Relationship Advice Thread - Page 330

MetSox17 · 07-19-2012, 01:57 PM

I don't think that was true love, RaiderNation. Someone that's selfish and self centered is not lovable, and she certainly won't love you back. Find someone new, buddy.

thefalconer · 08-02-2012, 05:17 PM

men, please listen to these words.

draftguru151 · 08-02-2012, 05:27 PM

I love that Explosions in the Sky was in the background.

49ersfan_87 · 08-05-2012, 02:09 PM

nvm

10 characters

OSUGiants17 · 08-05-2012, 02:42 PM

Joe Rogan is the man, dude knows his ****. Him and Louie CK have the best outlooks on life. I would love to just hang out with those dudes

StickSkills · 08-06-2012, 02:31 PM

Can we talk about business relationships here too? As in, how to deal with coworkers? It just says "relationships"

killxswitch · 08-06-2012, 02:35 PM

I doubt anyone is going to stop you or abuse you for posting about whatever relationship you want in here.

kalbears13 · 08-06-2012, 07:31 PM

I wish texting was never invented. It complicates things so much.

Cigaro · 08-06-2012, 07:33 PM

...you could always not text...

kalbears13 · 08-06-2012, 07:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Cigaro

...you could always not text...

One does not simply not text...

Cigaro · 08-06-2012, 07:42 PM

If you are young obviously you can not completely avoid texting, but you can certainly limit your amount.

BuckeyeDan17 · 08-06-2012, 07:54 PM

I don't understand myself. I just got out of a pretty long relationship that ended incredibly badly. I got home from school (graduated) and this chick that's a friend of the family hit me up via fb and said "I heard you just got home from school we should hang out"

I replied with my number and **** and she tried calling to have phone conversations but I ******* hate talking on the phone. So after a seeing a few missed calls I simply sent a text that said "I don't like talking on the phone."

My point is, I was curious about hooking up with a black chick (and a much needed rebound, mind you) and this is the opportunity, it's right there. BUT then when I asked what she's hoping to get out of this she said "something steady" wtf. Like I need that right now, so I told her "you're wasting your time then." and she replied with "ok." and that's that, haven't heard from her since.

I've been on the fence about whether or not I genuinely want to go black though, I keep bouncing back and forth and I think that's what caused me to blow her off. I lose A. The rebound and B. the experimental phase.

EDIT: this was on my mind because I usually don't find girls that aren't white attractive; I'm not racist or anything, it's just personal taste, but then sometimes I think I do and I just can't ******* decide, and I should have just went for it.
I lose.

And to top it off, I feel that I haven't made an actual point here and I did nothing but rant, and for that I apologize.

kalbears13 · 08-07-2012, 12:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Cigaro

If you are young obviously you can not completely avoid texting, but you can certainly limit your amount.

It's not the amount of texting. It's all the ambiguity and interpretation that comes with it. It's too easy for someone to hide behind texting.

TitanHope · 08-07-2012, 04:32 AM

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Originally Posted by BuckeyeDan17

I don't understand myself. I just got out of a pretty long relationship that ended incredibly badly. I got home from school (graduated) and this chick that's a friend of the family hit me up via fb and said "I heard you just got home from school we should hang out"

I replied with my number and **** and she tried calling to have phone conversations but I ******* hate talking on the phone. So after a seeing a few missed calls I simply sent a text that said "I don't like talking on the phone."

My point is, I was curious about hooking up with a black chick (and a much needed rebound, mind you) and this is the opportunity, it's right there. BUT then when I asked what she's hoping to get out of this she said "something steady" wtf. Like I need that right now, so I told her "you're wasting your time then." and she replied with "ok." and that's that, haven't heard from her since.

I've been on the fence about whether or not I genuinely want to go black though, I keep bouncing back and forth and I think that's what caused me to blow her off. I lose A. The rebound and B. the experimental phase.

EDIT: this was on my mind because I usually don't find girls that aren't white attractive; I'm not racist or anything, it's just personal taste, but then sometimes I think I do and I just can't ******* decide, and I should have just went for it.
I lose.

And to top it off, I feel that I haven't made an actual point here and I did nothing but rant, and for that I apologize.

Dan.
You better work, work, work.
That black coochie.

killxswitch · 08-07-2012, 08:01 AM

Prowler · 08-07-2012, 06:07 PM

If you want a humanistic perspective. Only pursue her if you have genuine interest in her. I have a friend who basically hates her life because no guys take her seriously. She's the fun girl, but not the one that people marry. Dates white dudes and things go great for months or a year, and then they drop her. Try not to mess with her mind much. If anything it might be easier for her psyche to mention up front that you aren't ready for anything serious, but you would be interested in seeing where things could lead.

BuckeyeDan17 · 08-15-2012, 11:13 PM

I told her I've no interest in any kind of dating right now and she's said nothing to me since and it's pretty clear she has no intention of it in the future which is fine. To be honest I think what turned me off the most were her stupid facebook status updates 8 times a day, with a stupid ******* lady comment every time which would always be germane to prevailing over the opposite sex or something, you all have girls as friends on FB so you're aware of what I'm describing.

Finally, our two year age difference bothers me. I'm 23 later this month, she recently turned 21 and isn't enrolled into school or anything. It seems like it's nothing but **** that annoys me with her: Stupid status every 6 hours to the point where I remove you from my newsfeed and no evident goals set.

Also like I said, I get annoyed as **** with texting that's only stupid small talk. I've been doing that long enough with women and I'm tired of it.

I don't regret my decision anymore, perhaps if a more ambitious and mature taste of chocolate comes around then perhaps it goes down.

On a negative note, my slump continues. I wouldn't even consider it a slump actually, I don't even have plate appearances as of late.

Must..stay...positive...

brat316 · 08-15-2012, 11:24 PM

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Originally Posted by BuckeyeDan17

I told her I've no interest in any kind of dating right now and she's said nothing to me since and it's pretty clear she has no intention of it in the future which is fine. To be honest I think what turned me off the most were her stupid facebook status updates 8 times a day, with a stupid ******* lady comment every time which would always be germane to prevailing over the opposite sex or something, you all have girls as friends on FB so you're aware of what I'm describing.

Finally, our two year age difference bothers me. I'm 23 later this month, she recently turned 21 and isn't enrolled into school or anything. It seems like it's nothing but **** that annoys me with her: Stupid status every 6 hours to the point where I remove you from my newsfeed and no evident goals set.

Also like I said, I get annoyed as **** with texting that's only stupid small talk. I've been doing that long enough with women and I'm tired of it.

I don't regret my decision anymore, perhaps if a more ambitious and mature taste of chocolate comes around then perhaps it goes down.

On a negative note, my slump continues. I wouldn't even consider it a slump actually, I don't even have plate appearances as of late.

Must..stay...positive...

Hmmm I thought you texted saying you don't talk on the phone?

Seems like your just frustrated with everything, stuck in a rut. Go do some fun shiit, that you love to do. Try out something new and just take a break and have fun, don't be bogged down by other people thoughts and what they do. Just let it go, and do you, call a few friends and go somewhere with out girls. i.e. a beach, camping, hiking, gun shooting, driving range. hell start playing football regularly.

You need to get your mind and body on some busy work you enjoy doing. Find a hobby or start building something.

Rob S · 08-15-2012, 11:27 PM

So, I never post here, but I was talking to this girl at a bar tonight (cute blonde, clearly very dumb) and she mentioned she was a 49ers fan and loved Steve Rice....**** me.

Brent · 08-15-2012, 11:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Rob S

So, I never post here, but I was talking to this girl at a bar tonight (cute blonde, clearly very dumb) and she mentioned she was a 49ers fan and loved Steve Rice....**** me.

Rob S · 08-15-2012, 11:38 PM

Dude, I couldn't take it. I hate talking sports with women as is, but sweet Jesus. I got silent and left 2 minutes after once I finished my beer.

jayceheathman · 08-15-2012, 11:43 PM

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Originally Posted by kalbears13

It's not the amount of texting. It's all the ambiguity and interpretation that comes with it. It's too easy for someone to hide behind texting.

You and BuckeyeDan are polar opposites. I don't think it would work out.

BuckeyeDan17 · 08-16-2012, 01:35 AM

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Originally Posted by jayceheathman

You and BuckeyeDan are polar opposites. I don't think it would work out.

We tried so many ******* times and the fire just seems to have burned out.

EDIT: bharaat, I did tell her I don't like talking on the phone; however, the texts began to come in rapidly and I got annoyed too. I think you're right if you define 'everything' as what I've described, yes, I think that is how I feel - the thing is, I know I shouldn't be frustrated.

I graduated from IU-Bloomington in May and since I've returned home in northwest indiana to be around some of my best friends I haven't been around in close-to-a-year I've been care-free. It doesn't even matter what we do; but when I'm around them or at home reading, writing or spending time with good family bitches just don't matter. (I don't give a **** how lame that sounds) We have been playing a **** ton of basketball lately too and my 6'5 ass dominates my average-sized friends in the paint, so go my ego.

Rosebud · 08-16-2012, 06:50 PM

So how big of an asshole am I, if when visiting a friend while her BF is away, a BF I know she has been getting frustrated with, I hook up with her? Mind you I'm not seeing anyone at home that I'd be cheating on, although that's because I've carefully avoided asking out my dance teacher, who's really into me, until I get back.

Bulldogs · 08-16-2012, 06:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Rosebud

So how big of an asshole am I, if when visiting a friend while her BF is away, a BF I know she has been getting frustrated with, I hook up with her? Mind you I'm not seeing anyone at home that I'd be cheating on, although that's because I've carefully avoided asking out my dance teacher, who's really into me, until I get back.

You from New Jersey too?