Relationship Advice Thread - Page 283

Brent · 10-18-2011, 05:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Caddy

Fat girls need love too

...but they gotta pay.

georgiafan · 10-18-2011, 08:46 AM

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Originally Posted by SRK85

Well I finally sucked it up and joined some dating sites. Hopefully I will be getting some girls soon.

I did the same thing this week to

someone447 · 10-19-2011, 08:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Ravens1991

I need to find a girl too, I am fairly religious but go to a non christian school so its tough to find a girl for me.

You live in the US, correct? One of the most overtly religious countries in the world? Over half the people(women included) you meet will be religious. Another 30% will believe in god but not be religious. You're fine.

SRK85 · 10-19-2011, 10:12 PM

Go to chapel or the nearest church if one is looking for religious girls. Or join the bible study group. Its not that hard. But I never recommend chasing religious girls they are a pain the ass.

Malaka · 10-23-2011, 11:05 AM

Ah, guys, I messed up last night. :(

There's this girl that I met recently, and we have been pretty into each other. But, her friend is borderline obsessed with me and I went out with one of her friends two years ago.

This didn't really stunt me or anything, but last night I had a party at my house and I picked her up to come. We were drinking having a good time, I got her alone teaching her how to play piano, and then she went into my room with me alone.

From there it seems fuzzy to me, but I do remember us going in for the kiss and eventually getting there, only to have her almost instantaneously say I can't I just met you. She tried to leave but I got her to stay and try to talk, she just kept repeating she doesn't know, and that she wants to but she just can't. Then after questioning her and slowly but surely giving up on the situation she stated "You're not used to getting rejected are you?" I was perplexed by this question, and automatically denied it. I told her I have been rejected before, I did not want to give her that confidence that she was able to do something other women have not.

She eventually escaped me and left the room, but the rest of that night for me was awful. This was visible in my demeanor and was probably been my greatest error of the night. Honestly, if it was possible I would have told everyone to get the **** out so I can sleep. She of course noticed this, and started joking to me about hurting my pride; I just half-heartedly countered that her ears were big, only teasing and with no biting undertone . She then continued to try to pry out of me an admission that I am not used to being rejected. For what? I don't know. I simply looked broken down though, and I think that will be my fatal flaw in the end. At the end of the night she asked if everything will be back to normal I just laughed and said "nothing happened" and smiled.

It doesn't help my situation at all that the least tactful of all my friends tried to talk her into being with me, and brought up sex. I definitely was planning on doing that with her the first time we ever hang out, but now she probably thinks I was like a perv. I hate when friends try to help with girls. They only makes it worse.

By coming into my room, getting that close with me... maybe she does have an interest in me, but then again... maybe she was just drunk and I, just stupid.

With all that in mind, do I dust off my shoulders and try again? Or let this bird fly? I guess I care so much because this is the first genuine interest I have had in a girl since I broke up with my ex several months ago. Eh, and I screwed the pooch on this one.

Whoever had time to read all this I salute you, your a real bro lol. I just need advice because I haven't been too lucky with the ladies since my break-up.

MetSox17 · 10-23-2011, 11:10 AM

So, where exactly was your big screw up? Aside from going in for the kill and getting rejected, there wasn't really anything too out there. If she was willing to go up to your room with you, then she probably at the very least has a small amount of interest so you should give it another shot, preferably when you're sober. If she means enough to you that she basically ruined your night by shutting you down, then you should at least try a few more times to make sure you aren't leaving any stones un-turned.

bearsfan_51 · 10-23-2011, 11:14 AM

This ***** is crazy. Never talk to her again. Seriously.

Caddy · 10-23-2011, 11:18 AM

Just kill her.

Malaka · 10-23-2011, 11:22 AM

Lol okay so I am being dramatic. But I still feel stupid as **** lmao.

The **** up was letting it get to me. I let her take control, and she has the upper-hand because I was obviously deterred by the rejection, and instead enjoying the night regardless I could not care less about the people there.

How should I go about trying again? I would prefer it to be sober, I am getting sick of drinking, so I 100% agree with you there. I feel like after this night were going to be awkward around each other unfortunately, though I will do my best. I have no idea what to say to her though to not bring up last night, but continue to flirt and strive towards something.

Brent · 10-23-2011, 11:24 AM

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Originally Posted by bearsfan_51

This ***** is crazy. Never talk to her again. Seriously.

This. I wouldn't even acknowledge that slunt again.

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Just kill her.

There is a reason why I like you.

Caddy · 10-23-2011, 11:24 AM

Throw a bottle of fake-tan at her. Guidettes love that.

Malaka · 10-23-2011, 11:27 AM

God damn it, Guidos have feelings too! I just needed advice -__-

draftguru151 · 10-23-2011, 11:48 AM

Whip it out Malaka.

kalbears13 · 10-23-2011, 12:14 PM

Naked Man! Naked Man! Naked Man!

marshallb · 10-23-2011, 01:02 PM

Malaka, my advice to you would be to take her out on a date. It would show that your pride wasn't hurt by being rejected, and also that it wasn't just about sex, even if it was. On top of that, it would be sober which you said you would like. I would suggest something simple like take her out for dinner and then go back to your place for a movie if you're feeling it, which could allow you try for something further again, if you're not feeling it then just send her on her way and move on.

Malaka · 10-23-2011, 01:26 PM

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Originally Posted by marshallb

Malaka, my advice to you would be to take her out on a date. It would show that your pride wasn't hurt by being rejected, and also that it wasn't just about sex, even if it was. On top of that, it would be sober which you said you would like. I would suggest something simple like take her out for dinner and then go back to your place for a movie if you're feeling it, which could allow you try for something further again, if you're not feeling it then just send her on her way and move on.

Thanks man hopefully she doesn't feel uncomfortable around me.

I just feel like I showed my hand too early, and I think she thinks she has me wrapped around her finger so she might not have interest if shes one of those.

marshallb · 10-23-2011, 01:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Malaka

Thanks man hopefully she doesn't feel uncomfortable around me.

I just feel like I showed my hand too early, and I think she thinks she has me wrapped around her finger so she might not have interest if shes one of those.

True, which may make it wise to wait a few days before going anywhere with it.

bearsfan_51 · 10-23-2011, 01:34 PM

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Lol okay so I am being dramatic. But I still feel stupid as **** lmao.

The **** up was letting it get to me. I let her take control, and she has the upper-hand because I was obviously deterred by the rejection, and instead enjoying the night regardless I could not care less about the people there.

How should I go about trying again? I would prefer it to be sober, I am getting sick of drinking, so I 100% agree with you there. I feel like after this night were going to be awkward around each other unfortunately, though I will do my best. I have no idea what to say to her though to not bring up last night, but continue to flirt and strive towards something.

No, I'm being totally serious. **** her. Never talk to her again. Any women that will act like that is going to play games with you for the rest of your life.

Use your brain, not your *****. Move on.

djp · 10-23-2011, 01:37 PM

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No, I'm being totally serious. **** her. Never talk to her again. Any women that will act like that is going to play games with you for the rest of your life.

Use your brain, not your *****. Move on.

Agreed....

Malaka · 10-23-2011, 02:13 PM

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Originally Posted by bearsfan_51

No, I'm being totally serious. **** her. Never talk to her again. Any women that will act like that is going to play games with you for the rest of your life.

Use your brain, not your *****. Move on.

Lol I like this. Trust me my stupor is fading. This morning I awoke in a depressed state, but as I regain my senses throughout the day I am caring less and less. Though I will try again, because I have nothing to lose.

MetSox17 · 10-23-2011, 02:58 PM

Yeah, can't say i disagree much with what bf51 said. Make some last ditch efforts to get in her pants, but don't try too hard either.

fischbowl · 10-23-2011, 06:51 PM

She hates me because I'm a drunk

bearsfan_51 · 10-23-2011, 07:51 PM

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Lol I like this. Trust me my stupor is fading. This morning I awoke in a depressed state, but as I regain my senses throughout the day I am caring less and less. Though I will try again, because I have nothing to lose.

You'll waste a week of your life when you could otherwise be trying to **** a girl that isn't crazy.

Brent · 10-23-2011, 08:10 PM

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You'll waste a week of your life when you could otherwise be trying to **** a girl that isn't crazy.

seriously, malaka, what about two people telling you to never speak to her again do you not understand?

ATLDirtyBirds · 10-23-2011, 08:41 PM

I would make a last ditch effort the next time you're both trashed at a party, but that's about it.