Relationship Advice Thread

[Bert Macklin]

Going to do this for my wife tonight and see where it goes

[CashmoneyDrew]

Don't forget the tootsie roll.

[eaglesalltheway]

Originally Posted by Rosebud

We've talked about it before. If anything she'd anti-freeze my drink, but I'm pretty good at dodging being the target of crazy, so I don't think she'd try to kill me.

Anyone else alarmed by this? No one?

[killxswitch]

Originally Posted by eaglesalltheway

Anyone else alarmed by this? No one?

I'm alarmed by the entire thing but he's taking the MOTH approach so I'm not sure there's much we can do.

[eaglesalltheway]

Originally Posted by killxswitch

I'm alarmed by the entire thing but he's taking the MOTH approach so I'm not sure there's much we can do.

I mean, I'm not trying to talk poorly about you here, Rosebud, but you spent so much time talking about how this chick is crazy, have been in a relationship with crazy, and then say you are good at dodging being the target of crazy? Rosebud, you've been the bullseye for crazy ever since that relationship started, and its only a matter of time before she takes her crazy shot and makes it.

[Bert Macklin]

Well I'm making a baby this summer!

[georgiafan]

Originally Posted by killxswitch

Well it seems like you're getting all green lights. Her asking for a first date on VD is a little weird so it's good you didn't do that. But her still showing interest after that is a good thing IMO. Don't be too passive about it. Be as aggressive as you can while staying true to who you are. Confidence and assertiveness are good things.

You might allow her to recover from surgery though.

Yea the VD date caught me off guard and I didnt get to excited bc I just figured she didnt wanna be alone on vday. Like you said I got my hopes up after she showed intrest 2 weeks later. For some reason during that time I helped her look for a iphone on ebay and that scored me points somehow.

[StickSkills]

Been talking with a girl for a few weeks now, we went to the bar last night, then back to her place for the night and got about an hour of sleep. Anyways, before we actually did fall asleep, just was just laying there going, "There's something different about you. I don't know what it is, but I'm going to figure it out. There's just something different."

I'm assuming that's a positive, but I mean, she's graduating in 2 months and then going to Europe. Lets not be talking about that stuff.

[pierce2walker]

How long is she going to Europe for though? If its just for the summer, then it wouldn't be an issue to pick it back up when she gets back (assuming you really like her). If she's going for the foreseeable future though, that would be an issue...

[StickSkills]

Originally Posted by pierce2walker

How long is she going to Europe for though? If its just for the summer, then it wouldn't be an issue to pick it back up when she gets back (assuming you really like her). If she's going for the foreseeable future though, that would be an issue...

It could be as short as 1 month, which would be awesome, or it could be as long as indefinite. She's going over there to teach, and if she likes it, she's going to stay, but if she doesn't she is going to come back to the US and try to work in student activities at a university, which is what she really wants to do.

I still have a full year in school left, so I really dont know what to expect out of any of this, so I'm going to not expect anything I guess and just enjoy the next 2 months.

[pierce2walker]

Originally Posted by StickSkills

It could be as short as 1 month, which would be awesome, or it could be as long as indefinite. She's going over there to teach, and if she likes it, she's going to stay, but if she doesn't she is going to come back to the US and try to work in student activities at a university, which is what she really wants to do.

I still have a full year in school left, so I really dont know what to expect out of any of this, so I'm going to not expect anything I guess and just enjoy the next 2 months.

Exactly. I don't blame her for trying to teach abroad after graduation (I thought about doing the same thing), but I wouldn't let her uncertainty dictate your life. If she comes back soon you can try to rekindle it then, but I wouldn't get too hung up on it because who knows how long she could be gone. Make sure you enjoy that last year of school.

[Rosebud]

Originally Posted by eaglesalltheway

I mean, I'm not trying to talk poorly about you here, Rosebud, but you spent so much time talking about how this chick is crazy, have been in a relationship with crazy, and then say you are good at dodging being the target of crazy? Rosebud, you've been the bullseye for crazy ever since that relationship started, and its only a matter of time before she takes her crazy shot and makes it.

A) That was mean KS, really mean, I'm not MOTH bad, I'm not falling madly in love with her and making terrible decision after terrible decision to be with her

B) That's the thing though, her craziness comes from a place of protectiveness, unless I do something I would never do I'm in that bubble of things and people she gets protective over, so the craziness doesn't get directed at me too much. The most I have to deal with is her paranoia that we're being spied on by her creepy neighbor, how easily she can get spooked, and the fact that there be ghosts about that I don't see.

Anyway I'm still doubtful that we ever even get back together as more than just friends, which is why I had a great time last night with the ****-buddy.

[pierce2walker]

Originally Posted by Rosebud

B) That's the thing though, her craziness comes from a place of protectiveness, unless I do something I would never do I'm in that bubble of things and people she gets protective over, so the craziness doesn't get directed at me too much. The most I have to deal with is her paranoia that we're being spied on by her creepy neighbor, how easily she can get spooked, and the fact that there be ghosts about that I don't see.

[Borat]

Originally Posted by jrdrylie

You could always send a nice little get-well bouquet to her after her surgery.

Make it roses to avoid the friendzone.

[Rob S]

Originally Posted by Borat

Make it roses to avoid the friendzone.

How the eff can you get friendzoned by sending flowers? If there is one thing that makes your intentions abundantly clear, it's flowers.

[Borat]

Originally Posted by Rob S

How the eff can you get friendzoned by sending flowers? If there is one thing that makes your intentions abundantly clear, it's flowers.

Ewwwwww gross. I just sent my Grandma a flower arrangement.

[RCAChainGang]

Spring Break, I have no money and everyone left to go home. This university is a ghost town. Seriously lonely. :/

[Rob S]

Originally Posted by Borat

Ewwwwww gross. I just sent my Grandma a flower arrangement.

Fine. To a person your age in a non funeral situation.

[Raiderz4Life]

Originally Posted by Rob S

How the eff can you get friendzoned by sending flowers? If there is one thing that makes your intentions abundantly clear, it's flowers.

Pretty much. When I asked my girl on our first date I wasn't 100% sure if she was aware it was a date so I gave her a rose to pretty much drive the point home that I'm not lookin to be frienzoned

[pierce2walker]

Just throw a winky face in when you text her. She'll know.

[kalbears13]

About to **** where I eat. No doubt it will taste delicious.

[SickwithIt1010]

So this girl at the coffee shop I go to is there everyday and let me tell ya...I haven't been this attracted to a girl in a long time. I know nothing about her, she isn't super flashy...but somethin about her. I usually have zero problem approaching girls but with her I don't know....I can't get enough sack to say anything to her...

[Bert Macklin]

Here's some advice guys.

[Taber21]

Originally Posted by Bert Macklin

Here's some advice guys.

The Truth.

[nobodyinparticular]

Originally Posted by Bert Macklin

Here's some advice guys.

My last relationship (before getting married) ended because I put my foot down on this. And i also made a fuss because the guy kept drunkenly calling and telling her he love her and she didn't stop hanging out alone with him.