Relationship Advice Thread - Page 383

MetSox17 · 02-26-2013, 02:56 PM

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Originally Posted by JoeJoeBrown

Exactly. And if he doesn't respond to all of that, you should also tell him that no one respects him for getting abused like he does and that until he stands up for himself and gets rid of this abusive domineering gf, he will always be viewed as a loser.

Pretty sure this particular situation calls for a kick in the nuts after, just for good measure.

JoeJoeBrown · 02-26-2013, 03:09 PM

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Originally Posted by MetSox17

Pretty sure this particular situation calls for a kick in the nuts after, just for good measure.

Yeah, I'm kinda annoyed to be honest. I just want to meet this guy to tell him "Grow a ******* sack and dump this *****, kid."

Rosebud · 02-26-2013, 03:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Raiderz4Life

Out of all the advice...someone tell me...why I immediately thought "Oooooh this one! Use this one!!"

Because if the guy doesn't respond to reason nothing is going to drive the home point like boning the *****?

SuperPacker · 02-26-2013, 04:12 PM

When TH was saying the guy went back to the girls house and that 'everything was okay' I was getting really scared that he was going to say that they had sex. That would've been the saddest thing ever, but sounds like something that the psycho ***** would manipulate him into doing.

And i'd go with exactly what you said TH, but if it doesn't work, take Rosebud's idea into serious consideration.

cmarq83 · 02-26-2013, 04:43 PM

To me the family thing is worse than the cheating. How absurdly selfish do you have to be as a human being to try to separate someone from the people who care about them the most just because you have a distaste for them? I basically don't care how they treat you, if you care about someone even in the slightest you don't try and separate them from important people in their lives unless those people negatively influence that person. If my GF ever tried that **** on me I'd judo dump her ass in a millisecond.

StickSkills · 02-27-2013, 12:39 AM

Been talking to this girl that just got out of a 4 year relationship (first time in college not in a relationship). Anyways, basically we both made it clear to each other that we're going to the bar on Thursday together and will be hanging out after and having sex.

Anyways, we've known about this for about a week and a half (last week she had to go to a family wedding).

Is it weird at all that I've been making sure I yank it each night before I go to bed just to try and last longer?

pierce2walker · 02-27-2013, 12:42 AM

I'd be lying if I said I'd never done something similar before.

Raiderz4Life · 02-27-2013, 12:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Rosebud

Because if the guy doesn't respond to reason nothing is going to drive the home point like boning the *****?

I still like your idea best

Rosebud · 02-27-2013, 08:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Raiderz4Life

I still like your idea best

Cause when it gets that bad it's what needs to happen. A friend of mine in high school went through the same thing, and that's what we did to get him out of it. He knew she was a lying skank, he knew she made **** up to try and isolate him from some of his friends by starting crazy drama that I was always diffusing, and she even called him while we were sitting in my car one night sucking face and playing hands in pants. Still he couldn't break up with her til I showed him pictures of her naked on my backseat. He was pissed, and if I were a smaller guy he may have just ripped my head off, but he knew what a ***** she was and was able to calm down and understand that it was all because she was evil to him, eventually dumping her ass later that week.

MetSox17 · 02-27-2013, 08:12 AM

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Originally Posted by StickSkills

Been talking to this girl that just got out of a 4 year relationship (first time in college not in a relationship). Anyways, basically we both made it clear to each other that we're going to the bar on Thursday together and will be hanging out after and having sex.

Anyways, we've known about this for about a week and a half (last week she had to go to a family wedding).

Is it weird at all that I've been making sure I yank it each night before I go to bed just to try and last longer?

Not weird, but if you're worried about performance, you should get a solid buzz going that night. Don't whiskey d yourself, but enough to where you won't think about it as much.

Rosebud · 02-27-2013, 08:13 AM

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Originally Posted by MetSox17

Not weird, but if you're worried about performance, you should get a solid buzz going that night. Don't whiskey d yourself, but enough to where you won't think about it as much.

That and just rock the foreplay. If you do a great job when you go down on her, she won't mind if you're a little quick on the trigger later.

MetSox17 · 02-27-2013, 08:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Rosebud

That and just rock the foreplay. If you do a great job when you go down on her, she won't mind if you're a little quick on the trigger later.

I fully endorse this in theory, but personally, i just can't bring myself to eat a girl out who i'm banging for the very first time. Maybe it's just me.

SuperPacker · 02-27-2013, 08:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Rosebud

Cause when it gets that bad it's what needs to happen. A friend of mine in high school went through the same thing, and that's what we did to get him out of it. He knew she was a lying skank, he knew she made **** up to try and isolate him from some of his friends by starting crazy drama that I was always diffusing, and she even called him while we were sitting in my car one night sucking face and playing hands in pants. Still he couldn't break up with her til I showed him pictures of her naked on my backseat. He was pissed, and if I were a smaller guy he may have just ripped my head off, but he knew what a ***** she was and was able to calm down and understand that it was all because she was evil to him, eventually dumping her ass later that week.

I think as long as the friend of the person getting played is doing it for the right reasons, it would be wrong of them to get mad. I'm sure TH doesn't want to do it, but it's what he has to do. His duty as a true friend.

Although thinking about it now, if someone did that to me I think i'd go crazy. If for some reason I went back to my gf and my friend slept with her to make me no go back to her, i'd be pissed that he ****** her and would be just thinking "just tell me...don't **** my girlfriend!!!".

Yeah TH, I don't think it's a good idea. Unless you care more about your friend not going back to her than him being your friend.

I guess maybe after cooling down a few weeks later and understanding why he did it, I would probably accept it, but initially I would be so so so pissed.

Rosebud · 02-27-2013, 08:28 AM

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Originally Posted by MetSox17

I fully endorse this in theory, but personally, i just can't bring myself to eat a girl out who i'm banging for the very first time. Maybe it's just me.

Fair enough, but to me that's the best part of sex. I actually don't enjoy boning nearly as much if I don't at least taste her first.

eaglesalltheway · 02-27-2013, 08:34 AM

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Originally Posted by MetSox17

georgiafan is correct. She absolutely cannot take his v-card or else he'll never leave the *****. Like the rest of the guys, i agree you need to come on strong and hard. Take JoeJoe's advice, and show the guy that you care about him so much that you'd go through all of that just to try and get him to understand.

Seriously, I'd be the type of person to preface the whole conversation (half joking) saying something like "You aren't going to like what I'm going to say, but its only because I care enough that you hitting me (include this or not, up to you) doesn't matter to me. I had a friend who wouldn't let go of his succubus and had to do a similar thing. I wasn't worried about him hitting me or anything, but I knew he wouldn't like what I had to say (it was an eerily similar situation, actually) and it might get him really angry. I usually try to preface any serious conversations with my friends with tension breakers, I do it in normal conversation, but sometimes even when going over serious things like this, it doesn't hurt to remind them that you can have fun and laugh WITH YOUR FRIEND even when you are having difficult conversations like the one you are dealing with. Funny enough, that same friend is getting to the point where he and his latest GF, who he's been living with for a long time now, may be moving out/splitting up, so I'm going to probably be helping him through that for a little while.

Edit: TH, if you want to know more about what I did with my friend before, PM me, what I ended up doing worked pretty well. Naturally you're going to have an awkward stretch, but like anything with close friends, it doesn't last long. Mine wasn't even a week, and shortly after that he broke up with her. And consequently has thanked me for it pretty much whenever that slunt gets brought up in conversation.

Rosebud · 02-27-2013, 08:35 AM

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Originally Posted by SuperPacker

I think as long as the friend of the person getting played is doing it for the right reasons, it would be wrong of them to get mad. I'm sure TH doesn't want to do it, but it's what he has to do. His duty as a true friend.

Although thinking about it now, if someone did that to me I think i'd go crazy. If for some reason I went back to my gf and my friend slept with her to make me no go back to her, i'd be pissed that he ****** her and would be just thinking "just tell me...don't **** my girlfriend!!!".

Yeah TH, I don't think it's a good idea. Unless you care more about your friend not going back to her than him being your friend.

I guess maybe after cooling down a few weeks later and understanding why he did it, I would probably accept it, but initially I would be so so so pissed.

Well I knew a lot about the girl, she was an ex of my arch-friend and we talked a lot, so I knew just how much **** she made up. And my friend who was with her at the time knew all about it, cause we did not hesitate to tell him what skank she was. So I did try to tell him first, but he wouldn't listen.

Then she started making up some serious ****, one time even trying to **** up everyone's 420 by saying that another friend, had tried to force himself on top of her, when the dude was too high to even make it back to his car without someone helping him stay on his feet. My friend who was dating her had to step up and would've beaten the other guy into a hospital bed if I didn't step in between them.

So I had to do something to get her out of everybody's lives, I was getting sick of being the peacemaker and she was started to seriously hurt my friend who was with her. Yeah he was super pissed for a few days, and frankly I'm still surprised he didn't **** me up cause even though I'm a strong dude, this guy had 3 inches and 30 pounds on me and an even higher pain tolerance. But I think on some level he knew we were right, and that she was the one in the wrong, which is why he was able to not flip out completely and was able to dump her just a couple days later.

eaglesalltheway · 02-27-2013, 08:50 AM

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Originally Posted by cmarq83

To me the family thing is worse than the cheating. How absurdly selfish do you have to be as a human being to try to separate someone from the people who care about them the most just because you have a distaste for them? I basically don't care how they treat you, if you care about someone even in the slightest you don't try and separate them from important people in their lives unless those people negatively influence that person. If my GF ever tried that **** on me I'd judo dump her ass in a millisecond.

Its what bothers me the most too, its all about power and control. She knows people don't like her (probably because she's a whorecunt) and she's trying to separate him from those (perfectly reasonable) people. What I find most upsetting was, that despite pretty much abandoning his family, his father still went through the time, effort, and risk, of recommending him for what seems like at least a decent job. And he still continues to ignore his family in favor of her? Its aggravating, even from my perspective, and I've never met this guy. The more I thought about it, if the guy doesn't get it after that, its a friendship that doesn't ultimately matter anyway, and if he doesn't respond to TH trying to help him, the friendship was going to end anyway. Sucks, but sometimes you just naturally grow apart from friends like that. Now I hope everything works out and you can get this guy to come around TH (I'd also recommend he spends some time re-building his relationship with his family), but if not, at least you have your mutual friend still.

Its funny how as you get older and further away from school how your true friends really end up dwindling. Thus is life though.

eaglesalltheway · 02-27-2013, 08:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Rosebud

Cause when it gets that bad it's what needs to happen. A friend of mine in high school went through the same thing, and that's what we did to get him out of it. He knew she was a lying skank, he knew she made **** up to try and isolate him from some of his friends by starting crazy drama that I was always diffusing, and she even called him while we were sitting in my car one night sucking face and playing hands in pants. Still he couldn't break up with her til I showed him pictures of her naked on my backseat. He was pissed, and if I were a smaller guy he may have just ripped my head off, but he knew what a ***** she was and was able to calm down and understand that it was all because she was evil to him, eventually dumping her ass later that week.

I wish I had the gumption to pull this type of move off, but I don't think I could bring myself to that, simply because he's still my bud, and even if he's in a position like that, I figure if they can't see it for themself, tough ****. But if it works, I can't argue it. That's a case where you can support the "ends justify means" strategy.

eaglesalltheway · 02-27-2013, 08:57 AM

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Originally Posted by MetSox17

I fully endorse this in theory, but personally, i just can't bring myself to eat a girl out who i'm banging for the very first time. Maybe it's just me.

Don't be a ***** Metsox, eat *****.

Rosebud · 02-27-2013, 09:21 AM

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Originally Posted by eaglesalltheway

I wish I had the gumption to pull this type of move off, but I don't think I could bring myself to that, simply because he's still my bud, and even if he's in a position like that, I figure if they can't see it for themself, tough ****. But if it works, I can't argue it. That's a case where you can support the "ends justify means" strategy.

One way you're definitely losing your friend to a **** life, the other way you just might be losing your friend and either way he ends up better off. I'll take the risk that my friend ends up hating me, if it gets them away from the succubus.

SuperPacker · 02-27-2013, 09:28 AM

Manipulative people (especially in a relationship) are the worst.

MetSox17 · 02-27-2013, 10:14 AM

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Don't be a ***** Metsox, eat *****.

I love doing it with my girlfriend, but if you're a random bar hookup, you're SOL, I dont know who or what has been through that.

eaglesalltheway · 02-27-2013, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by MetSox17

I love doing it with my girlfriend, but if you're a random bar hookup, you're SOL, I dont know who or what has been through that.

Random bar hookup is a different story, lol. They're only there for the dick anyway.

MetSox17 · 02-27-2013, 10:43 AM

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Originally Posted by eaglesalltheway

Random bar hookup is a different story, lol. They're only there for the dick anyway.

I stated that in my original post, waffles!

eaglesalltheway · 02-27-2013, 11:30 AM

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Originally Posted by MetSox17

I stated that in my original post, waffles!

No sir you just said first time, just misunderstood the situation you meant. I was thinking more along the lines of a woman you've been seeing for some time, for some reason.