Relationship Advice Thread

[NotRickJames]

At work now, drunk as ****, than goodness Im outta here at 1pm.....

Went 2 sleep at 430Am and had 2 open the shop at 8am......UGH!!!!

At least im drunk and have a fat sack of Kush for when I get off, damn 1'o clock couldnt come soone enought


You're not drunk, mate.

[bsaza2358]

Props that we have 2001 posts in this thread... many of them relevant to the topic at hand!

[yourfavestoner]

Just an update on my status: things are turning out very, very interesting. We're both very interested in each other (to the point where feelings are beginning to develop for both parties). Yet, we're both such free-spirited people that the idea of even liking somebody is frightening, as we both tend to run from any form of commitment.

Gonna be interesting to see how this keeps unfolding. I'll keep you guys updated.

[awfullyquiet]

I'll keep you guys posted on what transpires.

That, my friend, sounds like a trap.

You may 'win', but in the end, it's always a loss.

[CashmoneyDrew]

Supposed to be going swimming with this chick I have a thing for tomorrow. I just hope the weather holds up.

[bearfan]

Ok, wierd scenario

So this girl and my best friend went out for something around 7 months. Really the 3 of us are best friends by this point, but he broke up with her. We all still hang out though, so we see each other all the time (same group of friends).

Her and I have always kinda flirted, but always joking around about things. Today when we were hanging out we were kidding around, and then I get home and she texts me "This kid thought we were going out". I was like ok? And she then starts telling me how everyone thinks we should date. Her and I get along well, but I had never viewed her like that because we would always kid. Then she is asking if I would like her if it wasnt her. I just told her I had never thought about it. Then she goes and texts me "Will you date me? :)"

Woah, didnt see that coming. Im telling her I havent really thought about it before, I dont know what to do. I can see myself liking her, but maybe its wierd because of my best friend? I also have 1st hand knowledge of how she is when dating, which I dont know is a plus.

Then another thing in the back of my mind is this other girl that I have a great relationship with. She is pretty, and we get along well but we dont hang out as often as I do with the other girl. Something always comes up on either side. With her its kinda like we like each other on and off, and this has been going on for a while but nothing ever happens.

I feel like if I date the 1st girl I would lose the relationship I have with the second.

So what do you guys think?

[CashmoneyDrew]

Date both.

[kalbears13]

Ok, wierd scenario

So this girl and my best friend went out for something around 7 months. Really the 3 of us are best friends by this point, but he broke up with her. We all still hang out though, so we see each other all the time (same group of friends).

Her and I have always kinda flirted, but always joking around about things. Today when we were hanging out we were kidding around, and then I get home and she texts me "This kid thought we were going out". I was like ok? And she then starts telling me how everyone thinks we should date. Her and I get along well, but I had never viewed her like that because we would always kid. Then she is asking if I would like her if it wasnt her. I just told her I had never thought about it. Then she goes and texts me "Will you date me? :)"

Woah, didnt see that coming. Im telling her I havent really thought about it before, I dont know what to do. I can see myself liking her, but maybe its wierd because of my best friend? I also have 1st hand knowledge of how she is when dating, which I dont know is a plus.

Then another thing in the back of my mind is this other girl that I have a great relationship with. She is pretty, and we get along well but we dont hang out as often as I do with the other girl. Something always comes up on either side. With her its kinda like we like each other on and off, and this has been going on for a while but nothing ever happens.

I feel like if I date the 1st girl I would lose the relationship I have with the second.

So what do you guys think?

Haha this sound exactly like the scenario I was in for 6 months besides the second girl. I would take it slow and make sure it's not just a rebound.

[bearfan]

Haha this sound exactly like the scenario I was in for 6 months besides the second girl. I would take it slow and make sure it's not just a rebound.

Thats what Im thinking. She is about to call me, I think Im going to be just like "lets see how it goes". I dont want to just all of the sudden date her lol. My best friend has been being a douche lately, so if we were to date I wouldnt be worrying about it a lot lol.

[Brent]

Supposed to be going swimming with this chick I have a thing for tomorrow. I just hope the weather holds up.
Don't get a boner or shrinkage, that swimsuit hides nothing.

[bsaza2358]

That, my friend, sounds like a trap.

You may 'win', but in the end, it's always a loss.

My usual impression on these things is that it's a trap, but I have no real commitment here. I don't usually even try the friends thing, but I just want to see what transpires. I'm not trying to 'win' with her anymore. I have other girls I'm dating. This is more an experiment for me to see if I can do it and if my instincts are correct.

[bsaza2358]

Ok, wierd scenario

So this girl and my best friend went out for something around 7 months. Really the 3 of us are best friends by this point, but he broke up with her. We all still hang out though, so we see each other all the time (same group of friends).

Her and I have always kinda flirted, but always joking around about things. Today when we were hanging out we were kidding around, and then I get home and she texts me "This kid thought we were going out". I was like ok? And she then starts telling me how everyone thinks we should date. Her and I get along well, but I had never viewed her like that because we would always kid. Then she is asking if I would like her if it wasnt her. I just told her I had never thought about it. Then she goes and texts me "Will you date me? :)"

Woah, didnt see that coming. Im telling her I havent really thought about it before, I dont know what to do. I can see myself liking her, but maybe its wierd because of my best friend? I also have 1st hand knowledge of how she is when dating, which I dont know is a plus.

Then another thing in the back of my mind is this other girl that I have a great relationship with. She is pretty, and we get along well but we dont hang out as often as I do with the other girl. Something always comes up on either side. With her its kinda like we like each other on and off, and this has been going on for a while but nothing ever happens.

I feel like if I date the 1st girl I would lose the relationship I have with the second.

So what do you guys think?

Okay, if you haven't thought about liking your friend before, you're either lying or you have issues. Or she's ugly. That is basically the deal. If she's one of your best friends, you are taking a huge risk by pursuing that relationship. If it doesn't work out, you will have to destroy the friendship, then rebuild it. Not saying it won't, just saying that is a reality. You also have to ask your buddy for permission. Since he dumped her a while ago, he should be okay with it, but if he says no, you can't do it. 7 months gives him veto power.

In terms of your other relationship, if you're even considering this new one, your existing thing is already in trouble. You're outlining potential problems that could prove fatal. Basically, you don't sound happy with either situation, which is not a positive. Figure your own crap out before ending one relationship and starting another.

[NY+Giants=NYG]

Ok, wierd scenario

So this girl and my best friend went out for something around 7 months. Really the 3 of us are best friends by this point, but he broke up with her. We all still hang out though, so we see each other all the time (same group of friends).

Her and I have always kinda flirted, but always joking around about things. Today when we were hanging out we were kidding around, and then I get home and she texts me "This kid thought we were going out". I was like ok? And she then starts telling me how everyone thinks we should date. Her and I get along well, but I had never viewed her like that because we would always kid. Then she is asking if I would like her if it wasnt her. I just told her I had never thought about it. Then she goes and texts me "Will you date me? :)"

Woah, didnt see that coming. Im telling her I havent really thought about it before, I dont know what to do. I can see myself liking her, but maybe its wierd because of my best friend? I also have 1st hand knowledge of how she is when dating, which I dont know is a plus.

Then another thing in the back of my mind is this other girl that I have a great relationship with. She is pretty, and we get along well but we dont hang out as often as I do with the other girl. Something always comes up on either side. With her its kinda like we like each other on and off, and this has been going on for a while but nothing ever happens.

I feel like if I date the 1st girl I would lose the relationship I have with the second.

So what do you guys think?


Which one do you have a better foundation or chemistry with? Finding a girl who is your best friend and then dating is hard. So if you have the good fortune of making it work or trying, I would do it. See where that goes. If it works out, you're golden. You then dated a girl, who is also a best friend. That's a pretty cool thing in my opinion. But obviously you have to find her attractive and such. Do you think she is gf material? Also one big thing is ask your best friend. I would just to let him know as a courtesy that you're interested.

[bearfan]

Ok, so it has kinda been resolved.
She called me because she knew I was really confused because she knew I thought she asked me out lol. The whole thing was really confusing, but in the end she never did. Everything is fine now.

And Bsaza I have thought about it, not a lot because she was going out with my friend so I kinda put the off limits tag on her. Both girls I find attractive since you guys asked.

Thanks for the advice guys

[awfullyquiet]

can we talk about the rampant misogyny for a while?

i'm sick of it.

[Brent]

can we talk about the rampant misogyny for a while?

i'm sick of it.
Haha, where is someone447 to reiterate this?

[bsaza2358]

I think I've done a pretty good job of toning down the "misogyny"... haha

[CJSchneider]

can we talk about the rampant misogyny for a while?

i'm sick of it.

No misogyny here.

[BigDawg819]

can we talk about the rampant misogyny for a while?

i'm sick of it.


I agree its a sad state of affairs, and yet its become a standard it seems in this day and age. Its debatable which gender actually plays more games, but in my experience the actions of women in my past have led to my own misogyny. I have worked hard to not believe it anymore, and try each day not to let it run rampant in my thoughts. But the old saying holds relevance; "Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me." I'm not the type to play things close to the vest in a relationship, and yet that always seems to be a downfall.

Dating begets misogyny, misogyny begets frustration, frustration begets change.

Still waiting on change, but at least I have faith. ;)

[awfullyquiet]

It's fun that the automatic response though it to: blame the woman though.

I'm real big into the concept that the only thing you can change is yourself.

The way you react to, the way you assume, the way you assess the situation your in is the only thing you can change about the situation. I mean, that's why I'm fascinated by Bzaza's higher level thinking in this situation.

It's easy to blame women, but the fact that we don't actually understand each other at a very base level because we're speaking completely different languages. And the default reaction to the lack of understanding is to frustrate, hate, and try to maintain dominance over.

Begin to understand and relax on the need to be better.

[bsaza2358]

Well, I'm older, and I think I'm pretty rational and very intelligent. Once I understand a concept/situation, I can rationalize it and get past it. In the case of this girl, we had a really good connection personally, but there wasn't a romantic spark where there should have been. I don't have any spite towards the girl, and she was actually a sweetheart about the whole process. I spoke with her, and she normally doesn't offer the friendship card as a "let down easy" tactic. I don't normally accept, but the girl is really cool, really nice, and I figure there could be some value to it.

[CashmoneyDrew]

damn't it's not working.... nvm.

[Canadian_kid16]

All right guys, I have a little scenario here, let's see if anyone can help out.

So, yesterday was my prom. The dance ok or whatever, had a decent date blah blah blah. The After Party was a bit of a mess, because of the "popular girls" got dumped by her b/f that night, and the threat of cops turned many people down. Whatever, thats not important.

Whats important is that during the AP, while everyone was pretty hammered, I had one of my friends (a girl, obviously) hanging all over me from 1 AM till about 3:30. At 3:30, another girl, noticing how attached she was to me, suggested I kiss her. Now, that may seem like no big deal, but I had never kissed a girl before, so it was something new.

Luckily for me, I did, and we spent the next three hours in her tent making out and things of the like (didn't get much farther than first base, but whatever). Since it was freezing this morning, we went in my buddies car with him (after we sobered up) and did a little more making out, while sober.

My question is this: I never really asked her out that night. Plus she's the kind of girl that wouldn't do the kind of thing that she did do (make out with me in a somewhat random manner). So should I ask her out, and if I do, should it be ASAP or after our Grade 12 exams are over with (in two weeks)?


So...yesterday was my last exam of high school. Went to Transformers 2 with the girl and a bunch of our friends. Talked to her afterwards, and I now have a girlfriend.

Neither us have any experience in dating, so it should be interesting. Wish me luck?

[Brent]

Neither us have any experience in dating, so it should be interesting. Wish me luck?
are you done with high school now or are you still in high school?

if you are going off to college in the fall, try to get as much ass as possible from this girl before you eventually have to end it.

[Canadian_kid16]

are you done with high school now or are you still in high school?

if you are going off to college in the fall, try to get as much ass as possible from this girl before you eventually have to end it.

just ended high school...going to the same university in similar programs with alot of overlapping classes

[kalbears13]

just ended high school...going to the same university in similar programs with alot of overlapping classes

It could possibly be a problem being in overlapping classes but there should be some upside. Congratulations. This is one of the few stories from the RAT that GMH.

[BamaFalcon59]

Bump.

So I met this girl. She is hot, she's 15 though and I'm 17. Not a huge issue.

But I'm not really that interested in her. She texts me non stop. I've seen her once and shes already wanting to go out with me. But I hardly know her, and she has a **** vibe to her.

Maybe she is cool, but right now I'm not feeling it.

But I have a feeling I would feel like **** if I just hit it and quit it.

On the other hand, I'm 17. Maybe I just shouldn't care.

?

[CJSchneider]

On the other hand, I'm 17. Maybe I just shouldn't care.

?

You said it, that's just me though.

[BigDawg819]

Is 29 to old to be with a 22 year old? Thoughts???

[DeepThreat]

Is 29 to old to be with a 22 year old? Thoughts???

NEVER too old to be with a 22 year old girl.

[awfullyquiet]

Is 29 to old to be with a 22 year old? Thoughts???

no.
post 6666.

[CJSchneider]

NEVER too old to be with a 22 year old girl.

That's what I'm sayin'!

[BigDawg819]

My thoughts exactly, although some have disagreed. Old fashioned relics....

[CashmoneyDrew]

My thoughts exactly, although some have disagreed. Old fashioned relics....

Old fashioned people shouldn't care about age difference. They used to date with huge age differences.

[BlindSite]

Is 29 to old to be with a 22 year old? Thoughts???

I'm 21 and I'm slammin a 22 yr old, if I could be still slammin' a 22yr old in 8 yrs life must be good.

[awfullyquiet]

what if it's the other way around?

what if i'm damn near 30 and i'm with a 22 yr old?

thoughts?

[CJSchneider]

When I was 19 I dated a 31 year old woman. I don't see a problem with it.

[awfullyquiet]

When I was 19 I dated a 31 year old woman. I don't see a problem with it.

i don't either. but. it's 'good' to date young girls. but 'not as good' to date older ones...

just pointing it out.

[CJSchneider]

I would say that stereotype is going away. Better yet, it is being hunted down and killed by 'cougars'.

[awfullyquiet]

I would say that stereotype is going away. Better yet, it is being hunted down and killed by 'cougars'.

where's fenikz when you need him.

[Staubach12]

just hit it and quit it.

It's just that easy.

[CashmoneyDrew]

what if it's the other way around?

what if i'm damn near 30 and i'm with a 22 yr old?

thoughts?

I'm 20. So you can take that number lower if you so choose..........

[tjsunstein]

I'm 20. So you can take that number lower if you so choose..........

Nineteen. Got ya beat.

[jballa838]

Nineteen. Got ya beat.
I'm 18. I win.

[Canadian_kid16]

I'm 18. I win.

17, I'm pretty sure I win

[awfullyquiet]

that's stat rape. no can do.

[Brent]

i don't either. but. it's 'good' to date young girls. but 'not as good' to date older ones...
how often do you hang out with boys in their early 20's? do you not know how ridiculously obnoxious and immature we are? I mean, ****, just look around at this forum.

[awfullyquiet]

how often do you hang out with boys in their early 20's? do you not know how ridiculously obnoxious and immature we are? I mean, ****, just look around at this forum.

oh i do know. the crowd i hang with could care less... but, yes, for the most part boys in their early twenties are highly obnoxious and immature, and yes, i do stay away for the most part, but some younger guys can be nice, cool, and genuinely less ********... but, they get like, omg you're like almost 30 stigma shot at you... it's happened before.

[MetSox17]

I actually prefer dating up. Don't get me wrong, i love hitting on younger girls, cause they're stupid and drunk all the time (shooting fish in a barrel), but i don't seem to have much of a connection with any girls my age. At least not down here. The only problem with dating up is that women that age sometimes expect to be dating men with their own house, nice car, nice job.. etc.

[Brent]

I actually prefer dating up. Don't get me wrong, i love hitting on younger girls, cause they're stupid and drunk all the time (shooting fish in a barrel), but i don't seem to have much of a connection with any girls my age. At least not down here. The only problem with dating up is that women that age sometimes expect to be dating men with their own house, nice car, nice job.. etc.
I am easily turned off by even the slightest ****. I guess I'm just picky as it gets.

[MetSox17]

I am easily turned off by even the slightest ****. I guess I'm just picky as it gets.

You and me both, man. Sometimes i'm miserable because of it but i can't help it.

[awfullyquiet]

I actually prefer dating up. Don't get me wrong, i love hitting on younger girls, cause they're stupid and drunk all the time (shooting fish in a barrel), but i don't seem to have much of a connection with any girls my age. At least not down here. The only problem with dating up is that women that age sometimes expect to be dating men with their own house, nice car, nice job.. etc.

very true. i mean, with the expectations...

maturity transcendends many ages... as long as they're 18?

[awfullyquiet]

I am easily turned off by even the slightest ****. I guess I'm just picky as it gets.

what's behind the ****?

[tjsunstein]

what's behind the ****?

I'm also wondering this.

[Brent]

what's behind the ****?
a euphemism (if you will) for all the things that could turn me off from a girl.

[MetSox17]

very true. i mean, with the expectations...

maturity transcendends many ages... as long as they're 18?

Which puts a 22 year old student living at home in a pretty tough situation. The young ones are too stupid and immature, and the older ones are looking to settle down with someone that they feel financially stable with. It blows.

I've never discriminated based on age.. I dated a 36 year old last year.. But it's kinda tough when you'd like to have children later in life and they're totally done with that phase of their life..

[awfullyquiet]

a euphemism (if you will) for all the things that could turn me off from a girl.

can you give me a letter?

[Brent]

can you give me a letter?
Y and X are both in there.

[awfullyquiet]

Y and X are both in there.

that SO didn't help.

[CJSchneider]

Can I buy a vowel?

[awfullyquiet]

Can I buy a vowel?

that's my line.

clue is: cupcakes.

[Brent]

that's my line.

clue is: cupcakes.
it would have been funnier if you said, "clue is: muffin tops"

[Vikes99ej]

Y and X are both in there.

Styx? IDK, Renegade is a badass song.

[CJSchneider]

Styx? IDK, Renegade is a badass song.

MBtZk13miAE


Now seriously, can I get that vowel?

[awfullyquiet]

it would have been funnier if you said, "clue is: muffin tops"

yes. agreed.

[TitleTown088]

I am easily turned off by even the slightest ****. I guess I'm just picky as it gets.

I once dumped a women because she ate her peas one at a time.

[awfullyquiet]

I once dumped a women because she ate her peas one at a time.

amazing. yet. so superficial its... noteworthy.

[TitleTown088]

amazing. yet. so superficial its... noteworthy.

I hope you got the reference? I didn't personally do that. http://tinyurl.com/o2lpg6

I did however,"dump" a girl this past year because she put on that " I love college" song in my car while talking about the hills. As soon as she put that song on something in my head clicked and I said to myself, "this isn't going to work".

[awfullyquiet]

I hope you got the reference? I didn't personally do that. http://tinyurl.com/o2lpg6

I did however,"dump" a girl this past year because she put on that " I love college" song in my car while talking about the hills. As soon as she put that song on something in my head clicked and I said to myself, "this isn't going to work".

i hope you took a dump on her.
the bolded should have been your first clue.

[CJSchneider]

I hope you got the reference? I didn't personally do that. http://tinyurl.com/o2lpg6

I did however,"dump" a girl this past year because she put on that " I love college" song in my car while talking about the hills. As soon as she put that song on something in my head clicked and I said to myself, "this isn't going to work".

I'm gonna support you on this one and say that was a wise choice.

[Brent]

i hope you took a dump on her.
the bolded should have been your first clue.
he could have been talking about how awful it is

[tjsunstein]

he could have been talking about how awful it is

Shouldn't be mentioned regardless. I think "I love college" was the dagger there.

[TimD]

Shouldn't be mentioned regardless. I think "I love college" was the dagger there.

hate that song with such a passion. unfortunately i had heard it before it got huge so i already hated it by the time it started being played all the time. i never had a happy period with that song.

['cuse-213]

I like girl. Friends like girl. Can't tell girl that she is liked.

[tjsunstein]

I like girl. Friends like girl. Can't tell girl that she is liked.

Friends like girl, how? Like they have a genuine interest in her or she is "likeable"? Sometimes you don't have to be outright in telling her but instead work your way to a point where she knows and you can gather a reaction from her.

['cuse-213]

Friends like girl, how? Like they have a genuine interest in her or she is "likeable"? Sometimes you don't have to be outright in telling her but instead work your way to a point where she knows and you can gather a reaction from her.

It's sort of an odd situation. I have a group of about 9 best friends. All of us hang out everyday. The girl is the little sister of my closest best friend. She is in the group of 9. Myself, and 3 others like the girl. The 3 others are kinda open about it and talk about when we're drunk and having a bro sesh. I keep it all inside though, so I feel like if I ever started anything with her or made a move, I would be betraying my other friends.

The ways we like her. One friend has grown up with her, liked her forever. One friend has recently started liking her and really just wants to **** her (this kids never kissed a girl though, so he could just be crushing). The last friend grew up with her too, they've always been close friends. But hes the one who goes out to eat with her alone and stuff (which is bad because he has a girlfriend). And me.. 2 years ago when I was introduced into this group of friends, I started liking her. And we started a little thing. Of course me being an idiot, didn't realize how good of a girl she was.. She was head over heels for me. But that was almost a year ago.

So I guess some advice I could receive is what are some ways to sneakily let this girl know that I still like her. Ways, that my friends would be ok with and wouldn't think I stole her from them.


blah.

[Brent]

So I guess some advice I could receive is what are some ways to sneakily let this girl know that I still like her. Ways, that my friends would be ok with and wouldn't think I stole her from them.
invite her to hang out with you alone?

['cuse-213]

invite her to hang out with you alone?

Yeah, true. She would probably ask who else is going, I wonder what her reaction would be to "just the two of us". YOU AND I.

[tjsunstein]

Yeah, true. She would probably ask who else is going, I wonder what her reaction would be to "just the two of us". YOU AND I.

You just say "I thought we could just go out alone. Just us for once?" Stop being a little ***** and pursue it or you'll probably regret it. Tell your "bros" first but ease them into it.

[Brent]

I would talk to one of your friends, and see what they think, just to test the waters. It's better to only upset one than all of them. Also, like TJ said, don't be a wuss about it.

[yourfavestoner]

It's sort of an odd situation. I have a group of about 9 best friends. All of us hang out everyday. The girl is the little sister of my closest best friend. She is in the group of 9. Myself, and 3 others like the girl. The 3 others are kinda open about it and talk about when we're drunk and having a bro sesh. I keep it all inside though, so I feel like if I ever started anything with her or made a move, I would be betraying my other friends.

The ways we like her. One friend has grown up with her, liked her forever. One friend has recently started liking her and really just wants to **** her (this kids never kissed a girl though, so he could just be crushing). The last friend grew up with her too, they've always been close friends. But hes the one who goes out to eat with her alone and stuff (which is bad because he has a girlfriend). And me.. 2 years ago when I was introduced into this group of friends, I started liking her. And we started a little thing. Of course me being an idiot, didn't realize how good of a girl she was.. She was head over heels for me. But that was almost a year ago.

So I guess some advice I could receive is what are some ways to sneakily let this girl know that I still like her. Ways, that my friends would be ok with and wouldn't think I stole her from them.


blah.

I know it's not a popular sentiment, but all really is fair in love and war. I mean, what the hell are your friends who like her waiting for? If you never go for a girl because your friends like her/find her attractive/wanna ****/whatever, you'll never pull a good one, because the good ones are liked by EVERYBODY. You have to be the assertive one. You have to be the one with the swag, the one not pussyfooting around trying to be a gentleman and trying to please everybody. If you want her, then go and get her my friend. You shouldn't have to explain or apologize anything to anybody if she's choosing you.

[jballa838]

I know it's not a popular sentiment, but all really is fair in love and war. I mean, what the hell are your friends who like her waiting for? If you never go for a girl because your friends like her/find her attractive/wanna ****/whatever, you'll never pull a good one, because the good ones are liked by EVERYBODY. You have to be the assertive one. You have to be the one with the swag, the one not pussyfooting around trying to be a gentleman and trying to please everybody. If you want her, then go and get her my friend. You shouldn't have to explain or apologize anything to anybody if she's choosing you.
exactly. If you like her, don't you think other people do to? That's why you gotta think you are the best because if you don't, neither will she.

[CJSchneider]

I know it's not a popular sentiment, but all really is fair in love and war. I mean, what the hell are your friends who like her waiting for? If you never go for a girl because your friends like her/find her attractive/wanna ****/whatever, you'll never pull a good one, because the good ones are liked by EVERYBODY. You have to be the assertive one. You have to be the one with the swag, the one not pussyfooting around trying to be a gentleman and trying to please everybody. If you want her, then go and get her my friend. You shouldn't have to explain or apologize anything to anybody if she's choosing you.

QFT, Fortune favors the bold.

[awfullyquiet]

You just say "I thought we could just go out alone. Just us for once?" Stop being a little ***** and pursue it or you'll probably regret it. Tell your "bros" first but ease them into it.

i think that's called 'manning up' in a situation like that.

[tjsunstein]

If you're waiting for your friends to move in then you're setting yourself up for a long waiting game that won't go anywhere because chances are, your friends are doing the same.

[awfullyquiet]

If you're waiting for your friends to move in then you're setting yourself up for a long waiting game that won't go anywhere because chances are, your friends are doing the same.

or you can employ kierkegaards logic... from either/or

"Marry, and you will regret it. Do not marry, and you will also regret it. Marry or do not marry, you will regret it either way. Whether you marry or you do not marry, you will regret it either way. Laugh at the stupidities of the world, and you will regret it; weep over them, and you will also regret it. Laugh at the stupidities of the world or weep over them, you will regret it either way. Whether you laugh at the stupidities of the world or you weep over them, you will regret it either way. Trust a girl, and you will regret it. Do not trust her, and you will also regret it. Trust a girl or do not trust her, you will regret it either way. Whether you trust a girl or do not trust her, you will regret it either way. Hang yourself, and you will regret it. Do not hang yourself, and you will also regret it. Hang yourself or do not hang yourself, you will regret it either way. Whether you hang yourself or do not hang yourself, you will regret it either way."

one way or another you can find some fault in your action. if it ends sourly, that's a regret. do what you have to do, the outcome shouldn't matter because in the end, it's not necessary to the process.

[TitleTown088]

ome shouldn't matter because in the end, it's not necessary to the process.

What the heck is that number about in your sig?

[Brent]

What the heck is that number about in your sig?
call it and find out

[TitleTown088]

call it and find out

I don't know if trust AQ. I think she's skeaming something.

[awfullyquiet]

I don't know if trust AQ. I think she's skeaming something.

that's me. a schemer.
call at your own risk.

[CJSchneider]

that's me. a schemer.


GRUpyZvLrd0

at 1:22

[kalbears13]

Yeah, true. She would probably ask who else is going, I wonder what her reaction would be to "just the two of us". YOU AND I.

You could ask her spur of the moment if she wants to grab a bite to eat and "you're in the neighborhood" and her brother's gone. Non-threatening and your "bros" shouldn't think anything of it since you were just hungry and wanted company.

[TitleTown088]

that's me. a schemer.
call at your own risk.

I know.

Is that really cannot believe I spelled it skeamer? Man, I was way off.


G4ev-BtPMM8

BTW, i called it nothing happened. I'm thinking it's some joke I don't get or something.

[awfullyquiet]

I know.

Is that really cannot believe I spelled it skeamer? Man, I was way off.

BTW, i called it nothing happened. I'm thinking it's some joke I don't get or something.

no fun.

did you wait?

i have boy problems. once i figure out whats wrong. i'll pose a question.

[TitleTown088]

no fun.

did you wait?

Just made some weird noise the whole time. Wait for what?

[awfullyquiet]

Just made some weird noise the whole time. Wait for what?

patience.
patience young padawan.

[tjsunstein]

no fun.

did you wait?

i have boy problems. once i figure out whats wrong. i'll pose a question.

I can fix those problems in an hour if you give me time. And I mean that in the most sexual way.

[TitleTown088]

patience.
patience young padawan.

I don't think so OB.

[awfullyquiet]

I can fix those problems in an hour if you give me time. And I mean that in the most sexual way.

thanks, no thanks.

[TitleTown088]

thanks, no thanks.

Well if you're open to offers, I could as well. I'll be in Chicago on the 10th too. ;)

[bsaza2358]

It's sort of an odd situation. I have a group of about 9 best friends. All of us hang out everyday. The girl is the little sister of my closest best friend. She is in the group of 9. Myself, and 3 others like the girl. The 3 others are kinda open about it and talk about when we're drunk and having a bro sesh. I keep it all inside though, so I feel like if I ever started anything with her or made a move, I would be betraying my other friends.

The ways we like her. One friend has grown up with her, liked her forever. One friend has recently started liking her and really just wants to **** her (this kids never kissed a girl though, so he could just be crushing). The last friend grew up with her too, they've always been close friends. But hes the one who goes out to eat with her alone and stuff (which is bad because he has a girlfriend). And me.. 2 years ago when I was introduced into this group of friends, I started liking her. And we started a little thing. Of course me being an idiot, didn't realize how good of a girl she was.. She was head over heels for me. But that was almost a year ago.

So I guess some advice I could receive is what are some ways to sneakily let this girl know that I still like her. Ways, that my friends would be ok with and wouldn't think I stole her from them.


blah.

Okay, first of all, get over yourself and forget your friends. None of them is dating her at all, so you're free to go after her in theory. The fact that you had no idea how great a girl she is speaks to the fact that she's either less attractive than you usually go after or she's dropped weight/changed her hair/wardrobe and now she's kickin.

If you have legit feelings for the girl, call her up, invite her out, and spill it. Keeping them inside is just going to torture you and keep you in that friend zone. If she still likes you, it could easily be on.

This could also be a situation where you're liking the girl because your friends are after her and because she used to like you. You had some sort of "ownership" of that situation, and now you're jealous of your friends' pursuit. Make sure your feelings are real before you act.

[yourfavestoner]

no fun.

did you wait?

i have boy problems. once i figure out whats wrong. i'll pose a question.

Ooooh, this should be interesting.

[Gay Ork Wang]

http://tf.nist.gov/stations/sig.html

['cuse-213]

Oh, you are good.

Okay, first of all, get over yourself and forget your friends. None of them is dating her at all, so you're free to go after her in theory. The fact that you had no idea how great a girl she is speaks to the fact that she's either less attractive than you usually go after or she's dropped weight/changed her hair/wardrobe and now she's kickin.

She is definitely a lot cuter than she is hot. But I find her just gorgeous.

This could also be a situation where you're liking the girl because your friends are after her and because she used to like you. You had some sort of "ownership" of that situation, and now you're jealous of your friends' pursuit. Make sure your feelings are real before you act.

I think this is the winner. We always talked about how I would be her first. It obviously never happened and I would for sure be jealous if she "moved on". Which is completely ridiculous because I'm sure she already has. I shouldn't have anything to be jealous over.

[tjsunstein]

Oh, you are good.

She is definitely a lot cuter than she is hot. But I find her just gorgeous.

I think this is the winner. We always talked about how I would be her first. It obviously never happened and I would for sure be jealous if she "moved on". Which is completely ridiculous because I'm sure she already has. I shouldn't have anything to be jealous over.

So are you conceding defeat or are you doing this thang?

['cuse-213]

So are you conceding defeat or are you doing this thang?

I'm gonna let it play out. It's summer and if I mess up our friendship it would be a boring summer.

[tjsunstein]

I'm gonna let it play out. It's summer and if I mess up our friendship it would be a boring summer.

I don't see how you can go backward in a situation like this but that depends on your personality, hers, the maturity of you AND your friends and so forth. There are a lot of factors in deciding something like that so it's tough to say if it will or not. That's your call.

[bsaza2358]

I think you and her need to sit down and hash it out. Get everything on the table with no expectations. Explain your feelings (not a small task at all) and listen to what she has to say. If it makes sense for both of you to be together, go for it. If it doesn't, you still have the friends thing.

[awfullyquiet]

Ooooh, this should be interesting.

mostly because it's drama-rama.

[CashmoneyDrew]

Things in my love life are starting to get kind of interesting. I've been single for a little bit and mostly just playing the field and being a college kid. Now out of almost nowhere it seems like I might have 4, maybe 5 options if I want to pursue an actual relationship. **** is getting ridiculous.

[tjsunstein]

Things in my love life are starting to get kind of interesting. I've been single for a little bit and mostly just playing the field and being a college kid. Now out of almost nowhere it seems like I might have 4, maybe 5 options if I want to pursue an actual relationship. **** is getting ridiculous.

You may have too many options and just **** them all up. Be careful.

[CashmoneyDrew]

You may have too many options and just **** them all up. Be careful.

That's actually what I'm really worried about TBH.

[kalbears13]

Girls are sooooo ********... (sorry aq)

Two of these girls who I'm really good friends with, are in Paris to study abroad and they post on my facebook wall: "I hate you." and "Consider this friendship over." yesterday afternoon I post back to both of them "What???" and I even asked one of them on facebook chat about it but they ignored me. So the whole day and during work I'm just wondering what the **** is going on and was furious and it made everything about that day even ****tier. Some of my friends commented on their stuff saying it was "****ed up" but they didn't respond. Then I find out 7:00 this morning that they were "just joking". For no reason.

[NBA]

Girls are sooooo ********... (sorry aq)

Two of these girls who I'm really good friends with, are in Paris to study abroad and they post on my facebook wall: "I hate you." and "Consider this friendship over." yesterday afternoon I post back to both of them "What???" and I even asked one of them on facebook chat about it but they ignored me. So the whole day and during work I'm just wondering what the **** is going on and was furious and it made everything about that day even ****tier. Some of my friends commented on their stuff saying it was "****ed up" but they didn't respond. Then I find out 7:00 this morning that they were "just joking". For no reason.

I call ********

[Vikes99ej]

Girls are sooooo ********... (sorry aq)

Two of these girls who I'm really good friends with, are in Paris to study abroad and they post on my facebook wall: "I hate you." and "Consider this friendship over." yesterday afternoon I post back to both of them "What???" and I even asked one of them on facebook chat about it but they ignored me. So the whole day and during work I'm just wondering what the **** is going on and was furious and it made everything about that day even ****tier. Some of my friends commented on their stuff saying it was "****ed up" but they didn't respond. Then I find out 7:00 this morning that they were "just joking". For no reason.

Bitches be trollin'.

[kalbears13]

I call ********

you don't believe me or them?

[ChezPower4]

Girls are sooooo ********... (sorry aq)

Two of these girls who I'm really good friends with, are in Paris to study abroad and they post on my facebook wall: "I hate you." and "Consider this friendship over." yesterday afternoon I post back to both of them "What???" and I even asked one of them on facebook chat about it but they ignored me. So the whole day and during work I'm just wondering what the **** is going on and was furious and it made everything about that day even ****tier. Some of my friends commented on their stuff saying it was "****ed up" but they didn't respond. Then I find out 7:00 this morning that they were "just joking". For no reason.

Better get them in check my friend

['cuse-213]

you don't believe me or them?

Why would you get wound up over that.. I woulda replied "hate you too" or a "<3" or something.

[Hawk]

I feel weird pursuing a will be high school senior. She turns 18 in a few months. She likes me. I'll be a college sophomore. Thoughts?

['cuse-213]

I feel weird pursuing a will be high school senior. She turns 18 in a few months. She likes me. I'll be a college sophomore. Thoughts?

I've seen worst. Nothing wrong with a HS senior.

[Vikes99ej]

I feel weird pursuing a will be high school senior. She turns 18 in a few months. She likes me. I'll be a college sophomore. Thoughts?

Legit, go for it.

[Sniper]

Bitches be trollin'.

Hardcore.

Kal, you need to step back, assess the situation, and wonder...

http://www.myspacebrand.com/funny_pictures/funny-animals/_img/animals47.JPG

[kalbears13]

Hardcore.

Kal, you need to step back, assess the situation, and wonder...

http://www.myspacebrand.com/funny_pictures/funny-animals/_img/animals47.JPG

Yeah, I'm thinking about it.

[Brent]

I feel weird pursuing a will be high school senior. She turns 18 in a few months. She likes me. I'll be a college sophomore. Thoughts?
no worries, if you really like one another?

[kalbears13]

This is their response...

Right, we would tell you publicly on your wall for all to see as opposed to a message or email...? We apologize for we did not think you would take it so seriously. Especially with us both posting it on your wall within the same time frame AND doing it after we had replied with such long messages. The two don't really add up or give reason to actually end a friendship. Knowing you for quite awhile now, I honestly don't see how you can just believe that we could end a friendship on your facebook wall. That's just weird.
It was a joke.
we're sorry.
the end.

[Brent]

This is their response...
http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/516FzLTYdXL._SL500_AA240_.jpg

[yourfavestoner]

I feel weird pursuing a will be high school senior. She turns 18 in a few months. She likes me. I'll be a college sophomore. Thoughts?

You wanna be going to high school dances next year? I don't think so.

[killxswitch]

This is their response...

Your lesson - don't take stuff on the internet so seriously.

[Gay Ork Wang]

http://cowlander.neobahumut.com/LOL%20PICTURES/Al%20Gore%20Cereal%20Business.jpg

[bsaza2358]

I feel weird pursuing a will be high school senior. She turns 18 in a few months. She likes me. I'll be a college sophomore. Thoughts?

If you like her, and she likes you, you're okay. Just recognize that there's a life experience gap that you'll have to overcome. Hit it!

[bsaza2358]

Kal, your friends are idiot beyotches. Cool off, get over it, and chalk it up to girls trying to mess with you and succeeding. Consider getting new friends in the meantime.

[tjsunstein]

Kal, you took that way too serious. Just saying.

[Hawk]

You wanna be going to high school dances next year? I don't think so.

There's only one and that's prom. Who said I had to go anyways?

[Ravens1991]

You dont have homecoming?

[bsaza2358]

Who gives a crap about HS dances? WTF?

[Gay Ork Wang]

There's only one and that's prom. Who said I had to go anyways?
she did....

[iowatreat54]

There's only one and that's prom. Who said I had to go anyways?

Apparently you are new to dating and unaware of this powerful thing called a vagina...

[Brent]

Apparently you are new to dating and unaware of this powerful thing called a vagina...
actually, if he's 21, he wouldnt likely be allowed. when I was in HS, this girl was dating a guy who just turned 21, and had been dating him for a few years, and he wasnt allowed as there is a threat that he would provide booze to kids somehow.

[Hawk]

You dont have homecoming?

No, there's formal around Valentine's day that no one goes to though haha.

Apparently you are new to dating and unaware of this powerful thing called a vagina...

Actually no, not new to dating.

Their prom will usually fall around the end of April, so that will line up perfectly to my exam period. I think she would understand me not going, being that I'll be 3 hours away and having exams.

[CashmoneyDrew]

actually, if he's 21, he wouldnt likely be allowed. when I was in HS, this girl was dating a guy who just turned 21, and had been dating him for a few years, and he wasnt allowed as there is a threat that he would provide booze to kids somehow.

Depends on the school. My best friend's sister was 18 and took a 26 year old to her prom.

['cuse-213]

No, there's formal around Valentine's day that no one goes to though haha.



Actually no, not new to dating.

Their prom will usually fall around the end of April, so that will line up perfectly to my exam period. I think she would understand me not going, being that I'll be 3 hours away and having exams.

3 hours away? hit and quit it

[terribletowel39]

3 hours away? hit and quit it
Exactly what I was thinking. That new details puts a different spin on everything else. Not worth it.

[bsaza2358]

Easily not worth it, but I guarantee you that you go forward anyway and will suffer mightily. Have fun...

[Hawk]

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.

[BaLLiN]

ok i know this is illegal if consummated, but me a 17 year old boy, and a 22 year old girl (consensus 8.5/10). what would you think of that?

[Vikes99ej]

ok i know this is illegal if consummated, but me a 17 year old boy, and a 22 year old girl (consensus 8.5/10). what would you think of that?

I'd say that girl is desperate unless you happen to look like Christian Bale at your age.

[CashmoneyDrew]

Saw some hot tub boobies tonight. Those things were good. I wanted to be friends with them.

[vikes_28]

ok i know this is illegal if consummated, but me a 17 year old boy, and a 22 year old girl (consensus 8.5/10). what would you think of that?

I'd have to agree with Vikes99ej on that one. And I bet your also feeding us all ********.

[bsaza2358]

ok i know this is illegal if consummated, but me a 17 year old boy, and a 22 year old girl (consensus 8.5/10). what would you think of that?

I would say hit it until you want to quit it. If you can pull it, good for you. However, I would wonder about whether the 22 year old girl was really with it mentally...

[BaLLiN]

why would i lie about that, its really easier in my opinion to get a girl thats that old because they dont play the games that a highschool girl would. She is still with a guy but their relationship is heading south, in a bad way.

Im actually pretty scared because im a virgin, and shes that much older than me. idk

[bsaza2358]

If you can pull it, get it done, but be prepared to not be the best she's ever had. 1 pump chump!

[Brent]

1 pump chump!
See, every one fears that, but any guy who masturbates regularly is probably not going to fall victim to it.

[bsaza2358]

That's a tough balance because you want to be less "enthusiastic" the first time, but you also don't want to be spent before you start. Either way, the second time is always better than the first. I think anyone would agree with that.

[scottyboy]

ballin, go for it. odds are when you go to college you'll never see her again.

When I was 17 I got hit on by a 21 year old waitress. quite the funny story. She left her number on my bill and said 'call me".

twas hilarious.

long story short we went out for a few days until I had to shave and she realized I was jailbait and dumped me.

just go for it! at the worst, you get experience and you got with a 22 year old. it's epic win

[CashmoneyDrew]

See, every one fears that, but any guy who masturbates regularly is probably not going to fall victim to it.

This is true. I pleasantly surprised myself my first time when I lasted about 45 minutes. I was stunned tbh.

[BaLLiN]

yea but two things:

its illegal, and if she doesnt dump her boyfriend which she really feels like doing because theyve been together for 3 years and after 2 it was just not the same bc people change i guess so now its held together by just the idea of it.

IM A VIRGIN, i dont know what the hell im doing, im probably just gunna do what feels good lol. I also dont drink and she knows that, so if shes drunk then i cant. But she did feel turned on when she wasnt, so we'll see. Chances are im going to be a ***** and not because its illegal and i dont want to get the **** beaten out of me by her boyfriend.

[BaLLiN]

This is true. I pleasantly surprised myself my first time when I lasted about 45 minutes. I was stunned tbh.

what the hell did you do? i did notice ive gained endurance but like im still a virgin and dont know the difference of masturbation and sex. I know that if i relax while masturbating id definitely last alot longer basically because im not trying as hard

[CashmoneyDrew]

No one knows what they're doing their first time. Too much pent up nervousness/awkwardness/excitedness. Yea, I just invented a word. What up?

[eaglesalltheway]

yea but two things:

its illegal, and if she doesnt dump her boyfriend which she really feels like doing because theyve been together for 3 years and after 2 it was just not the same bc people change i guess so now its held together by just the idea of it.

IM A VIRGIN, i dont know what the hell im doing, im probably just gunna do what feels good lol. I also dont drink and she knows that, so if shes drunk then i cant. But she did feel turned on when she wasnt, so we'll see. Chances are im going to be a ***** and not because its illegal and i dont want to get the **** beaten out of me by her boyfriend.

I knew it! I knew Giants fans were abunch of *****es!

JK man, but since you are the minor, you should be alright, it is only illegal for her... Just watch your back with the BF tho.

[CashmoneyDrew]

what the hell did you do?

I can't honestly answer this. I just kind of did my thing.

[BaLLiN]

I knew it! I knew Giants fans were abunch of *****es!

JK man, but since you are the minor, you should be alright, it is only illegal for her... Just watch your back with the BF tho.

lol, we are jolly green giants. I dont like just screw over girls, im usually friends with them after not for benefits just because i had an emotional attachment with them before.

yeah, honestly dont be surprised if i never log on again... it may be because im dead.

[BaLLiN]

I can't honestly answer this. I just kind of did my thing.

lol so just let it flow? i mean im like 150 lbs and shes like 135-140 im guessing, and like i thought id be really awkward because shes like curvy and im not big, like im 5'8'' and only 150, but i guess itll be ok because her boyfriend is only like 3 inches taller and 20-30 pounds more lol.

well thanks all you guys, glad to have the approval of NFLDC or SWDC, will let you know if it happens and im still alive.

[eaglesalltheway]

lol, we are jolly green giants. I dont like just screw over girls, im usually friends with them after not for benefits just because i had an emotional attachment with them before.

yeah, honestly dont be surprised if i never log on again... it may be because im dead.

Thats the good way to go. I know some guys that treat women like crap (not physically, jut don't give a crap) and that just isn't how I am. Defintiely the way to go there.

And unless this guy is a real mother... you should be fine. Worst comes to worse, get a few buds and aske him if he wants to go to jail for 10 plus years for beating up a minor. If he doesn't care, at least you got your buds to help out, lol.

[Brent]

IM A VIRGIN, i dont know what the hell im doing
Honestly, it's not as complicated as you'd think. Plus, if she knows what she's doing, it's way less awkward.

[CJSchneider]

If you've ever watched normal porn, you have a basic idea of what to do.

[CashmoneyDrew]

Yeah, just pee on her after you climax Ballin. Girls always love that.....
According to R. Kelly.

[ChezPower4]

yea but two things:



IM A VIRGIN, i dont know what the hell im doing


Just do what comes natural

[yourfavestoner]

This thread is turning epic.

[Hawk]

Dude, the first time was great but I sure as hell didn't last long. Odds are, she's probably going to be disappointed in you. But really, do you give a damn? This sounds like a woman, not a girl, and it might be odd for you to date her. Hit it and quit it, cliche but it's the truth.

And lol at Voodoo

[CashmoneyDrew]

I'm with Hawk. If it's more of just a hookup thing, then don't worry too much about her and what you're doing for her. Just worry about yourself. If you're interested in pursuing her further than just hooking up, you probably shouldn't go straight to the sex.

[Brent]

If you're interested in pursuing her further than just hooking up, you probably shouldn't go straight to the sex.
"Screw these analogies, okay? What he's saying is that you are gonna be so bad at sex the first time that you don't wanna have sex with someone you like, 'cause they'll think you're a weirdo for being so lame at it. So you wanna have sex with "hood rats" so that by the time you get to a girl that you do like, you won't be terrible at sex, you'll be mediocre at it... Probably still pretty bad, though."

Lots of advice for the youngans in that movie

[tEk]

so my gf of 1 month asked me to **** her with a dildo today....... kind of weired out but i did it.

[Brent]

so my gf of 1 month asked me to **** her with a dildo today....... kind of weired out but i did it.
you didnt suggest your own dick instead?

[tEk]

you didnt suggest your own dick instead?o well, i mean we have been facking since before i asked her out...i think i need to invest in some ****** cuz this was the first time ive had ED.... but you know drinking does that.

[Brent]

o well, i mean we have been facking since before i asked her out...i think i need to invest in some ****** cuz this was the first time ive had ED.... but you know drinking does that.
Ah, gotcha. Yeah, dude, you need to watch the booze when with the ladies.

[tEk]

Ah, gotcha. Yeah, dude, you need to watch the booze when with the ladies.well, i've had to give up the ganja so now im pretty much an alcoholic.... xP

[kalbears13]

Yeah, just pee on her after you climax Ballin. Girls always love that.....
According to R. Kelly.

You're supposed to pee on her after you climax? No wonder. I've been doing it wrong this whole time. I've been doing it before.

[ChezPower4]

Now that you've got the urinating and sex down. It's on to the much more fun stuff.....fecal matter and sex.

[bsaza2358]

You talking blumpkin, cleveland steamer, or hot lunch?

[vikes_28]

You talking blumpkin, cleveland steamer, or hot lunch?

I like hot sex. But that **** is nasty (no pun intended).

[yourfavestoner]

well, i've had to give up the ganja so now im pretty much an alcoholic.... xP

I'm so sorry for your loss....

[thule]

Ah, gotcha. Yeah, dude, you need to watch the booze when with the ladies.

Only thing worse than whisky dee is having whisky dee while on uppers. Not able to get hard with a walnut size peice isn't good for anyone.

[awfullyquiet]

that sounds... amazing.

[ChezPower4]

well, i've had to give up the ganja so now im pretty much an alcoholic.... xP

This is a damn shame

[yourfavestoner]

Only thing worse than whisky dee is having whisky dee while on uppers. Not able to get hard with a walnut size peice isn't good for anyone.

Ughhhhh....there is nothing in the world worse than coke d. Ecstasy (if it's not cut with methy bull ****) will keep your boy up forever, though.

[CC.SD]

Ughhhhh....there is nothing in the world worse than coke d. Ecstasy (if it's not cut with methy bull ****) will keep your boy up forever, though.

I don't know, bangin with a few vicodin in your system is like some kind of cosmic joke. Bring a book. or a wii if you're feeling flexible.

[awfullyquiet]

key word is flexible?

[georgiafan]

So I had a lunch date with a girl yesterday and everything seemed to go smooth. I did mention us going out agian next weekend and she said yes. But I usually don't put much stock into that kind of thing. I had meet her before yesaterday, but most of our conversations until this has been on facebook or text. I would like to avoid calling her to get a 2nd date as I'm not good when it comes to talking on the phone.

What should my next move be? She's the type who's kinda quiet as first, but you can tell she will open up as you get to know her. So I don't see her contacting me first.

[ChezPower4]

So I had a lunch date with a girl yesterday and everything seemed to go smooth. I did mention us going out agian next weekend and she said yes. But I usually don't put much stock into that kind of thing. I had meet her before yesaterday, but most of our conversations until this has been on facebook or text. I would like to avoid calling her to get a 2nd date as I'm not good when it comes to talking on the phone.

What should my next move be? She's the type who's kinda quiet as first, but you can tell she will open up as you get to know her. So I don't see her contacting me first.

If your not good on the phone than just make the conversation quick by using some kind of time constraint (whether or not it's true).

If your really not comfortable with phone calls then when you text her make sure that the conversation is fun and playful.

[georgiafan]

If your not good on the phone than just make the conversation quick by using some kind of time constraint (whether or not it's true).

If your really not comfortable with phone calls then when you text her make sure that the conversation is fun and playful.

When do you think I should do this ? I was thinking Sunday or Monday

[ChezPower4]

When do you think I should do this ? I was thinking Sunday or Monday

It would work best if you have some kind of activity already planned (i.e your going out with your friends) just invite her to go with you. I agree with waiting a few days before asking her, if you try to soon it may come of as clingy.

[awfullyquiet]

It would work best if you have some kind of activity already planned (i.e your going out with your friends) just invite her to go with you. I agree with waiting a few days before asking her, if you try to soon it may come of as clingy.

if you're an adult, that kind of 'forwardness' is appreciated though.

[RCAChainGang]

Okay I'm 16 and I went to church camp several weeks back and I met this girl there and I started to like her. She lives about three hours from me and I don't really have a lot experience with relationships as it is and I have just been texting her. She told me about some missions they were doing in their town like going and seeing people at nursing homes and stuff. I went up there and participated in it with her friends and I met some cool guys as well. I stayed at her house in her guest room and we really had a great time. We were about to watch a movie and she mentions her ex and she has mentioned him before. She said she felt horrible that she didn't tell him that I was staying over but he would jump to conclusions if she did. I tried to help her through it. This guy is a really jealous boyfriend and it seems like she wants to just be friends with him but its hard breaking off after around a year. So after the missions we went to the fair and there was her best friend there (a guy but, she isn't interested in him) so I couldn't be that close to her. I left after she made me ride a ton of rides I never ride and had to talk me through it all cause I was on the verge of bailing on most rides.

Anyways we had a really good time, and she is exactly what I want in a girl. Most girls I meet they aren't as similar to me in the aspect of faith. I'm a pretty big christian and she would be perfect. I don't know how to say I like her because I don't know what that looks like. Sometimes I think its stupid I'm trying this cause she lives 3 hours from me. I try to give her hints I like her but I'm not sure what to do. I've been praying about it. Thought maybe you more experienced guys might have some wise words?

Thanks guys.

[no bare feet]

After reading that story you are only her friend and will be nothing more. Sorry.

[georgiafan]

It would work best if you have some kind of activity already planned (i.e your going out with your friends) just invite her to go with you. I agree with waiting a few days before asking her, if you try to soon it may come of as clingy.

if you're an adult, that kind of 'forwardness' is appreciated though.

We are both in our mid to late 20's, so I don't really "hang" out with me friends on a regular basis. Except for when it has to do with sports and she isn't into that (playing them that is).

[Dr. Gonzo]

Okay I'm 16 and I went to church camp several weeks back and I met this girl there and I started to like her. She lives about three hours from me and I don't really have a lot experience with relationships as it is and I have just been texting her. She told me about some missions they were doing in their town like going and seeing people at nursing homes and stuff. I went up there and participated in it with her friends and I met some cool guys as well. I stayed at her house in her guest room and we really had a great time. We were about to watch a movie and she mentions her ex and she has mentioned him before. She said she felt horrible that she didn't tell him that I was staying over but he would jump to conclusions if she did. I tried to help her through it. This guy is a really jealous boyfriend and it seems like she wants to just be friends with him but its hard breaking off after around a year. So after the missions we went to the fair and there was her best friend there (a guy but, she isn't interested in him) so I couldn't be that close to her. I left after she made me ride a ton of rides I never ride and had to talk me through it all cause I was on the verge of bailing on most rides.

Anyways we had a really good time, and she is exactly what I want in a girl. Most girls I meet they aren't as similar to me in the aspect of faith. I'm a pretty big christian and she would be perfect. I don't know how to say I like her because I don't know what that looks like. Sometimes I think its stupid I'm trying this cause she lives 3 hours from me. I try to give her hints I like her but I'm not sure what to do. I've been praying about it. Thought maybe you more experienced guys might have some wise words?

Thanks guys.

**** church camp.

[ChezPower4]

**** church camp.

Way to help him out, LAMO

[terribletowel39]

**** church camp.
This made me laugh out loud in my office building. Thank you. You just made my weekend.

['cuse-213]

This made me laugh out loud in my office building. Thank you. You just made my weekend.

Hahah, it was an awesome post. But yeah I agree, if you've already spent the night at her house as friends..I couldn't see anything happening.

[TitleTown088]

Ballin, if your worried about being premature peter or whatever, just rub one out awhile before you meet up with her, you'll be able to crush for 45 min after that.

http://www.filmdope.com/Gallery/ActorsE/5241-24020.gif

[BaLLiN]

sorry this took so long but....

it happened :)

[Brent]

you are a WINNAR!!1

[ATLDirtyBirds]

Victory for Ballin.

[Gay Ork Wang]

http://www.freshmanandy.org/eyegasm/orig/win-one-internet.jpg

[BaLLiN]

it was surprisingly exactly what you guys said, surprising that a group of internet junkies gives such good advice :p

[Brent]

it was surprisingly exactly what you guys said, surprising that a group of internet junkies gives such good advice :p
You had a life experience that just about every one in the forum's age range has experienced, it isnt that hard to get good advice.

Just be glad you had this experience in HS, most dont get that.

[7-11]

Ughhhhh....there is nothing in the world worse than coke d. Ecstasy (if it's not cut with methy bull ****) will keep your boy up forever, though.

When i was in Bolivia last year i met this girl from Sydney, spent about a week with her and had a few awkward, coked up, hostel toilet, 'intimate moments'. About a month ago i went down and hung out with her for a weekend and i got this comment - 'wow, i guess you aren't that **** in bed'. Honestly didn't know how to react, i guess i was...happy?? But then again i had some girl thinking i was a complete dud for like 12 months.

Morale of the story ladies and gentlemen, don't think you'll be impressing anyone of the opposite sex whilst under the influence of that scarily fun drug, with either your self perceived 'witty banter' or sexual prowess.

That's probably about the best 'relationship' advice i'm qualified to give.

[scottyboy]

ballin' is epic win. YAY BALLIN'

oh, and i have a story i figured i'd tell in here:

met this girl at RU orientation, she invited me and my buddy to this room where there was like 10 kids. we started talking (about my boot, then injuries) etc and she so wanted on. then the ******* orientation leaders said the room was too loud and made us all leave. **** blocked by orientation leaders. **** that....

but yay ballin!

[CashmoneyDrew]

ballin' is epic win. YAY BALLIN'

oh, and i have a story i figured i'd tell in here:

met this girl at RU orientation, she invited me and my buddy to this room where there was like 10 kids. we started talking (about my boot, then injuries) etc and she so wanted on. then the ******* orientation leaders said the room was too loud and made us all leave. **** blocked by orientation leaders. **** that....

but yay ballin!

You should have just gotten them prepared for the next four years and just ****** her in the street anyways.

[Brent]

You should have just gotten them prepared for the next four years and just ****** her in the street anyways.
scottyboy's gonna be slayin' bitches left and right

[BaLLiN]

You had a life experience that just about every one in the forum's age range has experienced, it isnt that hard to get good advice.

Just be glad you had this experience in HS, most dont get that.

yeah, thanks BrentN

ballin' is epic win. YAY BALLIN'

oh, and i have a story i figured i'd tell in here:

met this girl at RU orientation, she invited me and my buddy to this room where there was like 10 kids. we started talking (about my boot, then injuries) etc and she so wanted on. then the ******* orientation leaders said the room was too loud and made us all leave. **** blocked by orientation leaders. **** that....

but yay ballin!

thanks scotty, i was thinking about ray rice the whole time. and you should just find her and get it on

[djp]

scottyboy's gonna be slayin' bitches left and right

He's gotta knock out like 20-30 of them hoodrats and then move onto the upper echelon type ho.

[Ravens1991]

OK when it comes to college girls what is the best way to get them? or are they similar to regular girls?

[BamaFalcon59]

No, they're aliens. Much different.

I'm in highschool, so really I have no idea. But I would guess they are the same as other girls.

[TitleTown088]

OK when it comes to college girls what is the best way to get them? or are they similar to regular girls?

A. Alcohol.
B. They are regular girls.

[CJSchneider]

OK when it comes to college girls what is the best way to get them? or are they similar to regular girls?


A. Alcohol.
B. They are regular girls.

Also remember, if she smokes, she puts out and if she has a tramp stamp, she'll take it in the "pooper."

[georgiafan]

I called her last night, but it went straight to voice mail (phone was off). So now im debating if I should call back agian or text her. I didn't leave a voice mail or anything.

So I had a lunch date with a girl thursday and everything seemed to go smooth. I did mention us going out agian next weekend and she said yes. But I usually don't put much stock into that kind of thing. I had meet her before yesaterday, but most of our conversations until this has been on facebook or text. I would like to avoid calling her to get a 2nd date as I'm not good when it comes to talking on the phone.

What should my next move be? She's the type who's kinda quiet as first, but you can tell she will open up as you get to know her. So I don't see her contacting me first.

[awfullyquiet]

I called her last night, but it went straight to voice mail (phone was off). So now im debating if I should call back agian or text her. I didn't leave a voice mail or anything.

no. don't.

it's a test. let her work her way back, ergo, judge the situation from there.

[georgiafan]

no. don't.

it's a test. let her work her way back, ergo, judge the situation from there.

How's it a test when she didn't know I called?

[awfullyquiet]

How's it a test when she didn't know I called?

i didn't read the last 4 words.

First Mistake. Always leave a voice mail. If you don't get it right the first time, erase it, and start over.

I stutter when I leave boys messages.

[georgiafan]

i didn't read the last 4 words.

First Mistake. Always leave a voice mail. If you don't get it right the first time, erase it, and start over.

I stutter when I leave boys messages.

I thought about it, but since it was later on in the night thought I would just wait and call back tomorrow. I figured I had a better chance to talk to her that way instead of waiting for her to call me back.

I didn't even know you could erase messages.

[ChezPower4]

I thought about it, but since it was later on in the night thought I would just wait and call back tomorrow. I figured I had a better chance to talk to her that way instead of waiting for her to call me back.

I didn't even know you could erase messages.

Me either, AQ you'll have to learn us this new feature.

[awfullyquiet]

normally press star when you reach their voicemail. and it'll give you options:

to erase this message and re-record press (x).

where X is some number.

[someone447]

i didn't read the last 4 words.

First Mistake. Always leave a voice mail. If you don't get it right the first time, erase it, and start over.

I stutter when I leave boys messages.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZChD_Gni8U

Awwww

[ChezPower4]

normally press star when you reach their voicemail. and it'll give you options:

to erase this message and re-record press (x).

where X is some number.

So, after you leave the message press star or as soon as you reach voicemail hit star?

[awfullyquiet]

So, after you leave the message press star or as soon as you reach voicemail hit star?

after you leave a message, or realize your voicemail sucks and you're hyperventilating... before you hang up.

press star. or pound.

[ChezPower4]

after you leave a message, or realize your voicemail sucks and you're hyperventilating... before you hang up.

press star. or pound.

Good to know, I hate leaving voicemails because I suck at them so I talk really fast and I know that no girl knows what I just said.

[djp]

I don't think I've ever left a voicemail for anyone other than my parents/boss in my life. They just never go well. Unless you have something funny to say.

[Brent]

I don't think I've ever left a voicemail for anyone other than my parents/boss in my life. They just never go well. Unless you have something funny to say.
I like to make them purposefully awkward and sound like I am Gil from the Simpsons:

http://www.diyplanner.com/files/gil.jpg

at least when talking to people I feel comfortable doing that to. Any one else I dont leave messages for.

[CC.SD]

Ballin is win.

Now you must choose whether your next goal is

A. Finding the g spot

B. In the butt

Consider this your big choice between light/dark side.

[MichaelJordanEberle (sabf)]

Ballin is win.

Now you must choose whether your next goal is

A. Finding the g spot

B. In the butt

Consider this your big choice between light/dark side.

What what?

[yourfavestoner]

I said what what in the butt.

[Brent]

A. Finding the g spot
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G-spot found it

[BlindSite]

All I'll say is there are instructional videos on finding it on the internets and they help.

Apparently though, some chicks don't have them, or have insensitive ones.

[BaLLiN]

i think i like the vagina better than the butt, idk why always thought id like the butt

[DeepThreat]

Once again, Ballin FTW.

[awfullyquiet]

All I'll say is there are instructional videos on finding it on the internets and they help.

Apparently though, some chicks don't have them, or have insensitive ones.

correct.

asking to learn also helps. a lot.

teacher teacher can you help me!

[CJSchneider]

Did someone call for a teacher?

[awfullyquiet]

Did someone call for a teacher?

i was referring to the female sex. not you. men are clueless. and besides, it's more fun doing the teaching.

[yourfavestoner]

i think i like the vagina better than the butt, idk why always thought id like the butt

**** ***** not asshole. Putting it in the butt is dirty.

[thefalconer]

correct.

asking to learn also helps. a lot.

teacher teacher can you help me!

teach us clueless men aq.

[awfullyquiet]

**** ***** not asshole. Putting it in the butt is dirty.

why?

mouths are dirty too.

aw. c'mon. two girls two cups.

[bsaza2358]

ATM = pretty dirty. Other backdoor play can be a lot of fun if the girl is open minded...

[bsaza2358]

As Chez said, yes, I am very much aware of the positives that can arise from it.

[BaLLiN]

**** ***** not asshole. Putting it in the butt is dirty.

well, i wasnt the one changing holes lol, when i took the condum of there wasnt poop on it soooo..

[awfullyquiet]

well, i wasnt the one changing holes lol, when i took the condum of there wasnt poop on it soooo..

**** washes off.

i swear on it.

[ChezPower4]

This story may change some of your minds about taking the "hershey highway" but if not it's still funny as all hell.

http://www.tuckermax.com/archives/entries/date/tucker_tries_buttsex_hilarity_does_not_ensue.phtml

[BaLLiN]

read it already, somewhere on this forum, its actually pretty sad because she sounds really hot

[Brent]

I hate Tucker Max.

[ChezPower4]

I hate Tucker Max.

Why is that?