Relationship Advice Thread

[Raiderz4Life]

So I been talking t the one girl I mentioned and... I'm starting to really really like her lol

[Caddy]

Originally Posted by Raiderz4Life

So I been talking t the one girl I mentioned and... I'm starting to really really like her lol

Why did you end with lol

[georgiafan]

I would suggest you make a choice now between the 2 bc if you try to keep on screwing both of them its gonna blow up and you will lose both. You might be able to get by without for a little bit but once they talk you are screwed. The one you don't pick I'd still be enough contact with her to keep her as a option incase it doesnt work out with the one you do pick.

Originally Posted by BigBlueNorwegian

So I thought I'd post in this thread for the first time, because I need some help. I have a little problem regarding some girls.

Me and some friends were out drinking beers in a bar, and met a group of girls there randomly. I started chatting up this one girl, a beautiful half Brazilian half Norwegian girl. I felt like I was in good shape, but suddenly some random dude she knew from before came over. He sat down across the table from her( I was sitting next to her), and they instantly started flirting.

Since I didn't want to go home empty-handed I started chatting with one of the other girls in the group. And I ended up taking her home instead. We didn't have sex, but did everything else.

I also hooked up with her the following weekend, but she sad it was her time of the month, so we didn't have sex that time either, but she proposed we meet up in 14 days (this upcoming saturday), after she came back from a trip out of town, to do it. She also teased me a lot. Among other things she showed me she can put both her legs behind her head, so I got all sorts of dirty ideas about sex positions in my head.

Anyways, here's the real kicker in this story. Last saturday me and my roommates had a halloween party for our friends. And some of my friends hooked up with the other girls in this group, so a couple of them came over. The girl I had shared a bed with the previous two saturdays, were out of town as explained. Well who do you think shows up? Brazilian girl. As the horny bastard I am, I of course ended up ******* her.

So my question is: What do I do? I in no way have any kind of feelings for either of these girls, but I do want to get more sex out of this. Preferably with the one I haven't ******, but the other would be okay too.

But how do I proceed here? Try the girl I haven't had sex with first, and hope they haven't talked about it, or go for the safer bet in the Brazilian? Because I suspect I can't get the Brazilian if I contact the girl I haven't ****** first, and get rejected just because I had sex with her friend.

Sorry this became such a long post, but I wanted to explain it thorougly. I would really appreciate some opinions if anyone read it all :)

[Raiderz4Life]

Originally Posted by Caddy

Why did you end with lol

Several reasons none of which you should worry about.

[thefalconer]

Originally Posted by Raiderz4Life

Several reasons none of which you should worry about lol

fixed for standardization of r4l's posts.

[SuperPacker]

Originally Posted by thefalconer

fixed for standardization of r4l's posts.

Hey, I see what you did there, and I like it.

[BigBlueNorwegian]

Originally Posted by georgiafan

I would suggest you make a choice now between the 2 bc if you try to keep on screwing both of them its gonna blow up and you will lose both. You might be able to get by without for a little bit but once they talk you are screwed. The one you don't pick I'd still be enough contact with her to keep her as a option incase it doesnt work out with the one you do pick.

Thank you, thats what I'm thinking too. I will try that, and keep you guys posted on how it goes this weekend.

And for all the horn dogs asking for pictures, I really don't want to put their pictures on the internet without them knowing, but if you ask me, I'll PM you their names on facebook, and you can check them out there if you want :)

[Rosebud]

While that's all fine n good, when you get the 3some you better post pics. No excuses!

[BigBlueNorwegian]

Originally Posted by Rosebud

While that's all fine n good, when you get the 3some you better post pics. No excuses!

Lol! If I manage to swing a threesome I promise to get pictures :)

[Da-Phins]

Originally Posted by Caddy

Why did you end with lol

Apparently been hanging around MOTH too much.

MOTH!!!! We are needing some new MOTH stories in here.

[georgiafan]

Originally Posted by BigBlueNorwegian

Thank you, thats what I'm thinking too. I will try that, and keep you guys posted on how it goes this weekend.

And for all the horn dogs asking for pictures, I really don't want to put their pictures on the internet without them knowing, but if you ask me, I'll PM you their names on facebook, and you can check them out there if you want :)

I dont blame u for not posting pics but If one of them is checking swdc then u should be picking her

[Raiderz4Life]

Lolthe one girl I been tryna get a just agreed to go to dinner with me. We hung out alone for a few hours yeaterday and today I asked her to dinner. Pretty stoked haha

[Rosebud]

Yeah boy...lol...haha...

[Rob S]

R4L, you know the deal. Pics or gtfo.

[A Perfect Score]

I love women. I have all their albums.

[Raiderz4Life]

Originally Posted by Rob S

R4L, you know the deal. Pics or gtfo.

I know I been thinking about it but I don't have any and she doesn't have a fb. She's really anti-pictures, if I can manage to get one I'll probably show you guys.

[Brent]

Originally Posted by Rob S

Don't give her another shot, Brent

So, last week, this same girl hits me up asking if I still want to meet up. Having nothing to do, I agree, and we met on Friday for drinks. Immediately, it's clear we're hitting it off. Eventually, she is like, "we should hang out this weekend" so I suggest the next night. That said, on Saturday we hang out, the Dallas Observer was having their music awards, which is really just a small music festival taking up all of Deep Ellum (music district in Dallas). I ended up having a good time and realized that she's very much the type of semi-hipster girl I fall for. Since then, however, she's been texting me each night and we're going to the art museum on Friday (**** you, I love that ****).

Patience is paying off.

[BaLLiN]

Not gunna lie to you guys I just hit a rough patch, it had been going well for awhile and out of nowhere she just let her real feelings out. I thought she would be like this earlier, but she said she keeps on remembering her ex and that she just wanted him to change, but realizes he won't, yet she still texts him and is going to a concert with him. This happened after I went to philly with her for her friend's 21st after the week where I could tell something was wrong. She tried to get physical but i kinda ignored it only later to give in later in the night but not sex. The next day it was obvious that i wasnt happy and she wanted to come "distract me" from studying, implying sex. I told her no, and then later told her that i wasn't happy with us.

She was hurt and annoyed, but kept talking to me and told me why she was so upset, and then 2 days after she and I had a really big conversation about who we are and I told her about my childhood which honestly was kinda ****** up. She immediately felt better, but after she left for her night class she wanted to call me and ask me what i thought about us. I said basically that she was friend zoning me, and i couldn't take that. She said she didn't want that but wanted to slowly transition into a relationship because she was scared that me and her were already a relationship without the title and she was still upset from her ex. We had a great conversation about everything and anything, but honestly i still felt like she was friend zoning me.

So these past few days i haven't really been texting her that much, not giving her nearly as much effort as before, and generally trying to limit my time with her bc i don't want to put effort all for nought. Today my lab partner who is an good looking girl (yes this is similar to Raiderz lol) and is really interested in me, came up to me while i was sitting in a group with the girl im trying to be with to get me to do a lab. I left with my lab partner and she texts me a lot more, is showing a lot of appreciation for minor stuff. Now she asks to sleep over in the morning in between classes bc she has an early class and a few hours to sleep. I just want to know if this is a sign of her realizing that she likes me a lot because she was jealous of the other girl, or that she is manipulating me to make herself feel better?

Edit: mind you, i do still really like this girl, and i realize that long relationships are tough (2.5 years) to get over and that she can't just shut him off in her life despite how little he tried and seemed to care about her. But going to a concert with him is only telling me bad things and I am not freaking out, but i am slowly feeling my hopes of any relationship slipping away.

Edit 2: tried to make it more comprehensible

[BaLLiN]

Also we had dinner with her parents as our technically second date (all the other times we were just on campus), and i went with her to her best friend's 21st. Those two things are kinda serious to start off, which is why i dont understand her, i told her i felt she was using me as a transition from her ex, but she said she had a crush on me for over a year, and yeah i believe that because i felt it, but still its mixed. Her family liked me a lot apparently... its just frustrating that it was so easy for it all to happen and that now i have to start all over...well kinda

[Forenci]

Your story is confusing. I might suggest labeling girl A and girl B appropriately in order to improve understanding.

If she's going to a concert with her ex I'd laugh and say good bye. I'm sorry. I know some people are friendly with ex's but if you're in a relationship you can't hang out with your ex. And I personally am a very understanding and non-jealous type but hanging out with an ex is pretty close to being a deal breaker. Especially in the setting you're describing.

[BaLLiN]

Originally Posted by Forenci

Your story is confusing. I might suggest labeling girl A and girl B appropriately in order to improve understanding.

If she's going to a concert with her ex I'd laugh and say good bye. I'm sorry. I know some people are friendly with ex's but if you're in a relationship you can't hang out with your ex. And I personally am a very understanding and non-jealous type but hanging out with an ex is pretty close to being a deal breaker. Especially in the setting you're describing.

think i fixed it. i know about the concert, but i really am a pushover, i dont check her phone and im trying to be as trusting as possible. But seriously, if anything happens between them yeah i am out.

btw the ex legitimately said he didn't want to be with her, and he's being a little girl about it from what i hear by trying to make her feel guilty and saying **** like "hows your new boyfriend?". Im not going to guilt her, i am not going to pressure her, i am not making her choices for her.

Edit: basically my plan is this, let it go its course, if anything happens with them this weekend i am out permanently.

[SickwithIt1010]

I got into a fight with my last girlfriend about that. We had been dating over a year and she had dated a kid I knew before me for a while and he started texting her saying that they should get together for lunch to catch up and what not, she asked me about it and how I felt about it and I flipped the **** out...you dont hang out with an ex boyfriend if you're in a relationship...that **** would NOT go over well.

[Da-Phins]

LOL this is hilarious. Apparently my ex(she dumped me few months ago) was looking at my facebook and saw that I just recently accepted a friend request from a girl. Now this girl lives around here but she was born at another state and I've known her for a while but nothing going on. Well, my ex texted me asking me who this girl was and how do I know her since she was from another state. I guess she missed the part or couldnt see that she lives around here now but whatever. The texting went on and I explained to her about it all and she said oh i thought it was a new GF. And stuff like IDC was just wondering.

So she said she doesnt care and wasnt jealous, but yet she had to text me to ask who it was and how it was "weird" that we was FB friends before I explained to her about it. Women are so strange....Dont get why they like to play games.

[georgiafan]

Originally Posted by Da-Phins

LOL this is hilarious. Apparently my ex(she dumped me few months ago) was looking at my facebook and saw that I just recently accepted a friend request from a girl. Now this girl lives around here but she was born at another state and I've known her for a while but nothing going on. Well, my ex texted me asking me who this girl was and how do I know her since she was from another state. I guess she messed the part or couldnt see that she lives around here now but whatever. The texting went on and I explained to her about it all and she said oh i thought it was a new GF. And stuff like IDC was just wondering.

So she said she doesnt care and wasnt jealous, but yet she had to text me to ask who it was and how it was "weird" that we was FB friends before I explained to her about it. Women are so strange....Dont get why they like to play games.

Crazy jelious women is the non ex prettier ?

[Da-Phins]

Originally Posted by georgiafan

Crazy jelious women is the non ex prettier ?

Nah, the ex is better looking.