Relationship Advice Thread

[dabears10]

Originally Posted by awfullyquiet

People on this board, not yet aged 18 years. Take heed.

Whatever, everyones an idiot. There is a certain level of sexual maturation you will not achieve until they become active. Education is what is needed for these kids. People are going to get hurt and this is how they will learn the best. Study after study shows that people wish they had waited for their first time. This is more hindsight is 20/20 then actually benefiting from waiting because they are more sexually mature.

[DeepThreat]

I figured I could give a perspective of kids my age, as that seems to be the topic right now. Take note that I live out in the middle of nowhere, so I'm sure things are different in the city and such.

There are skanks and guys my age having eex, but there aren't a whole lot around here, and most are juniors or seniors in high school. And they get made fun of and are considered losers, not part of the "cool" crowd.

To an extent it's the same with drinking. Drinking is a lot more common around here and I don't know of any juniors or seniors at my school that don't drink. There are a few kids my age (going to be sophomore) that drink, but again, they get made fun of a fair amount, and are forced to hang out with older kids.

[CJSchneider]

Originally Posted by DeepThreat

I figured I could give a perspective of kids my age, as that seems to be the topic right now. Take note that I

Take note that you what?
Thank you for your stunning perspective.

[DeepThreat]

I accidentally hit submit. I edited it.

[tjsunstein]

Originally Posted by DeepThreat

I figured I could give a perspective of kids my age, as that seems to be the topic right now. Take note that I live out in the middle of nowhere, so I'm sure things are different in the city and such.

There are skanks and guys my age having eex, but there aren't a whole lot around here, and most are juniors or seniors in high school. And they get made fun of and are considered losers, not part of the "cool" crowd.

To an extent it's the same with drinking. Drinking is a lot more common around here and I don't know of any juniors or seniors at my school that don't drink. There are a few kids my age (going to be sophomore) that drink, but again, they get made fun of a fair amount, and are forced to hang out with older kids.

That's kind of different from my town. I graduated last year from high school and it was never like that. People never made fun of you if you didn't partake in certain activites, it was just personal preference. Of course, there were groups weeded out, no pun intended, for those things exactly but in the more popular groups there were a few who didn't drink / smoke / have sex and they weren't judged within the group.

[StackJaxx]

went to the club last night, im pretty sure i had sex with the revlon factory last night.

[someone447]

Originally Posted by CJSchneider

There are people who still do. Don't fool yourself in thinking that some things have changed that much. The difference is that the filters have deteriorated, but sex was being pushed back "in the day" as well. As is always the case, older groups see how blatant it is being pushed. I have a feeling those 14 year old girls were there when you were that age also, you just didn't see it.

There were definitely girls who were like that at 14 when I was 14. It's just that it wasn't happening to you so you didn't realize it was going on. I had a girl offer to give me head at this party in 8th grade, I turned it down. I'm still not sure if that was a good idea or not.

[TheBuffaloBills]

I just started work with a chick that is my age (17) and she is smoking hot. Let me say it again, freaking hot. Third time, really hot. I just want you to know, she's an 11. She is a crazy partier (Her parents have been out of town for the past month. All her friends know where the spare key is, so they're is a party 24/7 at her house, even when she's not there. College kids sleep over at her house and stuff). Her Mom doesn't even care when she smokes pot infront of her.

Now, me on the hand, I'm just an average joe. I'll have the occasional beer, but I'm no crazy partier. I don't do weed (Just a choice).

I really don't know how to handle the situation. She is not a bimbo; she's actually cool to talk to. However, every time I talk to her, I feel like a complete loser. I feel like I am the most uninterseting person on the planet when I talk to her. (Keep in mind, I work at a place that is extremely slow. There is nothing to do, but talk to the person you work with. There's only two people working per shift). I really want to know what to do fast, because I have only worked with her 2 times. I still have a chance to change my personality. (Don't say "Be yourself", because I'm truly not like my true, fun, self when I work with her). It's not that easy to be my true self when working with her. I'm not like this. Every time she asks me a question, my response is "Yeah, or Nah". I can't even elaborate, and I don't know why I can't when I talk to her. But it's tough to be myself because she is so freaking hot. I never thought I could be intimidated by someone's hottness. It's becoming pretty awkward. I just want to stop it before it get's any worse. Please I need some advice.

[Brent]

Originally Posted by TheBuffaloBills

Please I need some advice.

Keep the conversation about her! You're 17 so it isnt like you have a whole lot of real life experiences, and ****, so, you cant keep it all about that. Honestly, just keeping a conversation going is good enough for your age group.

[TheBuffaloBills]

Originally Posted by Brent

Keep the conversation about her! You're 17 so it isnt like you have a whole lot of real life experiences, and ****, so, you cant keep it all about that. Honestly, just keeping a conversation going is good enough for your age group.

I'll try my best, but I have 0 confidence. It's not like we're on a date or anything, but its sort of at that awkward part. Hopefully It'll get better.

[JF4]

Originally Posted by TheBuffaloBills

I just started work with a chick that is my age (17) and she is smoking hot. Let me say it again, freaking hot. Third time, really hot. I just want you to know, she's an 11. She is a crazy partier (Her parents have been out of town for the past month. All her friends know where the spare key is, so they're is a party 24/7 at her house, even when she's not there. College kids sleep over at her house and stuff). Her Mom doesn't even care when she smokes pot infront of her.

Now, me on the hand, I'm just an average joe. I'll have the occasional beer, but I'm no crazy partier. I don't do weed (Just a choice).

I really don't know how to handle the situation. She is not a bimbo; she's actually cool to talk to. However, every time I talk to her, I feel like a complete loser. I feel like I am the most uninterseting person on the planet when I talk to her. (Keep in mind, I work at a place that is extremely slow. There is nothing to do, but talk to the person you work with. There's only two people working per shift). I really want to know what to do fast, because I have only worked with her 2 times. I still have a chance to change my personality. (Don't say "Be yourself", because I'm truly not like my true, fun, self when I work with her). It's not that easy to be my true self when working with her. I'm not like this. Every time she asks me a question, my response is "Yeah, or Nah". I can't even elaborate, and I don't know why I can't when I talk to her. But it's tough to be myself because she is so freaking hot. I never thought I could be intimidated by someone's hottness. It's becoming pretty awkward. I just want to stop it before it get's any worse. Please I need some advice.

Man up and start cracking jokes..

But really, talk about every day stuff going on. Pop culture, school, how much you hate the job, normal **** like that. You don't have to be some hilarious/cool/amazing guy to get in with her. Just make conversation to pass the time. Most girls love to talk about themselves, just keep the questions coming and pop in every now and then with a witty line or too. Just get comfortable with her. And just because she's hot doesn't mean she's any different than you, she probably shares similar interests and laughs at stuff you laugh at.

Just keep it simple! She probably wants conversation just as bad as you!

[TheBuffaloBills]

Originally Posted by JF4

Man up and start cracking jokes..

But really, talk about every day stuff going on. Pop culture, school, how much you hate the job, normal **** like that. You don't have to be some hilarious/cool/amazing guy to get in with her. Just make conversation to pass the time. Most girls love to talk about themselves, just keep the questions coming and pop in every now and then with a witty line or too. Just get comfortable with her. And just because she's hot doesn't mean she's any different than you, she probably shares similar interests and laughs at stuff you laugh at.

Just keep it simple! She probably wants conversation just as bad as you!

Good, I'm going to take that and run with it.

[holt_bruce81]

So my female friend just broke up with her bf and now has asked me twice to hangout with her later on this week.

This could be a good week.

[7-11]

Originally Posted by TheBuffaloBills

I just started work with a chick that is my age (17) and she is smoking hot. Let me say it again, freaking hot. Third time, really hot. I just want you to know, she's an 11. She is a crazy partier (Her parents have been out of town for the past month. All her friends know where the spare key is, so they're is a party 24/7 at her house, even when she's not there. College kids sleep over at her house and stuff). Her Mom doesn't even care when she smokes pot infront of her.

Now, me on the hand, I'm just an average joe. I'll have the occasional beer, but I'm no crazy partier. I don't do weed (Just a choice).

I really don't know how to handle the situation. She is not a bimbo; she's actually cool to talk to. However, every time I talk to her, I feel like a complete loser. I feel like I am the most uninterseting person on the planet when I talk to her. (Keep in mind, I work at a place that is extremely slow. There is nothing to do, but talk to the person you work with. There's only two people working per shift). I really want to know what to do fast, because I have only worked with her 2 times. I still have a chance to change my personality. (Don't say "Be yourself", because I'm truly not like my true, fun, self when I work with her). It's not that easy to be my true self when working with her. I'm not like this. Every time she asks me a question, my response is "Yeah, or Nah". I can't even elaborate, and I don't know why I can't when I talk to her. But it's tough to be myself because she is so freaking hot. I never thought I could be intimidated by someone's hottness. It's becoming pretty awkward. I just want to stop it before it get's any worse. Please I need some advice.

Had that same situation when i was about 16. Probably the last time i enjoyed work. My only advice is don't over think it and just enjoy it, you get to hang out with a glamour for hours on a regular basis. Just try to project a more confident version of yourself and you'll be fine. Whilst girls are vein, i think their vanity is more directed towards confidence, unlike us morons who are just attracted to nice looking vagina's.

[ChezPower4]

Originally Posted by holt_bruce81

So my female friend just broke up with her bf and now has asked me twice to hangout with her later on this week.

This could be a good week.

You know what you gotta do

[yourfavestoner]

Originally Posted by TheBuffaloBills

I just started work with a chick that is my age (17) and she is smoking hot. Let me say it again, freaking hot. Third time, really hot. I just want you to know, she's an 11. She is a crazy partier (Her parents have been out of town for the past month. All her friends know where the spare key is, so they're is a party 24/7 at her house, even when she's not there. College kids sleep over at her house and stuff). Her Mom doesn't even care when she smokes pot infront of her.

Now, me on the hand, I'm just an average joe. I'll have the occasional beer, but I'm no crazy partier. I don't do weed (Just a choice).

I really don't know how to handle the situation. She is not a bimbo; she's actually cool to talk to. However, every time I talk to her, I feel like a complete loser. I feel like I am the most uninterseting person on the planet when I talk to her. (Keep in mind, I work at a place that is extremely slow. There is nothing to do, but talk to the person you work with. There's only two people working per shift). I really want to know what to do fast, because I have only worked with her 2 times. I still have a chance to change my personality. (Don't say "Be yourself", because I'm truly not like my true, fun, self when I work with her). It's not that easy to be my true self when working with her. I'm not like this. Every time she asks me a question, my response is "Yeah, or Nah". I can't even elaborate, and I don't know why I can't when I talk to her. But it's tough to be myself because she is so freaking hot. I never thought I could be intimidated by someone's hottness. It's becoming pretty awkward. I just want to stop it before it get's any worse. Please I need some advice.

Hungry puppy has to learn how to front and swagger.

[BaLLiN]

Originally Posted by dabears10

Whatever, everyones an idiot. There is a certain level of sexual maturation you will not achieve until they become active. Education is what is needed for these kids. People are going to get hurt and this is how they will learn the best. Study after study shows that people wish they had waited for their first time. This is more hindsight is 20/20 then actually benefiting from waiting because they are more sexually mature.

well for a guy i dont see why having it earlier than 18 is that bad when the girl is sober and you both actually liked eachother. It felt good, the second time was my disappointment

[MetSox17]

This girl i know keeps texting me and calling me to hang out. Two weeks ago i took her out dancing, and we hung out afterwards for a while. So after that i didn't text or call her for like four days, and in that time she ended up getting back together with her boyfriend. Mind you, at no point do i have any emotional attraction to this girl, she's just a cool, kinda cute girl to kick it with.

So, now that she's back with her boyfriend, she's calling and texting off the hook wanting to hang out. She even wanted to come over to my house at 2 in the morning on Saturday, and was disappointed when i told her no. WTF?

[Brent]

Originally Posted by MetSox17

WTF?

to quote the famous Snoop Dogg, "bitches ain't **** but hoes and tricks"

[MetSox17]

Originally Posted by Brent

to quote the famous Snoop Dogg, "bitches ain't **** but hoes and tricks"

Truer words have never been spoken.

Seriously though, i think she wants my nuts, bad. I'm gonna make her dump her boyfriend, then hit it and quit it. That'll teach her.

[bsaza2358]

Buffalo, girls vary in shape, size, hotness, wetness, taste, smell, intelligence, etc. But you have to come correct when you talk to any of them. Regardless of who they are, you have to show confidence in yourself, or you'll be uninteresting. Obviously, she intimidates you. She's just a girl. She just happens to be super hot. No matter. Get to know her and get her to set you up with her less hot friends.

If you are that intimidated by her and she has college guys over, there's little chance you can hit it. However, there's no reason why you can't be friendly and develop some kind of positive relationship with her.

[bsaza2358]

Metsox, your lady friend likely wants to bang you. Or, she had so much fun dancing, she wants to do it again. If you enjoy her company and can keep it on a level that works for you, go for it.

[awfullyquiet]

[MetSox17]

Originally Posted by MetSox17

So, now that she's back with her boyfriend, she's calling and texting off the hook wanting to hang out. She even wanted to come over to my house at 2 in the morning on Saturday, and was disappointed when i told her no. WTF?

I canceled on her Saturday AND Sunday, and she just texted me a little while ago telling me she was gonna be in the area and wanted to come over. Persistent this little kitty.

[ChezPower4]

Originally Posted by MetSox17

I canceled on her Saturday AND Sunday, and she just texted me a little while ago telling me she was gonna be in the area and wanted to come over. Persistent this little kitty.

Is she ugly?