Relationship Advice Thread - Page 174

GET LOOSE · 04-28-2010, 10:06 PM

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Originally Posted by 'cuse-213

Bingo, I like the baseball game idea.

Good choice I wish you good luck man

GET LOOSE · 04-28-2010, 10:09 PM

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Originally Posted by StickSkills

Alright, we're prom dates, so I'll mention something that night... thoughts?

My philosophy is act sooner then later. If you tell her how you feel then that whole night could be akward is she rejects you. If you ask now and she has the same feelings then you can go as more then friends...If no then you find another date simple as that

brat316 · 04-28-2010, 10:13 PM

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Originally Posted by GET LOOSE

My philosophy is act sooner then later. If you tell her how you feel then that whole night could be akward is she rejects you. If you ask now and she has the same feelings then you can go as more then friends...If no then you find another date simple as that

Its only akward if you make it akward...also finding last minute dates not always great. Having a few hrs left at the end of the night isn't as bad and there is a party happening.

StickSkills · 04-28-2010, 10:26 PM

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Originally Posted by GET LOOSE

My philosophy is act sooner then later. If you tell her how you feel then that whole night could be akward is she rejects you. If you ask now and she has the same feelings then you can go as more then friends...If no then you find another date simple as that

Ours is in 9 days, already have (almost) everything. I wouldn't be able to find another date. What if I say something at the end when I'm driving her home the next morning?

Brent · 04-28-2010, 10:41 PM

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Originally Posted by fischbowl

I got a number when I met her then actually I went and saw her yesterday at the club at the behest and advice of my friend. Which I now realize was the worst mistake I could make.

She's up in the Falls, Canada, which despite being a 30 minute drive, is still another country

you just have to treat her stripping as if it were a normal 9-5 job. act like you dont care that she does that for a living. BF51 used to date strippers, ask him what to do.

StickSkills · 04-28-2010, 11:40 PM

Brilliant:

"you will always lose money chasing b*****s, but you will never lose b*****s chasing money"

GET LOOSE · 04-29-2010, 01:17 AM

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Originally Posted by StickSkills

Ours is in 9 days, already have (almost) everything. I wouldn't be able to find another date. What if I say something at the end when I'm driving her home the next morning?

Oh dam I didnt even realize it was that soon. Yea I'd go with the telling her right before the proms about to end. Like after the last slow dance you can pull out some romance movie scene ****.

GET LOOSE · 04-29-2010, 01:22 AM

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Originally Posted by fischbowl

I got a number when I met her then actually I went and saw her yesterday at the club at the behest and advice of my friend. Which I now realize was the worst mistake I could make.

She's up in the Falls, Canada, which despite being a 30 minute drive, is still another country

The distance thing kinda sucks and so did your friends advice. I guess it really depends how much you like her. If you like her enough then the fact that she takes off her clothes for a living shouldnt bother you.....at least it shouldn't.

StickSkills · 04-29-2010, 11:12 PM

Alright, same girl, we're gonna have a movie date sometime soon... suggestions for movies? We already have a list of 4 movies:
1. Unbreakable - Her Choice
2. 10 Things I Hate About You- Her choice
3. O Brother Where Art Thou - my choice
4. Thank You for Smoking - My choice (we were just in a class with a bunch of debates while visiting a teacher and this was brought up)

other ideas?

BTW, we were just talking about Prom and she was talking about how basically she wants to only dance with me.

The Unseen · 04-29-2010, 11:14 PM

go with the more tolerable of hers

which is Unbreakable. I like that movie.

StickSkills · 04-29-2010, 11:30 PM

nah, the plan is to watch all four.

VoteLynnSwan · 04-30-2010, 12:36 AM

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Originally Posted by StickSkills

Alright, same girl, we're gonna have a movie date sometime soon... suggestions for movies? We already have a list of 4 movies:
1. Unbreakable - Her Choice
2. 10 Things I Hate About You- Her choice
3. O Brother Where Art Thou - my choice
4. Thank You for Smoking - My choice (we were just in a class with a bunch of debates while visiting a teacher and this was brought up)

other ideas?

BTW, we were just talking about Prom and she was talking about how basically she wants to only dance with me.

Garden State is a great movie. I'd suggest something semi romantic without being over romantic in your situation. Garden State is a pretty perfect movie for that.

Vikes99ej · 05-01-2010, 01:34 PM

If a chick at the bar says she recognizes you from some place you've never been, should you just go with it?

BUSTKUNTLAWL · 05-01-2010, 03:14 PM

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If a chick at the bar says she recognizes you from some place you've never been, should you just go with it?

That was likely her excuse to approach you.

*facepalm*

Call her out on that ****!

StickSkills · 05-01-2010, 03:40 PM

Simple response: "Never been there, but would love to go one day."

Vikes99ej · 05-01-2010, 03:59 PM

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Originally Posted by BUSTKUNTLAWL

That was likely her excuse to approach you.

*facepalm*

Call her out on that ****!

Yeah, that was probably another missed opportunity. I just said I didn't work at the place she thought I did and she pretty much left.

diabsoule · 05-01-2010, 05:54 PM

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Originally Posted by StickSkills

Alright, same girl, we're gonna have a movie date sometime soon... suggestions for movies? We already have a list of 4 movies:
1. Unbreakable - Her Choice
2. 10 Things I Hate About You- Her choice
3. O Brother Where Art Thou - my choice
4. Thank You for Smoking - My choice (we were just in a class with a bunch of debates while visiting a teacher and this was brought up)

other ideas?

BTW, we were just talking about Prom and she was talking about how basically she wants to only dance with me.

O Brother. It's a comedy. You'll laugh and it will put both of you into a good mood.

Ness · 05-01-2010, 06:17 PM

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Yeah, that was probably another missed opportunity. I just said I didn't work at the place she thought I did and she pretty much left.

Meh. Pretty dumb way to break the ice if you ask me. The "haven't I seen you somewhere" card. Not sure for girls, but this probably wouldn't work for guys trying to hit on women that much.

The Unseen · 05-01-2010, 07:22 PM

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Originally Posted by diabsoule

O Brother. It's a comedy. You'll laugh and it will put both of you into a good mood.

Good point, I happen to love the movie. I suggested one of her choices to make things easier

rockio42 · 05-01-2010, 08:52 PM

Alright guys, I usually don't ask much of everyone here but I'm in one hell of a ******* problem...

Alright so me and this girl told each other we liked each other (it was in early March) and have basically been dating since then but I have yet to real label it as "boyfriend and girlfriend". So that's cool and everything cause its the first dam time I've gotten out of my own way to actually not screw it up with a girl.

But now some problems have started coming up. So one of my best friends at college now (I'm a freshman and I met her in late September and I met the girl I'm currently dating maybe a month afterwards and they both live on the same floor) was dating this guy who was a total dick to her and all that but she kept going back to him and all that stuff but naturally I started to like this girl and think she was pretty, funny, all this ****. She continued to be flirty but I never put the moves on because she had a boyfriend. (usually i get screwed over by the friend zone but somehow I have managed to be the good guy while maintaining an air of not just being the "brother" or just best friend figure)

So flash forward to Spring Break and this other girl (girl im dating is now Girl 1 and the other one who had the boyfriend is now Girl 2) has this huge break-up with her boyfriend and she ends it. Now Girl 1 is off on a trip and is going to miss the first week back from break. So now i'm like best friend with Girl 2 and we start hanging out a lot again with Girl 1 away on an extended vacation and Girl 2 starts getting really really flirty and hand-sy and all that, and remember she is good friend with Girl 1, and we go to a party and she is very on me when we are dancing and just all around me and everything like that but I don't make-out with her or anything like that.

So Girl 1 gets back and everything is fine, Girl 2 starts to lay-off a little more but is still very flirty and gives off this air that she likes me. So everything is going great with Girl 1, I invite her to my fraternity's formal and she says yes and all that. It ends up she has to go to a concert for a class that night that is at 7 pm and the bus for our formal leaves at 5 pm, so we can't go. so now Girl 3 enters the scene. I have been friends with Girl 3 for like 5-6 years but the past 3 years or so we have been best friends and would hang out at least every weekend. So Girl 3 breaks up with her boyfriend and starts coming to my school to hang out with me one weekend. Girl 3 meets one of my best guy friends at school friend and they hit it off.

A couple weeks later (this timeline is kinda screwed up now but) Girl 3 invites my friend to her senior prom and then her friend from school invites me to be her date considering we all know each other and it'll be fun. I can actually go to the prom because Girl 1 can't go to formal, so I say yes and it seems like its going to be a good time.

So last night was the prom and **** got ******* complicated. Me and Girl 3 have always just been friends and everything but at her prom she starts kinda ditching my friend to dance with me and it just being extremely flirty and everything and then that night at her house (where all 4 of us were sleeping) she like comes over and starts like cuddling with me and everything, so needless to say i'm confused. On the ride back to college today my friend is kinda pissed that she ditched him but she starts asking me if i have any other feelings for her because it seems like we were flirting last night, this morning, right before i left. Now we are trying to figure out what each of us is feel cause it confusing and complicated.

So i know its long, but I need some help here guys, I'm confused as hell. To wrap it up. I've been dating Girl 1 for about 2 months now, Girl 2 is my best friend at college and is very flirty and open to me, and Girl 3 has been my best friend for 3 years now and last night started acting like we weren't just friends and that she might be attracted to me and have real feels for me. I need to know how this looks from an outside perspective...HELP!!

VoteLynnSwan · 05-01-2010, 09:25 PM

god that was horrible to read...

Just pursue the girl you're most interested in. Sucks to be you... 3 girls who want you...

Ness · 05-01-2010, 09:44 PM

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Originally Posted by rockio42

Alright guys, I usually don't ask much of everyone here but I'm in one hell of a ******* problem...

Alright so me and this girl told each other we liked each other (it was in early March) and have basically been dating since then but I have yet to real label it as "boyfriend and girlfriend". So that's cool and everything cause its the first dam time I've gotten out of my own way to actually not screw it up with a girl.

But now some problems have started coming up. So one of my best friends at college now (I'm a freshman and I met her in late September and I met the girl I'm currently dating maybe a month afterwards and they both live on the same floor) was dating this guy who was a total dick to her and all that but she kept going back to him and all that stuff but naturally I started to like this girl and think she was pretty, funny, all this ****. She continued to be flirty but I never put the moves on because she had a boyfriend. (usually i get screwed over by the friend zone but somehow I have managed to be the good guy while maintaining an air of not just being the "brother" or just best friend figure)

So flash forward to Spring Break and this other girl (girl im dating is now Girl 1 and the other one who had the boyfriend is now Girl 2) has this huge break-up with her boyfriend and she ends it. Now Girl 1 is off on a trip and is going to miss the first week back from break. So now i'm like best friend with Girl 2 and we start hanging out a lot again with Girl 1 away on an extended vacation and Girl 2 starts getting really really flirty and hand-sy and all that, and remember she is good friend with Girl 1, and we go to a party and she is very on me when we are dancing and just all around me and everything like that but I don't make-out with her or anything like that.

So Girl 1 gets back and everything is fine, Girl 2 starts to lay-off a little more but is still very flirty and gives off this air that she likes me. So everything is going great with Girl 1, I invite her to my fraternity's formal and she says yes and all that. It ends up she has to go to a concert for a class that night that is at 7 pm and the bus for our formal leaves at 5 pm, so we can't go. so now Girl 3 enters the scene. I have been friends with Girl 3 for like 5-6 years but the past 3 years or so we have been best friends and would hang out at least every weekend. So Girl 3 breaks up with her boyfriend and starts coming to my school to hang out with me one weekend. Girl 3 meets one of my best guy friends at school friend and they hit it off.

A couple weeks later (this timeline is kinda screwed up now but) Girl 3 invites my friend to her senior prom and then her friend from school invites me to be her date considering we all know each other and it'll be fun. I can actually go to the prom because Girl 1 can't go to formal, so I say yes and it seems like its going to be a good time.

So last night was the prom and **** got ******* complicated. Me and Girl 3 have always just been friends and everything but at her prom she starts kinda ditching my friend to dance with me and it just being extremely flirty and everything and then that night at her house (where all 4 of us were sleeping) she like comes over and starts like cuddling with me and everything, so needless to say i'm confused. On the ride back to college today my friend is kinda pissed that she ditched him but she starts asking me if i have any other feelings for her because it seems like we were flirting last night, this morning, right before i left. Now we are trying to figure out what each of us is feel cause it confusing and complicated.

So i know its long, but I need some help here guys, I'm confused as hell. To wrap it up. I've been dating Girl 1 for about 2 months now, Girl 2 is my best friend at college and is very flirty and open to me, and Girl 3 has been my best friend for 3 years now and last night started acting like we weren't just friends and that she might be attracted to me and have real feels for me. I need to know how this looks from an outside perspective...HELP!!

I don't see why this is so complicated. You should just maintain the relationship with the first girl you've been dating all along, if you really like her. If you don't like her, then you shouldn't be dating her in the first place. I don't see why you didn't make it clear to those other female friends of yours that you're pretty much off limits. The girl you've been dating would probably be pretty pissed to find out some of the stuff you've told us all here.

BigDawg819 · 05-01-2010, 10:03 PM

Basically stop being a tool and thinking you're some kind of ladies man and be a decent boyfriend. If not this will all blow up in your face and you will deserve it.

rockio42 · 05-01-2010, 10:08 PM

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Originally Posted by BigDawg819

Basically stop being a tool and thinking you're some kind of ladies man and be a decent boyfriend. If not this will all blow up in your face and you will deserve it.

I'm not trying to be a tool though, I'm just confused as to what I really want cause its confusing me now that a girl who has been my best friend is now starting to like me but I also care for a like this girl I have been dating for a month or two now...

rockio42 · 05-01-2010, 10:10 PM

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I don't see why this is so complicated. You should just maintain the relationship with the first girl you've been dating all along, if you really like her. If you don't like her, then you shouldn't be dating her in the first place. I don't see why you didn't make it clear to those other female friends of yours that you're pretty much off limits. The girl you've been dating would probably be pretty pissed to find out some of the stuff you've told us all here.

Yah, that's basically how I've been looking at it this entire time. I figure I made a choice a few months ago and I do really like this girl, its just sometimes this kinda stuff weighs at you in your head and helps to kinda write out like this and vent a little and its just been confusing and such, like I said i'm not trying to be a douschbag or anything like that