Relationship Advice Thread - Page 375

SickwithIt1010 · 02-03-2013, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Rosebud

I'm a firm believer in the go for a kiss on the first date, but I also think waiting a set time is dumb. If you're not free til wednesday that's fine, but if you're gunna wait just to wait, that's silly. Let the girls play dumb games.

Well it definitely wasn't a date. Just kinda met her out of nowhere, I had zero clue as to who she was till last night, never seen her in my life.

BaLLiN · 02-03-2013, 10:30 PM

So I know a lot of you guys are gunna be mad at me, judge me, maybe even neg rep me, but I am with the girl again. This time is different and it isn't me just saying it. Everything is even better than it was when it first started for about 2 months.

She talks about doing longterm things w me, she brought me to an event with her family, she acts a lot more concerned and considerate to me, and I think I am better this time around with doing a lot less for her but letting her know that I can be as much as I was before and more.

She told me she was very happy with her life right now (as we have been good for about a month). Her mother told her she was a lot more pleasant to be around.

I don't think about how I felt before as much now, but I know I still hurt from it but I can get over it. I am happy with right now, and am really starting to trust her.

Forenci · 02-03-2013, 11:46 PM

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Originally Posted by BaLLiN

So I know a lot of you guys are gunna be mad at me, judge me, maybe even neg rep me, but I am with the girl again. This time is different and it isn't me just saying it. Everything is even better than it was when it first started for about 2 months.

She talks about doing longterm things w me, she brought me to an event with her family, she acts a lot more concerned and considerate to me, and I think I am better this time around with doing a lot less for her but letting her know that I can be as much as I was before and more.

She told me she was very happy with her life right now (as we have been good for about a month). Her mother told her she was a lot more pleasant to be around.

I don't think about how I felt before as much now, but I know I still hurt from it but I can get over it. I am happy with right now, and am really starting to trust her.

Haha, like that's never been said before..

I wouldn't neg rep you for doing something like this. It's your life man. If you want to waste your time with this girl who by your own accounts is a generally awful person, that's your prerogative.

Bulldogs · 02-04-2013, 12:43 AM

You dumbass Ballin.

Caddy · 02-04-2013, 12:49 AM

There are plenty of young, attractive ladies out there. Why settle for a toxic one?

M.O.T.H. · 02-04-2013, 05:53 AM

Been reading this thread backwards for whatever reason...interesting read.

10 days till valentines day yall.

Brent · 02-04-2013, 07:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Caddy

There are plenty of young, attractive ladies out there. Why settle for a toxic one?

Because easy girls are easy.

BaLLiN · 02-04-2013, 10:05 AM

she really is different though, I think a big part of how it all of a sudden exploded was that she broke up with her boyfriend for me and then felt guilty all of a sudden. I can feel that she is over him now, and she doesn't do things that she used to like text her guy friends a lot, she doesn't text her ex at all, and she asks me how I am and does things for me so that I don't have to be as stressed or to make life easier on me.

She was very stressful before, but honestly I felt and feel like that time period was just awful for her. She realizes what she put me through and has taken the steps to prove that she wants me to be a bigger part in her life and a bigger part in mine.

There are definitely other girls I could be with, but now that she isn't messed up and deliberately trying to slow or sabotage our relationship it is entirely too easy.

CJSchneider · 02-04-2013, 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by M.O.T.H.

Been reading this thread backwards for whatever reason...interesting read.

10 days till valentines day yall.

Wait, you're alive?

M.O.T.H. · 02-04-2013, 10:39 AM

I am alive indeed, happily wifed up for a month.

But yeah...Ballin's story sounds so similar to my last **** situation that you all know too well. Didnt work out at all.

jrdrylie · 02-04-2013, 10:58 AM

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Originally Posted by M.O.T.H.

I am alive indeed, happily wifed up for a month.

But yeah...Ballin's story sounds so similar to my last **** situation that you all know too well. Didnt work out at all.

Wait, you got married?

Raiderz4Life · 02-04-2013, 11:09 AM

MOTH alive? Wifed up?? What???

M.O.T.H. · 02-04-2013, 11:36 AM

Not married...should of used quotations. lol. "wifed up"

Just been dating this girl for a month. All is well, my crazy ex...is with this dude who does crazy roids and perks and beats the crap out of her. Tried to help got scorned...dont talk anymore.

Paul · 02-04-2013, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by M.O.T.H.

Not married...should of used quotations. lol. "wifed up"

Just been dating this girl for a month. All is well, my crazy ex...is with this dude who does crazy roids and perks and beats the crap out of her. Tried to help got scorned...dont talk anymore.

So she's dating half of Jersey?

Either way, welcome back mothy.

BamaFalcon59 · 02-10-2013, 08:19 PM

There's a hottie who I have been going out with to the club with friends lately probably 4 of the last 5 weekend nights. Shes a flirt. I want to ask her about Valentine's Day but I do not want her to say no and I do not know if she has a date. Suggestions

Rob S · 02-10-2013, 08:22 PM

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Originally Posted by BamaFalcon59

There's a hottie who I have been going out with to the club with friends lately probably 4 of the last 5 weekend nights. Shes a flirt. I want to ask her about Valentine's Day but I do not want her to say no and I do not know if she has a date. Suggestions

Just ask and don't worry about whether she will say yes or no....

SickwithIt1010 · 02-10-2013, 08:28 PM

Exactly what Rob said....who gives a ****? If she says no...its on to the next one.

Rosebud · 02-10-2013, 08:29 PM

Or don't. Next time, after you suck some face, ask her out some other night, if you've only seen her at the club a handful of times, asking her out on valentines day might be too big a thing for it to go well. If you just don't want to be alone on valentine's day then just ask her.

scottyboy · 02-10-2013, 08:33 PM

hook up buddy is getting weird. texting me way too much to hang out and stuff. making valentine's day hints.

It's at the point I wanna find a girl I actually like to be with.

until then, i want hook up buddy to stay easy but back off with this whole hanging out thing. she's just not very bright. so dumb. i mean, dumb enough to keep hooking up with me, so that's how you know

Rob S · 02-10-2013, 08:35 PM

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Originally Posted by scottyboy

hook up buddy is getting weird. texting me way too much to hang out and stuff. making valentine's day hints.

It's at the point I wanna find a girl I actually like to be with.

until then, i want hook up buddy to stay easy but back off with this whole hanging out thing. she's just not very bright. so dumb. i mean, dumb enough to keep hooking up with me, so that's how you know

Just take her to, like, Pizza Hut and buy her a Hershey's mini. Fair compromise in my book.

BamaFalcon59 · 02-10-2013, 08:36 PM

Well we all pregame at my spot and I talk to her at school. Ill probably bring it up when i see her tomorrow. Valentinrs day isnt the big deal. Im trying to talk to her and putting my interest out too early would be bad. Might not ask.

StickSkills · 02-10-2013, 08:37 PM

I thought this was an interesting conversation I had with a girl last week. The background she was complaining that guys are too complicated and emotional. She gave the example of how she'll cuddle with one and then they'll think that she's into them when she's not and she was just cuddling. We told her that she had way too many guys in the friendzone and she was making everyone her cuddle *****.

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Darnell Brady
Was talking to you and Corbin about this last night: http://www.laddertheory.com/

11:24am
Girl
that is VERY cynical darnell!!

11:25am
Darnell Brady
Ill admit that the intro is extremely cynical.

11:26am
Girl
where is the non cynical part

11:26am
Darnell Brady
Just keep reading through it the different pages.

11:26am
Girl
such as
this says that all women are gold diggers

11:28am
Darnell Brady
Thats not what it says

11:29am
Girl
implies. and why did we bring this up? did i say something?

11:29am
Darnell Brady
The cuddle ***** part on Ladder Theory Manifestation page.

11:33am
Girl
OMG

11:34am
Darnell Brady
What?

11:35am
Girl
that's horrible!

11:35am
Darnell Brady
The cuddle ***** part? Is it not true though?

11:36am
Girl
womp this makes me feel so guilty!

11:38am
Darnell Brady
Don't. Its life. Every guy has fallen to be a cuddle ***** at some point and every girl has had someone be their cuddle *****.
I guess thats not the most comforting of responses.

11:42am
Girl
have you been a cuddle *****?

11:43am
Darnell Brady
Absolutely and before I even knew what a cuddle ***** was, so I thought the girl was into me. That made things pretty weird.

11:43am
Girl
ah I'm sorry!

11:44am
Darnell Brady
Its all good. I learned a lot from it.
For instance, if a girl says something to the affect of, "you remind me of my brother/dad" then youre probably on the friends ladder and prime to be a cuddle *****.

11:46am
Girl
haha yeahh

11:48am
Darnell Brady
So you when you said to me, "You remind me of my dad" I knew instantly where I stood with you so you were actually being pretty blunt and non-confusing (you were preaching about how youre blunt all last night so props)

11:52am
Girl
haha so are you doing anything fun for the superbowl

Yeah, awkward ending to the convo.

scottyboy · 02-10-2013, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Rob S

Just take her to, like, Pizza Hut and buy her a Hershey's mini. Fair compromise in my book.

I give her a hershey's mini quite often if you know what I mean! ohhhh

self small wang jokes are cool, right?

I'm just afraid that if I piss her off too much on valentine's day, it'll end all the fun stuff.

meh.

might just ignore her and see if I can find a lonely girl at the bar on valentine's day and see what happens

scottyboy · 02-10-2013, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by BamaFalcon59

Well we all pregame at my spot and I talk to her at school. Ill probably bring it up when i see her tomorrow. Valentinrs day isnt the big deal. Im trying to talk to her and putting my interest out too early would be bad. Might not ask.

gotta ask dude. what's the harm in asking? she says no. then you move on.

Rosebud · 02-10-2013, 08:50 PM

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Originally Posted by BamaFalcon59

Well we all pregame at my spot and I talk to her at school. Ill probably bring it up when i see her tomorrow. Valentinrs day isnt the big deal. Im trying to talk to her and putting my interest out too early would be bad. Might not ask.

The ****? No, waiting too long to show your interest is bad. Confidently telling her you wanna spend time alone with her is a good thing, as long as you don't make it into too big a deal by making it on v-day and being all hesitant and desperate.