Relationship Advice Thread

[draftguru151]

Originally Posted by fischbowl

Romantically, I never thought the feelings were mutual. If they were, with how long I've known her, we'd be dating already. However, she does care for me more than anyone I know.

I can't go out there, somehow I feel like that would be a terrible mistake. Stay the course, as it is maybe and see what its like with us separated, but it won't be the same. I'm going to miss her dearly. We have one big night together left on Friday. I bought a little gift and we're going out to eat. I'm going to take her to my favourite view of the city and show her what she'll be missing.

About time!

[kalbears13]

Originally Posted by fischbowl

Romantically, I never thought the feelings were mutual. If they were, with how long I've known her, we'd be dating already. However, she does care for me more than anyone I know.

I can't go out there, somehow I feel like that would be a terrible mistake. Stay the course, as it is maybe and see what its like with us separated, but it won't be the same. I'm going to miss her dearly. We have one big night together left on Friday. I bought a little gift and we're going out to eat. I'm going to take her to my favourite view of the city and show her what she'll be missing.

Showing her your wiener?! NICE!

[fischbowl]

Originally Posted by kalbears13

Showing her your wiener?! NICE!

Why is it so long....and black? My god.....

[Brent]

Originally Posted by fischbowl

Why is it so long....and black? My god.....

"the dick transplant was successful, mr. fisch!"

[M.O.T.H.]

Been a while since I could contribute in here. lol. But yeah, I'm totally crushing on some girl at work. Lots of chemistry there. I know she likes me too, it's pretty obvious. We touch, hold hands, hug at damn near every passing. haha. I feel like I'm in middle school. Not only that, I'm the type of dude that gets love sick, like a teenage boy, as unmanly that is too admit. Sweet puppy love. HA.

There is one major problem, however...she's currently in this completely physical relationship, with one of my co-workers (different shift) and he's like 20 years older than her and I. But also a good friend of mine. She always says he's not her boyfriend. :/ It's a **** situatuon...I've been flirting with her like crazy, and vice versa, but at the same time...I'm being standoff-ish. She's not making any secret of things, however. She purposely tries to make me jealous all the time, by bringing him up. She def. likes to play games, but she really is a sweet girl.

It's just a really weird situation. On top of that, she's not the type of girl I usually go for at all. She's this super cute Asian girl, who smokes. haha. The smoking is a turn off, always has been...but there's something about her. I dont know what it is.

Not looking for advice, I have it under control. lol. Just sharing.

[MetSox17]

So she's banging a middle-aged co-worker of yours? wtf?

[Raiderz4Life]

Originally Posted by MetSox17

So she's banging a middle-aged co-worker of yours? wtf?

I second this

[M.O.T.H.]

Originally Posted by MetSox17

So she's banging a middle-aged co-worker of yours? wtf?

Yeah....that's why it's kind of a **** situation. lol. Freaks me out a little. They started this thing about a month ago.

Also, she happens to live with a former boyfriend, who tells everyone that she is his girlfriend still. HA. It's a completely ****** deal.

So many bad warning signs and red flags on this one, but for whatever reason I'm still into her. We'll see what happens...I've def. been real hesitant on this one. This whole thing with the 40+ year old dude, is just a little much.

We'll see what happens...I'm just riding this out for now.

[MetSox17]

Geez, MOTH, i hope you know what you're doing, cause it ain't gonna end well. Especially not if you're catching the feelings part of her. One dude gets to rail her, another dude actually lives with her (and wouldn't be surprised if he occasionally gets it too) and you're the one that gets the feelings yet none of the other perks? Not a good idea.

[M.O.T.H.]

Originally Posted by MetSox17

Geez, MOTH, i hope you know what you're doing, cause it ain't gonna end well. Especially not if you're catching the feelings part of her. One dude gets to rail her, another dude actually lives with her (and wouldn't be surprised if he occasionally gets it too) and you're the one that gets the feelings yet none of the other perks? Not a good idea.

Oh I know...normally I'm the one giving advice. This is def. the most complicated thing I've come across relationship wise. I'm sure I'll get frustrated before long and just ask straight out, what the whole situation is.

My blind pup love, could be blinding me from a lot of things right now. It happens. I think it's hilarious and sad at the same time. I'm normally very level headed about these things, but sometimes something just gets you. ******* A.

[MetSox17]

Alls i know is, if she was really interested in you, she'd be banging you and not your 40some year old co-worker and her ex-boyfriend whom she still lives with. Don't let her use you as emotional entertainment, since that's obviously lacking from the other two guys she's involved with.

[M.O.T.H.]

These things run through my mind all the time...I'll figure it out, dont worry. Dont even know if I could trust her, if I ever did start dating her, either. Again...soooooooo many red flags here. Maybe it will pass. haha. Doubtful, but maybe.

[A Perfect Score]

Originally Posted by MetSox17

Alls i know is, if she was really interested in you, she'd be banging you and not your 40some year old co-worker and her ex-boyfriend whom she still lives with. Don't let her use you as emotional entertainment, since that's obviously lacking from the other two guys she's involved with.

This, this and more this. Trust me, I've been there as well. I'd be willing to bet alot of people have. I understand that sometimes a connection is hard to deny, but Metsox speaks the truth. When it's all boiled down, if she wanted to be with you, she would be. Don't let yourself get strung along while she keeps you on the backburner in case she can't turn things around with this other guy.

Of course, I'm embittered. So maybe don't listen to me.

[M.O.T.H.]

I honestly do believe she would break it off with the 40 year old, if I asked her out. I just have no idea what is going on there, with the living with the ex-boyfriend. lol. End one problem, another one persists.

I'll keep you guys posted. haha. Like I said, I'm normally very level headed, this is a bit of a cluster ****, with minimal percentage of actual success. While I do like the girl, I'm not oblivious to all the other ****. I dont honestly think it will end well, either....but I really do feel a real connection. And I'm not normally wrong in these situations.

Just one of those things...tons of girls out there, but all my focus is on one at the moment.

[CJSchneider]

Originally Posted by MetSox17

So she's banging a middle-aged co-worker of yours? wtf?

Originally Posted by raiderz4life

I second this

As if you can no longer "lay pipe" once you get middle aged.

[Ness]

Super cute Asian girl? Domestically raised? Or international?

In any case, I agree with what a couple of the other posters have just stated. Perhaps you should start looking elsewhere. Or rather, at least file her away, and if something comes up later you can bounce back and see what's going on. But she's potentially screwing two other guys every other day from what I've read. Just seems like too big of a mess to get involved.

[georgiafan]

As a single guy i think this sums up where I'm at now and pretty much every single guy for that matter.

[killxswitch]

What a terrible idea MOTH.

[Brent]

it's a trap, MOTH!

[Nalej]

Worst. Idea. Ever.
Bone her if you'd like... but nothing more.

[BamaFalcon59]

Runnnnnnnnnnnnn

fwiw i had a thing with a slutty asian. one of the hottest girls i know, maybe the. mistake came with the emotional part... no matter if you click, having feelings for a slutty girl is no bueno. and you're not even hitting it.

[YAYareaRB]

lay the pipe and gtfo

[M.O.T.H.]

Originally Posted by Ness

Super cute Asian girl? Domestically raised? Or international?

In any case, I agree with what a couple of the other posters have just stated. Perhaps you should start looking elsewhere. Or rather, at least file her away, and if something comes up later you can bounce back and see what's going on. But she's potentially screwing two other guys every other day from what I've read. Just seems like too big of a mess to get involved.

She was adopted and raised here.

As for an update...it's progressing, actually. There are still red flags out the ass, though. hahaha. I'm setting myself for failure here. We talked for a few hours yesterday, she knows for sure that I like her now.

I think I'm too deep into this potential trap. lol. I think this whole thing is hilarious, though. I have a pretty boring life...so I'll welcome this very weird situation.

[G-Mac]

She sounds attention-craving. Somebody who adapts to the environment that she's in. She probably says all the right things to all three of you. She probably tells the guy she lives with that they are together, yet tells every other guy that crushes on her that they're not and he's just a friend. She probably makes the mid-aged dude she's banging feel like he's the medallion of her life and says everything he wants to hear, but tells everybody else it's just a rare hookup.

Sounds like you're developing some feelings for her, but it only gets worse from here. i wouldn't even bang her because the feelings will come harder and when you find out the inevitable (you're just "another guy") it's going to crush you.

Just my two pennies.

[killxswitch]

You're not really asking for advice so I guess you aren't planning to listen to all the people telling you this is a terrible idea.