Relationship Advice Thread

[VoteLynnSwan]

Originally Posted by jballa838

wait... so if they smile at you, they want the D, right?

legit question asked to me....

depends on the eyes. It's all in the eyes. If her eyes are saying "**** me" then you're golden.

[Cicero]

Originally Posted by Sportsfan486

**** relationships and **** women. I'm officially moving into being a complete asshole just to get my dick in as many ******* pussys as possible.

Poor sportsfan. It's snowing tonight too so you probably can't even go out and try to pick up a rebound.

[eaglesalltheway]

Originally Posted by OSUGiants17

Any tips for getting out of the "friend zone"???

I've only done this once, and honestly, I'm not sure how I was able to do it. The more I've thought about it, I'm not sure if the girl was fully set on me in the "friend zone", she may have been unsure (never said anything to the sort of "love you like a brother", so there may be some uncertainty). It (the relationship) didn't last long, so that is something you'll have to consider, but who knows how different your situation is.

Me and this girl had been friends for a while, but when we met up through one of our friends, I got her number and we had been talking and texting for about a month, often late into the night. We had all kinds of stupid friend zone talks, which made me think for sure I was in the friend zone, but I still wanted to take a shot after about two weeks of thinking it over. Well after one stretch wehre we hadn't talked or texted eachother for about three days she called me the night before we were going to go to our friends house to chill and have a small party. She said the whole "Can't wait to see you tomorrow" and I said the same thing back and I had somethingI wanted to talk to her about, but it should wait till the next day. I picked her up to go to our friends house (hadn't planned on it, but she needed a ride and I figured it'd only help my chances). I picked her up and on the way to our friends house she asked what I wanted to talk about. So I just came out with it and said (I don't remember what exactly I said but it was something very close to) "I'm not sure what you've thought about me and you, but I think its worth a shot if we try to go have dinner and chill alone, and see if it's worth being more than just friends." Well by then, I really don't know what exactly she said, because I was thinking about so many other things as I was saying it and immediately after, but she sais something like "Yeah, I'd like to try us out." (Thinking harder, that may be exactly what she said).

So I don't know if this helps you at all, but its probably the closest thing you'll get to advice for the switching out of friend zone. For the record, we only went out for about a month, then I decided to end it (though I'm pretty sure she was thinking about it anyway, not much of a fight was put up). We still talk occasionally, I only ever talk to her when I need a female perspective on other females.

[eaglesalltheway]

Originally Posted by Cicero

Poor sportsfan. It's snowing tonight too so you probably can't even go out and try to pick up a rebound.

Determination is a cure-all.

[eaglesalltheway]

Originally Posted by jballa838

wait... so if they smile at you, they want the D, right?

legit question asked to me....

I hope you told the guy yes.

[kalbears13]

Originally Posted by eaglesalltheway

I've only done this once, and honestly, I'm not sure how I was able to do it. The more I've thought about it, I'm not sure if the girl was fully set on me in the "friend zone", she may have been unsure (never said anything to the sort of "love you like a brother", so there may be some uncertainty). It (the relationship) didn't last long, so that is something you'll have to consider, but who knows how different your situation is.

Me and this girl had been friends for a while, but when we met up through one of our friends, I got her number and we had been talking and texting for about a month, often late into the night. We had all kinds of stupid friend zone talks, which made me think for sure I was in the friend zone, but I still wanted to take a shot after about two weeks of thinking it over. Well after one stretch wehre we hadn't talked or texted eachother for about three days she called me the night before we were going to go to our friends house to chill and have a small party. She said the whole "Can't wait to see you tomorrow" and I said the same thing back and I had somethingI wanted to talk to her about, but it should wait till the next day. I picked her up to go to our friends house (hadn't planned on it, but she needed a ride and I figured it'd only help my chances). I picked her up and on the way to our friends house she asked what I wanted to talk about. So I just came out with it and said (I don't remember what exactly I said but it was something very close to) "I'm not sure what you've thought about me and you, but I think its worth a shot if we try to go have dinner and chill alone, and see if it's worth being more than just friends." Well by then, I really don't know what exactly she said, because I was thinking about so many other things as I was saying it and immediately after, but she sais something like "Yeah, I'd like to try us out." (Thinking harder, that may be exactly what she said).

So I don't know if this helps you at all, but its probably the closest thing you'll get to advice for the switching out of friend zone. For the record, we only went out for about a month, then I decided to end it (though I'm pretty sure she was thinking about it anyway, not much of a fight was put up). We still talk occasionally, I only ever talk to her when I need a female perspective on other females.

I don't see when you were ever in the friend zone...

[Sportsfan486]

Originally Posted by Cicero

Poor sportsfan. It's snowing tonight too so you probably can't even go out and try to pick up a rebound.

I mean, I could try. But the degree of difficulty went up considerably and considering how emo I am right now, I needed something easy. My car doesn't handle the snow well, so I'd probably have to walk or risk not being able to get my car home.
Plus none of my potential booty call women are going to be willing to risk the snow and they're all pissed at me, so that's a problem.

[eaglesalltheway]

Originally Posted by kalbears13

I don't see when you were ever in the friend zone...

A few conversations I had with her when we first started talking a lot had a lot to do with her last boyfriend. Plus it just seemed like she acted differently, like I had been friend zoned, and I think I at least partially was because she acted different towards me after I had asked her out. I can't really remember any actual conversations verbatim, but I remember having a distinct feeling for about a week or two that I had been friend zoned.

[eaglesalltheway]

Originally Posted by Sportsfan486

I mean, I could try. But the degree of difficulty went up considerably and considering how emo I am right now, I needed something easy. My car doesn't handle the snow well, so I'd probably have to walk or risk not being able to get my car home.
Plus none of my potential booty call women are going to be willing to risk the snow and they're all pissed at me, so that's a problem.

Well at least you have the internet...

[Cicero]

Wrong thread.

[bsaza2358]

Originally Posted by Sportsfan486

**** relationships and **** women. I'm officially moving into being a complete asshole just to get my dick in as many ******* pussys as possible.

Care to elaborate on what happened? Clearly the new chick isn't going to end up being your wife, as you proclaimed earlier...

[killxswitch]

Originally Posted by bsaza2358

Care to elaborate on what happened? Clearly the new chick isn't going to end up being your wife, as you proclaimed earlier...

He stated in the RDT that she broke things off with him via text, presumably because her friends told her to after meeting him.

[Vikes99ej]

I've came to the decision that I make a lot better decisions in social situations when I'm not heavily intoxicated. Most of my opportunities have happened when I've been relatively drunk.


In other news, a girl that sat next to me in a class last semester decided to sit by me in two of my classes this semester and we talk quite a bit. I saw her at a club on my bday in November. She bought me a drink, and I asked her to dance on the floor and we did for a while. The night ended awkwardedly, but I'm just going to assume that we were both drunk and she didn't remember, since we talked like normal before class the next week. Don't what to make of the situation now, probably see what she's doing this weekend and go from there.

[Chucky]

You let a ***** buy you a drink?



But ya

[Vikes99ej]

Originally Posted by Chucky

You let a ***** buy you a drink?



But ya

Like I said, it was my birthday, idk haha

[Sportsfan486]

Originally Posted by killxswitch

He stated in the RDT that she broke things off with him via text, presumably because her friends told her to after meeting him.

This would be the assumption. Unless she went from being smiley/giggly/flirty/happy to telling me to **** off all by herself. She is a woman, so it is possible.

So much for that whole being respectful and patient BS. ****.

[Sportsfan486]

Originally Posted by Chucky

You let a ***** buy you a drink?



But ya

You complained about a guy getting free alcohol.

[bullg8rdaddy]

Originally Posted by eaglesalltheway

A few conversations I had with her when we first started talking a lot had a lot to do with her last boyfriend. Plus it just seemed like she acted differently, like I had been friend zoned, and I think I at least partially was because she acted different towards me after I had asked her out. I can't really remember any actual conversations verbatim, but I remember having a distinct feeling for about a week or two that I had been friend zoned.

Did you bone this chick before you broke it off with her?!

[Bosanac01]

The best advice when you land in a friend zone is to look for a different chick. It's not worth your time trying to bone her when she doesn't want it. But if you are lucky time will come and you will catch her at the right moment. Just make sure you're not there when the roofies effect wears off.

[Sportsfan486]

Originally Posted by Bosanac01

The best advice when you land in a friend zone is to look for a different chick. It's not worth your time trying to bone her when she doesn't want it. But if you are lucky time will come and you will catch her at the right moment. Just make sure you're not there when the roofies effect wears off.

This.

Also, the ONLY way out of the friends zone is to very visibly be NOT in the friends zone with a different woman. Even then it's usually temporary, but oh well.

(Or drug her, of course.)

[Brent]

Originally Posted by Vikes99ej

Don't what to make of the situation now, probably see what she's doing this weekend and go from there.

No, ask her to hang out on a weekday. Weekday implies that you are too busy on the weekend to **** around with her nonsense.

[bsaza2358]

Originally Posted by Sportsfan486

This would be the assumption. Unless she went from being smiley/giggly/flirty/happy to telling me to **** off all by herself. She is a woman, so it is possible.

So much for that whole being respectful and patient BS. ****.

I went back and read your immediate reaction to her rejection. Things that rang out to me:

• She wasn't making time for you. This speaks to her not being ready for a real relationship, or at least a healthy one.
• She wasn't making you a priority. Calling you on short notice and expecting you to be there isn't very considerate. This speaks to flaws in her personality that don't align with what you want/need. If you're into someone, you make time. You don't sit back and throw them an hour here and there. She wasn't as into the idea of being with you right now as you were with her.
• She did you a favor. She didn't use you or string you along. She noted that it wasn't going to work for her, so she ended it. She could have been a little more classy and called you, but at least she had the decency to make it known.
• Her friends aren't to blame. They probably confirmed for her what she had already decided. Yes, you met and charmed her friends and this and that. She was probably 55/45, leaning towards ending it, but she wanted her friends' take. I'm not sure why she wasn't into dating you. We know you are a player, so possibly that player vibe made her reticent. She might want a different type of guy, different career path, or maybe she's just a giant C. She might also be dating someone else and decided to go his way. The friends aren't to blame. She was leaning one way, and they just backed her decision.
• Her decision shouldn't affect your progress. It is generally difficult to get past the first or second date. Pretty much your second try with a girl, you got to 4+ dates. You learned a lot about what you're looking for. This didn't work out, but you learned that you are capable of wanting a relationship and identified traits that are attractive to you. Once you have some time to think, you'll be able to identify the traits she had that didn't work for you. You can then take that into your next relationship.

Overall, I'm sorry that this happened, but I'm glad you tried. Ideally, you will be able to get back on the horse in some time. Keep posting. You are the man.

[MetSox17]

Originally Posted by Vikes99ej

I've came to the decision that I make a lot better decisions in social situations when I'm not heavily intoxicated. Most of my opportunities have happened when I've been relatively drunk.


In other news, a girl that sat next to me in a class last semester decided to sit by me in two of my classes this semester and we talk quite a bit. I saw her at a club on my bday in November. She bought me a drink, and I asked her to dance on the floor and we did for a while. The night ended awkwardedly, but I'm just going to assume that we were both drunk and she didn't remember, since we talked like normal before class the next week. Don't what to make of the situation now, probably see what she's doing this weekend and go from there.

Use this as an excuse to get her out with you. Tell her you owe her a drink, that you'd love to meet up some time soon. During the week, preferably, cause like Brent said, you're very busy during weekends. The most difficult part of hooking up with a chick is getting her in that 1 on 1 situation where you can talk to her. You have an in.

[bigbluedefense]

I honestly think sometimes, women try to start a fight on purpose just to start a fight.

Like, it comes out of no where. So frustrating.

[MetSox17]

Gotta keep things interesting.