Relationship Advice Thread - Page 229

CJSchneider · 10-10-2010, 08:37 PM

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Originally Posted by nepg

So the other day I was taking my final...got to the hard stuff where I really had to concentrate and who does the proctor sit at the computer right in front of me? My ******* ex-fiancee. WTF? Seriously? Distracting, awkward, and uncomfortable to say the least.

That's just messed up.

bsaza2358 · 10-12-2010, 09:53 AM

My gf and I are moving in together within the next 3-4 months. She wants to move into the city and I'd rather stay in the near-in burbs. It is looking like I'm going to lose that battle for now, but I'll just save my political capital and fight a battle that actually matters...

kalbears13 · 10-13-2010, 02:01 AM

How long do you have to be in the friend zone before you automatically become a double citizen?

Brent · 10-13-2010, 05:39 AM

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Originally Posted by kalbears13

How long do you have to be in the friend zone before you automatically become a double citizen?

think of it more as an abyss, once you fall in, it is a place with no definitive bottom.

kalbears13 · 10-13-2010, 09:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Brent

think of it more as an abyss, once you fall in, it is a place with no definitive bottom.

That's much better for my ego. Thank you, Brent.

Ravens1991 · 10-13-2010, 09:43 AM

There is a certain point where she may think you are ***. So be careful about that.

bsaza2358 · 10-13-2010, 10:53 AM

Once you are in the friend zone, it is almost impossible to get out. Easiest way to do that is to not go there in the first place. Be direct and such up front about your intentions. If it doesn't work out and she wants to be friends, it's okay to say no. There's nothing wrong with female friends, but don't trick yourself into thinking that you can win her over by being her friend. Super rare occurrence.

yourfavestoner · 10-13-2010, 11:24 AM

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Originally Posted by bsaza2358

Once you are in the friend zone, it is almost impossible to get out. Easiest way to do that is to not go there in the first place. Be direct and such up front about your intentions. If it doesn't work out and she wants to be friends, it's okay to say no. There's nothing wrong with female friends, but don't trick yourself into thinking that you can win her over by being her friend. Super rare occurrence.

Exactly. If you're upfront about things, and she's not down at that particular moment but is willing to entertain the idea, you'll go into a pseudo-friendzone limbo. You're pretending to be friends as an excuse to hang out and explore the each others interest. Limbo is not a bad thing, as long as you keep your intentions clear. If there's mutual attraction, you'll climb out of it in less than two weeks.

MetSox17 · 10-13-2010, 11:53 AM

I'm in a hot streak right now. It's all kinds of win.

bsaza2358 · 10-18-2010, 08:20 AM

Love that Metsox's hot streak managed to kill this thread... lol

MetSox17 · 10-18-2010, 11:41 AM

Haha, hey, i just thought i'd share since all we ever get here is depressing ****.

bsaza2358 · 10-18-2010, 12:53 PM

Several of us are in good situations now. However, that means we aren't in need of advice. Just thought it was funny that you "killed" the thread...

MetSox17 · 10-18-2010, 01:13 PM

Meh. It wouldn't be the first time that i killed a relationship advice thread, lol.

CJSchneider · 10-18-2010, 01:17 PM

"Killed" as in the comedic sense, as in "got plenty of laughs"?

bsaza2358 · 10-18-2010, 01:36 PM

No, killed as in he posted about a hot streak, and no one commented in the thread for a week...

MetSox17 · 10-18-2010, 01:53 PM

Maybe everyone else is out getting laid as well, who knows? The less crying the better.

bsaza2358 · 10-18-2010, 01:54 PM

I would love for that to be the case, but I'm rather confident that it is not. More likely scenario is that the college kids are in midterms right now and don't have time to worry about their sex drives so much...

MetSox17 · 10-18-2010, 01:56 PM

No faith in our fellow board members, bsaza? Tsk tsk.

bsaza2358 · 10-18-2010, 02:57 PM

I don't know them, but given what I've read over the years, there is no reason for me to assume that all of the problems are solved.

Brent · 10-18-2010, 05:02 PM

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Originally Posted by MetSox17

Maybe everyone else is out getting laid as well, who knows? The less crying the better.

I got set up on a date through a mutual friend.

I have no idea how this will play out.

Tips on situations like this?

EDIT: I know what she looks like (pretty cute) and I guess I am of acceptable appearance for her taste.

VoteLynnSwan · 10-18-2010, 05:07 PM

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CJSchneider · 10-18-2010, 05:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Brent

I got set up on a date through a mutual friend.

I have no idea how this will play out.

Tips on situations like this?

EDIT: I know what she looks like (pretty cute) and I guess I am of acceptable appearance for her taste.

Ask from her nothing.
Take from her everything.

Brent · 10-18-2010, 05:15 PM

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Originally Posted by CJSchneider

Ask from her nothing.
Take from her everything.

when did I become King Leonidas?

sweetness34 · 10-18-2010, 05:22 PM

So, I have a long history with this girl. Long story short, she lead me on for a while and I was to naive not to see it.

We moved on and went to the "friend" stage after she apologized. A couple months after that she decided to break off the friendship/talking because she felt that I could never get over her. I wasn't too broken up about it and moved on without a problem, but a few months after that she asked me how I was doing (I thought we weren't talking?).

I feel I'm like her crack. She needs to talk to me/have me in her life. She needs my attention. Every time she says that we can't talk anymore or that we aren't friends, she comes back months later and wants to know how things are going. I'm perfectly fine without her in my life, but it's obvious she doesn't feel the same way (or why would she be so persistent in talking to me?).

I've asked her to hang out and she gives the predictable "sure" answer, but when it's actually time to make a commitment there's always something going on. She claims she's too busy...I claim that if you're interested in something/someone you always find time or at least try to.

I know what the simple answer is and it's to cut the ties completely. But there is something about the situation that keeps me interested...keeps me trying to spark up something. I've had no problems in the past distancing myself from girls, but this one is different or at least it feels different.

Idk, I'm probably trying to make something out of nothing. I'm probably overanalyzing the situation.

I've said time and time again that there are plenty of fish in the sea, so this is why this situation is really racking my brain as to why it's not as simple as it should be.

So I enlist your services. What I should do?

ATLDirtyBirds · 10-18-2010, 05:48 PM

I'd probably ask her if she wants to hook up. If she says yes, you win. If she isn't down, tell her to launch herself off the nearest cliff. Delete her number, and next time she texts you, text back, "Who is this?"