Relationship Advice Thread - Page 275

killxswitch · 07-08-2011, 12:53 PM

Do you still not really want advice? If I were to hypothetically give any I would say you shouldn't text with her til she's ready to actually talk to you about whatever it is. And she definitely doesn't deserve any "understanding" IE coddling.

Jamaal-Football · 07-08-2011, 02:35 PM

Wait, she dumped you and you text her asking her how she's holding up? Am i missing something?

wtf

StickSkills · 07-08-2011, 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Jamaal-Football

Wait, she dumped you and you text her asking her how she's holding up? Am i missing something?

wtf

So I'm not the only one here...

soybean · 07-09-2011, 01:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Jamaal-Football

Wait, she dumped you and you text her asking her how she's holding up? Am i missing something?

wtf

I did the same thing once... but i asked "how are you?" Kind of expecting the same answer as georgia fan.

Anyways here's a very popular video about breakups:

georgiafan · 07-11-2011, 07:12 AM

To show I still have a sense of humor and i'm also a huge country music fan

Ravens1991 · 07-11-2011, 07:02 PM

interesting situation happened to me today at the mall.

I was in this videogame store just killing time. Some 23-24 went up to me and said whats the popular videogame now adays for a kid. I told her madden, COD all that stuff. Then she started asking me where i go to school my major all that yada. Then she left. Came back to me about a second later and asked if I was interested in making $ On the side cause her uncle has a sports and nutrition related business and they are looking to expand with younger males working for them. Now IDK if she was interested(I heard nothing but good things about cougars) or if she is trying to get me wrapped into that business thing. what do u guys think?

njx9 · 07-11-2011, 07:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Ravens1991

interesting situation happened to me today at the mall.

I was in this videogame store just killing time. Some 23-24 went up to me and said whats the popular videogame now adays for a kid. I told her madden, COD all that stuff. Then she started asking me where i go to school my major all that yada. Then she left. Came back to me about a second later and asked if I was interested in making $ On the side cause her uncle has a sports and nutrition related business and they are looking to expand with younger males working for them. Now IDK if she was interested(I heard nothing but good things about cougars) or if she is trying to get me wrapped into that business thing. what do u guys think?

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Ravens1991 · 07-11-2011, 07:11 PM

Im 19 so its a cougar to me. lol

nepg · 07-11-2011, 07:16 PM

No. No it is not.

ATLDirtyBirds · 07-11-2011, 07:19 PM

1. Not a cougar.
2. Probably just a business scam thing.

Ravens1991 · 07-11-2011, 07:22 PM

ok sorry for the mess up with using the word cougar.

But you would think that she would talk bout the business before she turned around. IDK ill just wait til she calls, she said she will be the end of the week. I doubt its anyting though.

YAYareaRB · 07-11-2011, 07:40 PM

moment of silence for all the cougars out there.

killxswitch · 07-12-2011, 09:51 AM

If she asks you to spend money on anything, assume it's a scam and move on.

Hines · 07-14-2011, 08:10 PM

I may sound like a woman after I type this, but frankly I don't give a ****. Here is my story.

I've been dating this girl offcially 5 months, but it has actually been a little over 6. You know that one girl that you just instantly click with and can see yourself being with for the rest of your life? Yeah, that was us. It seemed like we were made to be. We never fought, never disagreed, we were perfect for eachother. Well maybe around a month ago, we got in a fight where I walked out of her house calmly and went for a walk. After that, it seemed like she got real confused and was contiplating(sp) breaking up a few times. She kept telling me she was confused and didn't know what she wanted anymore because of all this stuff she was afraid I wasn't going to do. I was willing to become mormon for her, move to her town even though I didn't want to, etc. Well she calls me crying after our first discussion on this saying that she wants me back and that she doesn't want to leave me. That went well for a couple more days untill she started feeling like it again, then again. Well we worked all this out and we had a romantic night together when we rented out a hotel room for the night. Well yesterday is when it went all down hill. She called me and was all fine and wanted me to come over. Since her car was down, I walked to her house. It was two miles in humidity. Didn't like it, but wanted to see her. We flirted, cuddled, kissed, said we loved eachother(I legit love this girl), and everything seemed fine. I stayed at my aunts for the past few days because of hockey games and to see her because I do not live in her town. Well when I got to my aunts, she texted me saying that she didn't feel the same anymore, and that she had to get out of the relationship. She also told me not to call or text her because she would get her number changed and even deleted/blocked me from Facebook. It really confused me because she has done this before, but not to this extreme.

Needless to say I am insanely hurt. I haven't stopped crying since last night. I'm acting like a woman in this ****. I honestly believed she was the one and we had pretty much our lives mapped out. Was it moved too fast? More than likely, but my feeling is if you have that connection, then you do and there isn't a fast way of how your heart feels for someone. I need advice on how to win her back and make her realize what her and I had was something great. I want to give her her space, but not enough to where she moves on and I never get her back. So, what do I do? I wanna just talk to her and hopefully we can get that spark again and get back together. I know she still loves me and wants to be with me, but isn't showing it. I just need help. Thanks.

VoteLynnSwan · 07-14-2011, 11:48 PM

don't ever change/adopt a religion for a significant other.

Revis Island · 07-14-2011, 11:55 PM

She sounds like a bit of a dick. She is constantly saying she doesn't know if you're right for her even when you are making all these sacrifices. I say let it go.

CashmoneyDrew · 07-15-2011, 12:30 AM

The only religion you should ever switch to for a woman is Jehovah's Witness. That **** is legit.

YAYareaRB · 07-15-2011, 01:10 AM

first, i sure hope youre joining the religion because you took the discussions with the missionaries firstly and secondly because of the girl.

second, she sounds weird. ive never heard of a girl that swings her moods like that extremely. wtf?

soybean · 07-15-2011, 01:19 AM

don't act down in the dumps. girls don't like emo guys.

Vikes99ej · 07-15-2011, 02:06 AM

Wait, there are guys who would switch religions to be with a girl? Unless it's Kate Upton, I would have to say that's totally out of the question.

Hines · 07-15-2011, 05:33 AM

I have never been baptized. Her and I discussed that it would mean a lot to her if I got involved with her church because it means that much to her. I agreed to at least check it out and keep an open mind about it.

I also agreed that I would find a house or apartment close to where she lives because she doesn't want to live anywhere else. I didn't like it, but I would have just to keep her happy.

It's just weird to me because she claims she loved/loves me and cares about me, but someone who loves someone or cares about someone who talked about getting married with that person doesn't threaten to change their number if they call/text once and delete and block them on FB and won't even talk to the person. That makes it seem like I did something and she won't tell me. It's just frustrating that I did anything she asked me to do for her, and yet, she's "confused" on what she wants to do.

I know there isn't another guy because all she talked to and hung out with was me.

njx9 · 07-15-2011, 08:35 AM

it sounds like you gave up/did pretty much everything, and she gave up/did pretty much nothing (except for existing). given the benefit of hindsight, i have never understood why anyone (including me) ever falls/fell for that crap. sorry to be blunt, man, but from what you've said, this girl sucks. completely. don't play her games.

Hines · 07-15-2011, 08:39 AM

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Originally Posted by njx9

it sounds like you gave up/did pretty much everything, and she gave up/did pretty much nothing (except for existing). given the benefit of hindsight, i have never understood why anyone (including me) ever falls/fell for that crap. sorry to be blunt, man, but from what you've said, this girl sucks. completely. don't play her games.

While I agree with you, she is younger than I am. I'm 21 and she's 18, so immaturity can play a big part as to why she is doing what she is doing. Also, I think she might be scared that I might turn out like her other exes. She's had bad luck with guys and I was the only one who treated her the way she likes to be treated and not played games with her. I also think it scared her when we got in our first real fight. She doesnt suck. She tries her best to make me happy and do anything I need. She's just young and needs to be confident. JMO, though.

Caddy · 07-15-2011, 10:12 AM

21 is too young to settle down. Have fun being young instead of doing adult stuffs.

njx9 · 07-15-2011, 10:52 AM

it could certainly be some immaturity. but i just feel like you're really working to make excuses for this girl. i get the fact that you like her, but i feel like this is one of those times you should just leave **** alone for a few weeks and then reevaluate.