Relationship Advice Thread - Page 202

Shahin · 07-16-2010, 07:37 PM

After looking at this last page, here's my insight.

To the guy who's pondering the threesome. Do the threesome, drop ur ex and go out with the long distance girl. Easy call there.

To 7-11. Damn that ***** was crazy.

To buckeye. You should go for that girls friend, definitely looking better.

PACKmanN · 07-17-2010, 12:32 AM

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Originally Posted by BuckeyeDan17

Alright,

Bare in mind I'm not claiming I ****** this girl. She's just asked about me a few times, said I was hot, and the birthday thing, no big deal, but don't tell me it at least wouldn't make you curious about what you can make of it.

girl's face on the left looks like that guy on youtube with some growth problem and childish voice and he trys to rap

KobeBryant833 · 07-17-2010, 03:58 AM

This girl likes me but she doesn't wanna be serious since we both leave for sports in two weeks. She doesnt wanna keep hooking up cause she doesnt want it to lead to anything more? WHat should i do cause shes obviously attractive. What you think?

BigJohn98 · 07-19-2010, 07:43 AM

Ok so I told you guys about that girl I started to talk to. Well here's my situation now.

We've been talking for over two months. Hanging out once almost every week.

I really like this girl, but here's where it gets weird. She keeps telling me every time we have a "big talk" that she doesn't know what I've want. I've told her I really like her. I told her how I felt through a text message. Granted it was a through a text, I still told her.

Now, my mentality is, if you tell someone you really like how you feel about them, you want to date them and have them as your gf. She obviously doesn't see it that way because we had another "talk" last night and she still thinks I don't know what I want, so I told her AGAIN. I said I really like you and I'd like to have you as my GF, but it doesn't look like that's going to happen now.

Then I ask her what she wants, since she's never made it clear, and she responds "what does it matter"? Then she finally told me and she said "I want to feel wanted. I don't want to feel like I'm being pushed away. I want to be my full self and not feel like I'm overwhelming you. I don't want to wait until 9 p.m to be able to talk to a guy that is supposedly interested in me."

Then she goes on to say how she doesn't feel that I am a touchy-feely person. That I can't show affection.

I really like this girl, but I am f***ing tired of being questioned as to what I want. I've made it clear. I'm now starting to think it's not worth it.

Brent · 07-19-2010, 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by BigJohn98

I really like this girl, but I am f***ing tired of being questioned as to what I want. I've made it clear. I'm now starting to think it's not worth it.

Stop wasting you ******* time on her. It's clear that she doesn't want to date you but enjoys having you hang around. Stop wasting your time and move on.

djp · 07-20-2010, 02:21 AM

Just got this text:

"Ok, so I'm an honest person, and no matter what your answer, we're cool, but obviously I have a crush on you, so you have to fill me in on if I should continue to or not!"

Sent back: "I think you're an awesome person and I like hanging out with you, but I don't know if there's anything more than that right now. I don't want to lead you on, I'm sorry"

Yay or nay? Too cold? She's a great chick, but I'm just not feeling it. I feel bad. Better now than later, I suppose.

Also, her friends are friends with my friends, so I'll be seeing her again no matter what. Any tips to make it less awkward next time? Like I said, I'd love to just be friends with her, but ****, this kinda ruins it now

vikes_28 · 07-20-2010, 02:38 AM

Just play it like it never happened. Treat her the same way you always have. But don't lead her on. Don't be unsure of yourself ("but i don't know if there's anything more than that right now"), say that you know that there is nothing else. Be assertive.

Paranoidmoonduck · 07-20-2010, 03:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Brent

Stop wasting you ******* time on her. It's clear that she doesn't want to date you but enjoys having you hang around. Stop wasting your time and move on.

That's not what it sounds like to me at all. If a girl is just stringing you along for kicks, I doubt she'd say any of those things. She just sounds like she might be needy and wants BigJohn to conform to her idea of what a boyfriend would be. He can either do it and enjoy the fun of trying to keeping a perhaps overly-sensitive girl happy or he can look elsewhere.

ATLDirtyBirds · 07-20-2010, 07:23 AM

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Originally Posted by djp

Just got this text:

"Ok, so I'm an honest person, and no matter what your answer, we're cool, but obviously I have a crush on you, so you have to fill me in on if I should continue to or not!"

Sent back: "I think you're an awesome person and I like hanging out with you, but I don't know if there's anything more than that right now. I don't want to lead you on, I'm sorry"

Yay or nay? Too cold? She's a great chick, but I'm just not feeling it. I feel bad. Better now than later, I suppose.

Also, her friends are friends with my friends, so I'll be seeing her again no matter what. Any tips to make it less awkward next time? Like I said, I'd love to just be friends with her, but ****, this kinda ruins it now

That's not too cold at all. I've said a lot worse in situations like that. And I'd just do your best to keep acting completely normal. She probably won't be bringing it back up so you'd be best to just act completely normal to make her feel comfortable.

BigJohn98 · 07-20-2010, 07:38 AM

Here's part of the text last night I had with her:

Me: Maybe we should just be friends then...
Her: I thought that's what we've always been
Me: We have. But clearly we arent on the same page so we just stick to the friends level
Her: Yea whatever

So all day yesterday I kept thinking about our talk the night before, and I was 80-20 leaning towards just saying forget it. Now I'm done. I clearly don't offer what she's looking for, and it's not worth it. I'll just stick to slamming poon for now.

Ravens1991 · 07-20-2010, 03:38 PM

yeah I think it is best to just to cut ties with her.

Brent · 07-20-2010, 03:48 PM

I stand by my earlier comment.

MetSox17 · 07-20-2010, 03:56 PM

tell her "tits or gtfo"

Ravens1991 · 07-20-2010, 03:57 PM

Alright guys, a while back I was telling you about this girl who said I had nice eyes and I wanted to approach her but I was scared of getting attached because I saw on her facebook profile that she was transfering. Well I added her one day on facebook and today I just started to her it was just small talk like whats your major all that crap. Well it turns out last minute that she isnt transfering. Now it brings me up to my next couple of questions.

Has anyone ever 1st talked to a girl on facebook then went onto have a relationship with her, whether it be a **** buddy or gf? Usually I wouldnt approach a girl like that but I just chatted her one day becasue I was bored and I figured I will never see her again who gives a hoot.

Also do you think me adding her and then talking to her w/ a bunch of small talk on there put me on a 1 way path to the friend zone?

I never been in a situation like this, what do you all think about this.

yourfavestoner · 07-20-2010, 04:04 PM

Wait, you added her on FB and started talking to her despite never speaking in person?

Forget friend zone, you're headed towards creeper zone.

MetSox17 · 07-20-2010, 04:05 PM

Can not compute. Not enough information.

This all depends on what kinda girl she is. If she's a fb *****, then there's a very good chance you can bang her by approaching her first through fb. Like i said, too much depends on what kinda girl she is to really see where you stand. Run with it though. Like you said, what's the worst that can happen? If you want something serious with her, then only use fb to either get her number, or to ask her out somewhere or something. Don't let it become the only form of communication.

Ravens1991 · 07-20-2010, 04:10 PM

yeah YFS I figured I will never see her again and I was bored. If I knew she was coming back I wouldnt have done that. But I think I wont talk to her on FB and then approach her regularly when the semester starts.

OSUGiants17 · 07-20-2010, 04:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Ravens1991

Alright guys, a while back I was telling you about this girl who said I had nice eyes and I wanted to approach her but I was scared of getting attached because I saw on her facebook profile that she was transfering. Well I added her one day on facebook and today I just started to her it was just small talk like whats your major all that crap. Well it turns out last minute that she isnt transfering. Now it brings me up to my next couple of questions.

Has anyone ever 1st talked to a girl on facebook then went onto have a relationship with her, whether it be a **** buddy or gf? Usually I wouldnt approach a girl like that but I just chatted her one day becasue I was bored and I figured I will never see her again who gives a hoot.

Also do you think me adding her and then talking to her w/ a bunch of small talk on there put me on a 1 way path to the friend zone?

I never been in a situation like this, what do you all think about this.

Starting a relationship on fb is terrible idea, like YFS said, creeper soon here you come

Ravens1991 · 07-20-2010, 04:27 PM

yeah it looks like it will become a big mess. I wont talk to her again on there, I just chatted her randomly because I thought she was transfering I figured I wont see her again in my life. This looks like a big fail.

OSUGiants17 · 07-20-2010, 04:29 PM

^It makes sense, this is almost straight out of a movie. Girl is leaving so you let out all your feeling then she isnt leaving and either loves you or thinks of you as a mega-creep. Good thing you never said you had feelings for here before she said she isn't transfering

Ravens1991 · 07-20-2010, 04:35 PM

yeah if I knew she wasnt transfering i wouldnt have talked 2 her on FB. But I never told her I had feelings for her it was just small talk and stuff like that. I was just bored as hell and my friend told me it was a good idea. I figured y not I am never gonna see her again who gives a **** what happens. If I see her next semseter I will just approach her like I would a normal girl.