this girl for the first time in a while a few weeks ago and talked with her on FB after. I saw her again and exchanged numbers (a week or so ago), and we've been talking regularly since then.

[eaglesalltheway]

Simple way to figure this out... You should be driving, correct? If she opens the door by the time you get to it, let her. If she is opening her own door (your door) she obviously doesn't care. Otherwise, open it. I usually plan on opening it for her either way, bc that's just the type of guy I am, but I've had chicks who could care less, and if they don't care, I'm not going to go out of my way... Sometimes you just gotta let **** figure it out for itself.

[MetSox17]

I'm a pretty chivalrous guy, very old fashioned, but my gf just recently reamed me out for not opening the car door for her. So, of course i'm doing it now.

[killxswitch]

She reamed you out? For that? Really?

[MetSox17]

Well it was a jokingly serious kind of conversation, i was just being a little dramatic.

[BamaFalcon59]

I royally effed up.

Met this girl and had her jocking me. Talked for a few days, went on a date. Had just broke up with her ex of a year and a half day before. Back with him. Talks to me today and essentially lectured me on what I did wrong as far as being to nice and the like. I could have had it had I just done it right. She was a dime.

This one stings.

[raiderz4life]

I'm a pretty chivalrous guy, very old fashioned, but my gf just recently reamed me out for not opening the car door for her. So, of course i'm doing it now.

Same here but sometimes i forget to open the door cuz i carpool with my sister to school in the mornings and i never open it for her so sometimes i'll forget to do it for non-sibling girls lol

[bhaarat316]

bitchesssz be crazy anyways. They want you to be nice, but like the guys that a bit of an ass to them. Open the door and be chilvalrous, they may take it that you are a pushover.

[MetSox17]

Most girls can and will distinguish chivalry and politeness with being a little *****. It's how you act around your friends, and when you're out together that they form their opinion of you. I've never gotten the 'too nice' from a girl for being polite. It has happened though for being a little too willing to hear them out on their life problems. But, i'm glad i'm on hiatus from the dating scene, i miss the single life sometimes but definitely not that.

[Hawk]

My girlfriend of 2 years ended things a couple days ago. Needless to say its been tough for me, especially since all my roommates and friends are home for winter break and I'm here by myself. I've been out of the game too long, not sure what to do.

[BaLLiN]

My girlfriend of 2 years ended things a couple days ago. Needless to say its been tough for me, especially since all my roommates and friends are home for winter break and I'm here by myself. I've been out of the game too long, not sure what to do.

youll be fine bro, just takes time to get used to it. Alcohol can do two things to the situation, make you extremely sad or let you forget it and have a good time. My advice to you is to lay back with your guy friends to get your morale up, women are an enigma that stresses one out to no end.

[StickSkills]

Serious question here, should I be concerned that I"m 20 and never had a relationship? I have had my one night stands and ish, but I've never had a relationship with a girl at all. There really isn't anyone that stands out to me in these 20 years where Im like, "yes, there's something special there." Or do I just not know what something special is and take it for granted?

[raiderz4life]

youll be fine bro, just takes time to get used to it. Alcohol can do two things to the situation, make you extremely sad or let you forget it and have a good time. My advice to you is to lay back with your guy friends to get your morale up, women are an enigma that stresses one out to no end.

Alcohol will mess with you if you drink by yourself while sulking. If you're gonna drink do it at a social even or just chillin with close friends.

[CashmoneyDrew]

Whatever you do Hawk, do not immediately jump into another relationship. My two best friends are notorious for dating girls for long periods of time and then getting right back into another serious relationship a week or two later and it bugs me to no end.
Take some time for yourself and enjoy the single life a bit. Rely on your friends and family during this time and just have some fun.

[kalbears13]

Serious question here, should I be concerned that I"m 20 and never had a relationship? I have had my one night stands and ish, but I've never had a relationship with a girl at all. There really isn't anyone that stands out to me in these 20 years where Im like, "yes, there's something special there." Or do I just not know what something special is and take it for granted?

Don't worry.

[49erNation85]

How do you guys go about handling getting x mas presents for the gf? Be my first holiday season of having some one.I kind have an idea but not sure exactly what to get. Should it be something more personal or something out of the box ?

[kalbears13]

How do you guys go about handling getting x mas presents for the gf? Be my first holiday season of having some one.I kind have an idea but not sure exactly what to get. Should it be something more personal or something out of the box ?

Here's something that might help:

Female Gift Value = (Monetary Value) / (Function)

So something like flowers or jewelry are high up there while a vacuum or dish soap are not.

[MetSox17]

How do you guys go about handling getting x mas presents for the gf? Be my first holiday season of having some one.I kind have an idea but not sure exactly what to get. Should it be something more personal or something out of the box ?

How long/serious is it?

The longer the relationship has been, the more personal and meaningful you wanna go with a gift. If she has been your girlfriend for like, a month, buy her a perfume or something.

[49erNation85]

Metsox,
well we just started dating in Sept .But have been friends since last summer in 2010. So I'm fairly new to the whole gift idea. I do have a necklace in mind but I wanted to get a few more things. Also I'm not sure if I should order them or go to a store.


kalbears13,
Yes I know that much and wouldn't even go there because it would not show nothing to speak.

She into the whole animal thing as well and loves pink or sparkly stuff like that. Also into the peace sing deal so I guess I just have to start looking around and get my butt in gear.

[Hawk]

Whatever you do Hawk, do not immediately jump into another relationship. My two best friends are notorious for dating girls for long periods of time and then getting right back into another serious relationship a week or two later and it bugs me to no end.
Take some time for yourself and enjoy the single life a bit. Rely on your friends and family during this time and just have some fun.

Appreciate the advice bro, yeah I wasn't planning on that. Its tough getting adjusting to not having steady action. That's the motivation though.

[Ravens1991]

I got this girls number in my one class just now. I told her I will text her if i know of any parties next semester. I was wondering should I text her over break or text her during break? I was thinking about texting her about our take home final but if it is a easy final I dont want to look like a dumbass.

[SickwithIt1010]

So been talking to this girl a lot lately. She has mentioned dating and talking about how she likes me and spending time with me. I feel the same way and what not and over thanksgiving we hung out a ton, I brought home a buddy from school who wasnt gonna be able to make it back, and so he was always there as well which kinda bummed me out sometimes because I woulda liked to spend some time alone with her.

Well I head back for break tomorrow for christmas and we havent stopped talking. I brought up the idea of takin her to dinner or goin out on a couple dates and what not...and she has kinda been scared about the idea. Shes worried that now its more "official" and that there is more pressure since my buddy isnt there. I know she had a terrible ending to her last relationship so I've made sure to let her know I'm not gonna try to rush her, but id like to spend some time with her. She seems open to try it, but im worried it might be a little awkward. Shes just scared, she doesnt wanna rush into anything and I understand that....but wow.

[MetSox17]

You're gonna look like an even bigger dumbass when you text her next semester and she forgot who you were. Just text her.

[Ravens1991]

yea I thought about that too but since we only had a few conversations about the class IDK if I would come off creepy texting her. I figured gether to a party then talk to her there. but what should i text her though.

[raiderz4life]

I got a 10" dick plus balls

never fails.

[MetSox17]

raiderz has it on target. but if you want something a little more subtle, just ask her what she's doing this weekend. gain some intel, and take it from there.

[Brent]

I got this girls number in my one class just now. I told her I will text her if i know of any parties next semester. I was wondering should I text her over break or text her during break? I was thinking about texting her about our take home final but if it is a easy final I dont want to look like a dumbass.
Ask her if she would like to get together for drinks as a post-final celebration.

[MetSox17]

Follow Brent's advice, he takes advantage of many women this way.

[Brent]

Follow Brent's advice, he takes advantage of many women this way.
I wish it were that easy. I'm actually jealous of the kiddos on the forum still in college. They don't have a clue how much easier getting laid is than when you are out of school.

[georgiafan]

I got this girls number in my one class just now. I told her I will text her if i know of any parties next semester. I was wondering should I text her over break or text her during break? I was thinking about texting her about our take home final but if it is a easy final I dont want to look like a dumbass.

just text her remember girls send out 4500 texts a day so she prob will not think anything of it.

[MetSox17]

I wish it were that easy. I'm actually jealous of the kiddos on the forum still in college. They don't have a clue how much easier getting laid is than when you are out of school.

I don't remember posting that.

[BRAVEHEART]

Met this cute girl at work. Been conversing all week. We're both extroverts, ended up setting up a date for sat. She was working her 2nd job today while i was relaxing on my day off. She hit me up later in the day to talk. I asked her how her day was. She said it was busy, and that she just got out of dinner with her Boss (who's a doctor). Of course, being the smart guy that I am, comment back and say "I guess it's who you know at the end of the day, huh?". She's taken a back, and is like "WTF, 1st of all my boss is female, and all of us at the office went out to eat!".
.......
http://ocobiega.org/wp-content/uploads/2010/11/Poker_FaceCzyste.png

At this point my stubborn ass tries to awkwardly spin out of it. But luckily the goodness in me stopped all of that, and I just admitted that I'm a asshole, and was wrong for jumping to conclusions. Needless to say she aint responding back, and the date is off.

anyway, all I have to say is "don't be that guy" (me)

Haven't dropped the ball like that since HS.

[Brent]

I may be drunk, but I am pretty sure nothing is behind that spoiler.

[Caddy]

Sounds lame. Doesn't really seem like something you needed to apologise for.

[MetSox17]

Why would you even consider making a comment like that? I'm always careful with my sarcasm with people i'm not familiar with, for that very reason alone. You never know how they're gonna react to something you say. Obviously you don't need to be reminded how bad of a move that was.

[BRAVEHEART]

I may be drunk, but I am pretty sure nothing is behind that spoiler.

How felt in the form of an image. Didn't need a spoiler, but the pic is a lil big.

This is another picture depicting how felt at that moment.

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_1Mo9zGgrn2o/S9CUnx7oNII/AAAAAAAAAC8/szu29Avh3UY/s1600/hanging+mexican+022.JPG

That help?

[BRAVEHEART]

Why would you even consider making a comment like that? I'm always careful with my sarcasm with people i'm not familiar with, for that very reason alone. You never know how they're gonna react to something you say. Obviously you don't need to be reminded how bad of a move that was.

I wish you realized this before posting.

[MetSox17]

What the **** man?

[BRAVEHEART]

What the **** man?

In regards to the comment, not your posts in general.

[MetSox17]

That was in regards to the turd picture.

[SuperMcgee]

Seriously, man. I had my mouth open when I saw that.

[BRAVEHEART]

That was in regards to the turd picture.

Oh, well...um, I...ahhhh. Well, I felt like a turd ya see, and I..hhmmmmm, needed to find a picture graphic enough for you all to understand how I felt (ya know, namean).


Oh, and she called me back and everything is all good in the suburbs.

[Brent]

Seriously, man. I had my mouth open when I saw that.
who doesnt send people poop-pics?

[BRAVEHEART]

Seriously, man. I had my mouth open when I saw that.

Waitaminute here. Why was your mouth open?

[SRK85]

Oh f*** me. My supervisor is hot and she is like my age. I can't tell if she is being really nice to me or actually likes me. I am tempted to ask her out. BTW I am leaving my job in 2 weeks.

[MetSox17]

Do it. Make it seem kinda casual at first to gauge her interest.

[kalbears13]

Oh f*** me. My supervisor is hot and she is like my age. I can't tell if she is being really nice to me or actually likes me. I am tempted to ask her out. BTW I am leaving my job in 2 weeks.

That sounds like a no-brainer. If you strikeout you don't have to worry about anything because you won't see her again but if you hit it off then you don't have to worry about the supervisor-understudy scandal thing.

[fischbowl]

http://jacob.efinke.com/lefthand.jpg

Hey dudes! Check out my new girlfriend!

[fischbowl]

Alright dudes, I need some serious help. My best friend and love interest is moving to the Left Coast next week. I've been helping her pack over the past couple days and seriously I've been about to lose it. She seriously is the most important person in my life and in a short time, I'm about to lose her. I really don't know what to do knowing I won't be able to see her everyday.

[CashmoneyDrew]

**** it Fischy. Just move with her.

[fischbowl]

**** it Fischy. Just move with her.

I can't leave my job, it's far too good for me.

I love her, and saying that, the time past since she made the decision to move has really been emotionally damaging. I've tried to make the most of it with her, but I feel like we could have done more.

[slightlyaraiderfan]

does she know you're into her and is the feeling mutual?

if the answer is yes, follow her.

it's a romantic comedy waiting to happen.

[kalbears13]

fisch come live with me. I hate my roommate.

[Brent]

it's a romantic comedy waiting to happen.
a comedy of errors

[fischbowl]

does she know you're into her and is the feeling mutual?

if the answer is yes, follow her.

it's a romantic comedy waiting to happen.

Romantically, I never thought the feelings were mutual. If they were, with how long I've known her, we'd be dating already. However, she does care for me more than anyone I know.

I can't go out there, somehow I feel like that would be a terrible mistake. Stay the course, as it is maybe and see what its like with us separated, but it won't be the same. I'm going to miss her dearly. We have one big night together left on Friday. I bought a little gift and we're going out to eat. I'm going to take her to my favourite view of the city and show her what she'll be missing.

[draftguru151]

Romantically, I never thought the feelings were mutual. If they were, with how long I've known her, we'd be dating already. However, she does care for me more than anyone I know.

I can't go out there, somehow I feel like that would be a terrible mistake. Stay the course, as it is maybe and see what its like with us separated, but it won't be the same. I'm going to miss her dearly. We have one big night together left on Friday. I bought a little gift and we're going out to eat. I'm going to take her to my favourite view of the city and show her what she'll be missing.

About time!

[kalbears13]

Romantically, I never thought the feelings were mutual. If they were, with how long I've known her, we'd be dating already. However, she does care for me more than anyone I know.

I can't go out there, somehow I feel like that would be a terrible mistake. Stay the course, as it is maybe and see what its like with us separated, but it won't be the same. I'm going to miss her dearly. We have one big night together left on Friday. I bought a little gift and we're going out to eat. I'm going to take her to my favourite view of the city and show her what she'll be missing.

Showing her your wiener?! NICE!

[fischbowl]

Showing her your wiener?! NICE!

Why is it so long....and black? My god.....

[Brent]

Why is it so long....and black? My god.....
"the dick transplant was successful, mr. fisch!"

[M.O.T.H.]

Been a while since I could contribute in here. lol. But yeah, I'm totally crushing on some girl at work. Lots of chemistry there. I know she likes me too, it's pretty obvious. We touch, hold hands, hug at damn near every passing. haha. I feel like I'm in middle school. Not only that, I'm the type of dude that gets love sick, like a teenage boy, as unmanly that is too admit. Sweet puppy love. HA.

There is one major problem, however...she's currently in this completely physical relationship, with one of my co-workers (different shift) and he's like 20 years older than her and I. But also a good friend of mine. She always says he's not her boyfriend. :/ It's a **** situatuon...I've been flirting with her like crazy, and vice versa, but at the same time...I'm being standoff-ish. She's not making any secret of things, however. She purposely tries to make me jealous all the time, by bringing him up. She def. likes to play games, but she really is a sweet girl.

It's just a really weird situation. On top of that, she's not the type of girl I usually go for at all. She's this super cute Asian girl, who smokes. haha. The smoking is a turn off, always has been...but there's something about her. I dont know what it is.

Not looking for advice, I have it under control. lol. Just sharing.

[MetSox17]

So she's banging a middle-aged co-worker of yours? wtf?

[raiderz4life]

So she's banging a middle-aged co-worker of yours? wtf?

I second this

[M.O.T.H.]

So she's banging a middle-aged co-worker of yours? wtf?

Yeah....that's why it's kind of a **** situation. lol. Freaks me out a little. They started this thing about a month ago.

Also, she happens to live with a former boyfriend, who tells everyone that she is his girlfriend still. HA. It's a completely ****** deal.

So many bad warning signs and red flags on this one, but for whatever reason I'm still into her. We'll see what happens...I've def. been real hesitant on this one. This whole thing with the 40+ year old dude, is just a little much.

We'll see what happens...I'm just riding this out for now.

[MetSox17]

Geez, MOTH, i hope you know what you're doing, cause it ain't gonna end well. Especially not if you're catching the feelings part of her. One dude gets to rail her, another dude actually lives with her (and wouldn't be surprised if he occasionally gets it too) and you're the one that gets the feelings yet none of the other perks? Not a good idea.

[M.O.T.H.]

Geez, MOTH, i hope you know what you're doing, cause it ain't gonna end well. Especially not if you're catching the feelings part of her. One dude gets to rail her, another dude actually lives with her (and wouldn't be surprised if he occasionally gets it too) and you're the one that gets the feelings yet none of the other perks? Not a good idea.

Oh I know...normally I'm the one giving advice. This is def. the most complicated thing I've come across relationship wise. I'm sure I'll get frustrated before long and just ask straight out, what the whole situation is.

My blind pup love, could be blinding me from a lot of things right now. It happens. I think it's hilarious and sad at the same time. I'm normally very level headed about these things, but sometimes something just gets you. ******* A.

[MetSox17]

Alls i know is, if she was really interested in you, she'd be banging you and not your 40some year old co-worker and her ex-boyfriend whom she still lives with. Don't let her use you as emotional entertainment, since that's obviously lacking from the other two guys she's involved with.

[M.O.T.H.]

These things run through my mind all the time...I'll figure it out, dont worry. Dont even know if I could trust her, if I ever did start dating her, either. Again...soooooooo many red flags here. Maybe it will pass. haha. Doubtful, but maybe.

[A Perfect Score]

Alls i know is, if she was really interested in you, she'd be banging you and not your 40some year old co-worker and her ex-boyfriend whom she still lives with. Don't let her use you as emotional entertainment, since that's obviously lacking from the other two guys she's involved with.

This, this and more this. Trust me, I've been there as well. I'd be willing to bet alot of people have. I understand that sometimes a connection is hard to deny, but Metsox speaks the truth. When it's all boiled down, if she wanted to be with you, she would be. Don't let yourself get strung along while she keeps you on the backburner in case she can't turn things around with this other guy.

Of course, I'm embittered. So maybe don't listen to me.

[M.O.T.H.]

I honestly do believe she would break it off with the 40 year old, if I asked her out. I just have no idea what is going on there, with the living with the ex-boyfriend. lol. End one problem, another one persists.

I'll keep you guys posted. haha. Like I said, I'm normally very level headed, this is a bit of a cluster ****, with minimal percentage of actual success. While I do like the girl, I'm not oblivious to all the other ****. I dont honestly think it will end well, either....but I really do feel a real connection. And I'm not normally wrong in these situations.

Just one of those things...tons of girls out there, but all my focus is on one at the moment.

[CJSchneider]

So she's banging a middle-aged co-worker of yours? wtf?

I second this

As if you can no longer "lay pipe" once you get middle aged.

[Ness]

Super cute Asian girl? Domestically raised? Or international?

In any case, I agree with what a couple of the other posters have just stated. Perhaps you should start looking elsewhere. Or rather, at least file her away, and if something comes up later you can bounce back and see what's going on. But she's potentially screwing two other guys every other day from what I've read. Just seems like too big of a mess to get involved.

[georgiafan]

As a single guy i think this sums up where I'm at now and pretty much every single guy for that matter.

qjPBMAmNH14

[killxswitch]

What a terrible idea MOTH.

[Brent]

it's a trap, MOTH!

[Nalej]

Worst. Idea. Ever.
Bone her if you'd like... but nothing more.

[BamaFalcon59]

Runnnnnnnnnnnnn

fwiw i had a thing with a slutty asian. one of the hottest girls i know, maybe the. mistake came with the emotional part... no matter if you click, having feelings for a slutty girl is no bueno. and you're not even hitting it.

[YAYareaRB]

lay the pipe and gtfo

[M.O.T.H.]

Super cute Asian girl? Domestically raised? Or international?

In any case, I agree with what a couple of the other posters have just stated. Perhaps you should start looking elsewhere. Or rather, at least file her away, and if something comes up later you can bounce back and see what's going on. But she's potentially screwing two other guys every other day from what I've read. Just seems like too big of a mess to get involved.

She was adopted and raised here.

As for an update...it's progressing, actually. There are still red flags out the ass, though. hahaha. I'm setting myself for failure here. We talked for a few hours yesterday, she knows for sure that I like her now.

I think I'm too deep into this potential trap. lol. I think this whole thing is hilarious, though. I have a pretty boring life...so I'll welcome this very weird situation.

[G-Mac]

She sounds attention-craving. Somebody who adapts to the environment that she's in. She probably says all the right things to all three of you. She probably tells the guy she lives with that they are together, yet tells every other guy that crushes on her that they're not and he's just a friend. She probably makes the mid-aged dude she's banging feel like he's the medallion of her life and says everything he wants to hear, but tells everybody else it's just a rare hookup.

Sounds like you're developing some feelings for her, but it only gets worse from here. i wouldn't even bang her because the feelings will come harder and when you find out the inevitable (you're just "another guy") it's going to crush you.

Just my two pennies.

[killxswitch]

You're not really asking for advice so I guess you aren't planning to listen to all the people telling you this is a terrible idea.