Relationship Advice Thread - Page 386

SickwithIt1010 · 03-07-2013, 04:54 PM

I've never felt comfortable with that ****, and have had no problem letting them know it.

Rosebud · 03-07-2013, 05:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Bert Macklin

Here's some advice guys.

Eh that's tough, I've hooked up with a girl that way, but I also have a lot of girls that I'm just friends with that would dump your ass real quick if you tried to put your foot down on it and for the most part getting a guys perspective has helped them be a lot better towards their men.

MetSox17 · 03-07-2013, 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by nobodyinparticular

My last relationship (before getting married) ended because I put my foot down on this. And i also made a fuss because the guy kept drunkenly calling and telling her he love her and she didn't stop hanging out alone with him.

I feel like i may have this problem pretty soon with my girlfriend, save for the hanging out alone part. She doesn't hang out with other guys but there's a few that won't stop "drunk" dialing her or professing their love to her.

SickwithIt1010 · 03-07-2013, 08:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Rosebud

Eh that's tough, I've hooked up with a girl that way, but I also have a lot of girls that I'm just friends with that would dump your ass real quick if you tried to put your foot down on it and for the most part getting a guys perspective has helped them be a lot better towards their men.

Meh, all cases are different. You got some broads who don't tell you about it and you find out from someone outside of her...which is not ok. If they tell me, well I do wanna know specifics....because its likely going to be that I'm not going to be very comfortable with it, but will let it happen. I've just seen to many friends get ****** up over from this situation, after I told them it would happen.

Raiderz4Life · 03-07-2013, 08:40 PM

Yeah I was never really OK with it either. One of my gf's in HS had a guy best friend and that turned into a mess because he liked her and of course didn't like that I was the boyfriend. I popped him once for kissing her. Luckily my current one doesn't hang out with many people, usually just me, her sister, or her best friend who's also a real good friend of mine and is with my best friend.

Rosebud · 03-08-2013, 12:15 AM

Im just gunna say I've been a huge aid to some of my friends with their boyfriends, and even if they didn't break up with their bf's for not being cool with me, those relationships would've ended without me checking those girls and helping harangue them back into their relationships.

Admittedly it can be a double edged sword, but if it's a real friendship and not a guy who doesn't have the balls to hit on someone he likes, that swords has cut more in favor of the BF than against him.

Even the girl who ended up cheating with me, was better for her relationship as we started to figure out how to get her to really get into enjoy sex, in a way that her boyfriend just wasn't capable of until after she had worked some stuff out with me.

StickSkills · 03-08-2013, 01:33 AM

I feel like I could never hold that standard for the girl that I've been talking to/sleeping with lately just because I have talked to her best friend a lot to help get a girls perspective... and we all (the three of us) know that back in September, I tried to hook up with that best friend.

I can't avoid that best friend though, as we have 2 classes together, our office hours together, and other events just because of our positions.

Again though, that best friend is the one who introduced me to this girl back in November.

SuperPacker · 03-08-2013, 03:30 AM

When a girl tries to stop a guy from speaking to people he's friends/family with, she's a manipulating *****. When a guy does the same thing, it's okay?

Forenci/

pierce2walker · 03-08-2013, 03:59 AM

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Originally Posted by SuperPacker

When a girl tries to stop a guy from speaking to people he's friends/family with she's a manipulating *****. When a guy does the same thing, it's okay?

Forenci/

eaglesalltheway · 03-12-2013, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by SickwithIt1010

Meh, all cases are different. You got some broads who don't tell you about it and you find out from someone outside of her...which is not ok. If they tell me, well I do wanna know specifics....because its likely going to be that I'm not going to be very comfortable with it, but will let it happen. I've just seen to many friends get ****** up over from this situation, after I told them it would happen.

That's the way I look at it. I have always had plenty of girl friends, and enjoy talking to them so whenever I've been in a relationship I pretty much let the girl I'm seeing know that as long as nothing that shouldn't be happening isn't happening, if they've got guy friends, I let them talk, most of them I'm met and become friends with now anyway, so it's not like I'm worried about any of that. I see why some people don't want their gf/bf talking to opposite sex "friends" but I enjoy being able to talk to my female friends and wouldn't want to not be able to talk to them if a girl said she didn't want me talking to them, so I treat them the same. Exes are a different story, there are some times where you just would rather them not talking, but even then I usually let it be. I haven't gotten into a relationship with a girl who has been what I would call too hung up on an ex.

nepg · 03-12-2013, 05:50 PM

Was watching the Wonder Years and was reminded of this gem that I thought I'd share:

BamaFalcon59 · 03-13-2013, 03:02 PM

There is a girl in one of my classes (college) who I am pretty sure is attracted to me. Today I talked to her for a minute and she brought up Spring Break (she's going to PCB) and she told me if I'm down there I should hit her up on facebook and we could get together. Well I got on facebook and messaged her with my number and told her she should text me. She texted me a minute or two after.

Girl: Hey! This is ___. Just so if I do decide to text you later, you have it. Or if you choose to text me. :P
Me: Ha, either way. Who are you going to the beach with?
Girl: I don't really know exactly as of now. My boyfriend and his friends and then a bunch of friends from auburn.

The BF is FB official and I knew she had one. But should I try to get her over to my place and if so how? Only time I've hooked up with girls with a BF, it has been their initiative. I've yet to even text back.

CashmoneyDrew · 03-13-2013, 03:08 PM

Sounds like she just wants you to join in on the bukkake.

pierce2walker · 03-13-2013, 05:59 PM

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Originally Posted by BamaFalcon59

There is a girl in one of my classes (college) who I am pretty sure is attracted to me. Today I talked to her for a minute and she brought up Spring Break (she's going to PCB) and she told me if I'm down there I should hit her up on facebook and we could get together. Well I got on facebook and messaged her with my number and told her she should text me. She texted me a minute or two after.

Girl: Hey! This is ___. Just so if I do decide to text you later, you have it. Or if you choose to text me. :P
Me: Ha, either way. Who are you going to the beach with?
Girl: I don't really know exactly as of now. My boyfriend and his friends and then a bunch of friends from auburn.

The BF is FB official and I knew she had one. But should I try to get her over to my place and if so how? Only time I've hooked up with girls with a BF, it has been their initiative. I've yet to even text back.

BallerT1215 · 03-13-2013, 06:05 PM

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Originally Posted by BamaFalcon59

There is a girl in one of my classes (college) who I am pretty sure is attracted to me. Today I talked to her for a minute and she brought up Spring Break (she's going to PCB) and she told me if I'm down there I should hit her up on facebook and we could get together. Well I got on facebook and messaged her with my number and told her she should text me. She texted me a minute or two after.

Girl: Hey! This is ___. Just so if I do decide to text you later, you have it. Or if you choose to text me. :P
Me: Ha, either way. Who are you going to the beach with?
Girl: I don't really know exactly as of now. My boyfriend and his friends and then a bunch of friends from auburn.

The BF is FB official and I knew she had one. But should I try to get her over to my place and if so how? Only time I've hooked up with girls with a BF, it has been their initiative. I've yet to even text back.

Cmon bro...

BamaFalcon59 · 03-13-2013, 06:11 PM

I'm not understanding. I catch the girl looking at me all the time. there is a way for me to get in.

Rosebud · 03-13-2013, 06:52 PM

Invite her to hang out one night "in case you don't see each other over the break" and make your move?

Giantsfan1080 · 03-13-2013, 07:21 PM

I've noticed that girls who talk about their BF's a lot in public are the ones more likely to cheat on them. It's like they're trying to reinforce to themselves they are dating someone.

Rob S · 03-13-2013, 07:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Rosebud

Invite her to hang out one night "in case you don't see each other over the break" and make your move?

Yeah, I don't get the question. If you've decided that you don't care that she has a BF and want to go for it, just pursue it similar to anyone else. Invite her out for a drink to celebrate some BS thing, order some shots and go for it.

eaglesalltheway · 03-14-2013, 08:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Giantsfan1080

I've noticed that girls who talk about their BF's a lot in public are the ones more likely to cheat on them. It's like they're trying to reinforce to themselves they are dating someone.

That last sentence is spot on, and there are plenty of reasons why. Sometimes the reason is your first sentence, and sometimes it's because they are so self-conscious about something about themselves that its almost like a reminder to themselves that they are at least "good enough" to have a BF. And

georgiafan · 03-15-2013, 04:00 PM

Here is a update if anyone cares

So after our first date we keep on talking like always and then i mentioned doing something and she didnt reply and of course it put me in a bad mood. I told myself I'd wait for her to contact me and lucky she texted me first the next day.

She ended up having the surgery so I made sure to check on her and make sure she knew I was here for her. I was and still am worried that was gonna put me in the friend zone but I didnt see another way in. I ended up getting something for her at the store that she needed which gave me excuse to see her again.

So now that her health is back to normal and she is back at work I drop that off to her. I had mentioned something about lunch, but I didnt figure it would happen. But when I got there she said she was about to take lunch and ask me to go. I had just eat lunch and really needed to get back to work but ofcourse I went anyway. I was a little nervous and wasn't able to make her laugh as much I'd like but overall it seem to be another good step. She has since texted me on her break thanking me for lunch.

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Originally Posted by georgiafan

So there is this girl I've got to know recently through a combo of facebook/texting/mutal friend. After talking to her briefly in person a few times and not seeing anything change I tried to set up a dinner/date. She didnt really seem intrested which was no big deal and just chalked her up to the friend zone.

A few weeks later she started texting me more and more and eventully asked me to dinner on valetines day. Since she asked me at the last minute I already had plans and couldn't go. Because I figured the chance of a random hot girl asking me out vday was pretty slim so made plans the night before lol. I resisted the urge to try and force a raincheck and just let it happen nautrally.

This past weekend she started dropping hints for me to ask her to dinner and I did and everything went good. Afterwards I got the "Thanks for dinner I enjoyed it and had a great time text". We have been in contact since then and I havent tried to set anything up yet which I know needs to be my next step. She has been legit sick and having surgery in a few days. Part of me is prob taking it slow on purpose bc I know I will fall for this girl when we see each other again. Not sure what my question r advice is just thought i'd type this

kalbears13 · 03-16-2013, 03:03 AM

******** where you eat has never tasted so good. I'm sure it will end well... [/sarcasm]

Rosebud · 03-16-2013, 02:09 PM

High five Kal! *Dance Party*

SuperPacker · 03-16-2013, 03:05 PM

To all the teachers here, have you ever took a **** where you eat or has any teacher you know done it before? I've always wondered how many of my teachers were secretly ******* other teachers. Is it a complete no go at school, or does it happen?

MetSox17 · 03-16-2013, 06:35 PM

Happens all the time, SP. Most teachers hate their jobs and are drunks, so they meet up at bars for drinks, get tipsy and **** each other.