Life experience has led me to the fact that "Springing the wood" definitely turns the tables in my favor. If you have the resources, look at her boobs and show her what you are working with. Fortune favors the bold.
Who ******* cares if your shot is flaming? I got over thinking fire is a cool toy when I was 12. Just drink your damn shot if you want one and grow out of "OMFG look my shot has a flame in it that's so cool!!".
And the bar should have a fat legal bill on their hands for that. I would have beat the bartender if I was there.